We have always had a strained relationship since we split up because he is a very unstable person. Goes from woman to woman and lives off of them. Has children with them, then moves on to another woman.
When he was in prison, I actually felt a little sorry for him. We talked alot in our letters. He asked me how I felt about him and I honestly told him (it was not pretty, but I was totally honest about how I felt that he has never been a father to our daughter). That's when he promised to be a good father once he got out. I really hoped that he would come through with his promise because our daughter needs her father and she needs to develop a relationship with her siblings. I also thought that ex and I could actually sit down and talk about things such as CS and other issues. My ex got the CS completely stopped when he went to prison. The CS was stopped for two years. I kept telling him my letters, that when he got out of prison, he needed to find a job and help support our daughter. He said that he would because he loves our daughter. I filed to have the CS reinstated when he got out of prison. It took about 1 1/2 months to get a court date. When we went to court, the judge use the state calculator to determine how much the child support was going to be based on both of our salaries (he was working).
The judge asked us both if we agreed with the amount and we both said yes. I thought that things were fine!
The minute that we stepped out of the courtroom he said to me "Did you ever think that maybe if you "asked" for less money, you "might" just get it!!!" I told him that I didn't "ask" for that amount. That's the amount that the Judge came up with based on our income. He told me that his girlfriend has financially supported their two sons for 7 years now and if she could do it by herself, why couldn't I? I told him that it is BOTH of our responsibility to support our daughter and that I have been doing it alone for 14 years now! He called me a nasty name and walked out. I got one CS payment (that was garnished from his paycheck) and that was it. I'm assuming that he is no longer working. It's been two months since we saw that one CS Payment. I would be happy if he would just send something even if it's not the entire payment. A teenager is very expensive (which I tried to explain to him). The homecoming dance was this past weekend. Ended up spending a good amount of money just so our daughter could go because she REALLY wanted to go. I wish that he would just help out!
I was really hoping that since we were able to get along while he was in jail, that our relationship as parents would improve so we could both do what's right for our daughter. I guess he just doesn't care about our daughter.
When he was in prison, I actually felt a little sorry for him. We talked alot in our letters. He asked me how I felt about him and I honestly told him (it was not pretty, but I was totally honest about how I felt that he has never been a father to our daughter). That's when he promised to be a good father once he got out. I really hoped that he would come through with his promise because our daughter needs her father and she needs to develop a relationship with her siblings. I also thought that ex and I could actually sit down and talk about things such as CS and other issues. My ex got the CS completely stopped when he went to prison. The CS was stopped for two years. I kept telling him my letters, that when he got out of prison, he needed to find a job and help support our daughter. He said that he would because he loves our daughter. I filed to have the CS reinstated when he got out of prison. It took about 1 1/2 months to get a court date. When we went to court, the judge use the state calculator to determine how much the child support was going to be based on both of our salaries (he was working).
The judge asked us both if we agreed with the amount and we both said yes. I thought that things were fine!
The minute that we stepped out of the courtroom he said to me "Did you ever think that maybe if you "asked" for less money, you "might" just get it!!!" I told him that I didn't "ask" for that amount. That's the amount that the Judge came up with based on our income. He told me that his girlfriend has financially supported their two sons for 7 years now and if she could do it by herself, why couldn't I? I told him that it is BOTH of our responsibility to support our daughter and that I have been doing it alone for 14 years now! He called me a nasty name and walked out. I got one CS payment (that was garnished from his paycheck) and that was it. I'm assuming that he is no longer working. It's been two months since we saw that one CS Payment. I would be happy if he would just send something even if it's not the entire payment. A teenager is very expensive (which I tried to explain to him). The homecoming dance was this past weekend. Ended up spending a good amount of money just so our daughter could go because she REALLY wanted to go. I wish that he would just help out!
I was really hoping that since we were able to get along while he was in jail, that our relationship as parents would improve so we could both do what's right for our daughter. I guess he just doesn't care about our daughter.