We have never had any parental rights severed legally only by the ex wife.
He knows he should have just made the child come with him years ago when it started but she told her mom she didn't want to come and my husband didn't want her to hate him and make her come.
Actually we thought that if we didn't kiss her butt and give into her every demand (she was so spoiled and demanding to everyone) that she would just want to come back on her own but then my mother in law decided that she would do our weekend and she took the child to trips out of town ,out to dinner ,shopping etc . so why would she want to come back with us when she was being treated like a queen and at our house she was just another member of the family ,no better no worse.
The ex and daughter live about three miles from our house. If the crops are down we can almost see it from our front lawn.
We live in Ohio and his court orders state that he gets weekend visitations every other week, three weeks in the summer (which she never allowed more then one) and every other holiday ( is that what you meant?)
There is no court order preventing visitation she just decided not to come and her mom said it was that much easier for her since I am so mean to this child. She didn't want to have any rules and here there are plenty. For our kids safety and our sanity they have to have rules.
Last year she contacted me though a message board that I visit and was truly hostile to me calling me nasty names and writing how I was ignoring her like I always did and such and even then she blamed my husband and I for not loving her and being mean to her. It's all our fault that she has to go to therapy... see what I mean about everything being our fault? She wrote the first message board posting saying she was a friend of hers and that she was concerned about her because she had tired to kill herself. This kid is really disturbed and I can't imagine it will get any better while she is living with her mother who is also equally disturbed. We don't know if she has really tired to kill herself or not but it was all because her dad doesn't love her any more. In the end we always get the blame. :(
He knows he should have just made the child come with him years ago when it started but she told her mom she didn't want to come and my husband didn't want her to hate him and make her come.
Actually we thought that if we didn't kiss her butt and give into her every demand (she was so spoiled and demanding to everyone) that she would just want to come back on her own but then my mother in law decided that she would do our weekend and she took the child to trips out of town ,out to dinner ,shopping etc . so why would she want to come back with us when she was being treated like a queen and at our house she was just another member of the family ,no better no worse.
The ex and daughter live about three miles from our house. If the crops are down we can almost see it from our front lawn.
We live in Ohio and his court orders state that he gets weekend visitations every other week, three weeks in the summer (which she never allowed more then one) and every other holiday ( is that what you meant?)
There is no court order preventing visitation she just decided not to come and her mom said it was that much easier for her since I am so mean to this child. She didn't want to have any rules and here there are plenty. For our kids safety and our sanity they have to have rules.
Last year she contacted me though a message board that I visit and was truly hostile to me calling me nasty names and writing how I was ignoring her like I always did and such and even then she blamed my husband and I for not loving her and being mean to her. It's all our fault that she has to go to therapy... see what I mean about everything being our fault? She wrote the first message board posting saying she was a friend of hers and that she was concerned about her because she had tired to kill herself. This kid is really disturbed and I can't imagine it will get any better while she is living with her mother who is also equally disturbed. We don't know if she has really tired to kill herself or not but it was all because her dad doesn't love her any more. In the end we always get the blame. :(