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I'm sure that there could be some VERY good reasons for the Judge to modify the arrears.

As I said before when I asked you what your reasons were, I told you that if you didn't want to disclose them I would understand.   I didn't feel that I could give you an honest "opinion" if I didn't know the reasons.  If you didn't disclose your reasons, I wouldn't have given you an opinion.

I don't understand why you are getting nasty with me.  I don't feel that I have been nasty to you.

I wish you luck in your custody battle and hope that your child gets the life that they deserve.

Good Luck!

I have posted another message to you.  I was just giving you my honest opinion.  I thought that is what you wanted.  

As far as me asking you your reasons for wanting the judge to forgive the arrears, I said in my message that if you didn't want to disclose those reasons, I would understand.  

When you ask for opinions on these boards, you need to give enough information for people to understand the situation and respond.

Yes, I am a CP and yes, my ex is a real creep and doesn't pay his child support, but that doesn't mean that I can't be neutral.   I know MANY NCPs who have gotten screwed by the court system.  I know many who can't make it with what money is left in the paycheck after all of the CS is taken out.  I don't believe that the court system should bleed anyone dry!  I just told you a little about my ex so you could see what my reasons were for my opinion.  Since you ARE paying your child support, I applaud you, but I still don't think that Judge will forgive the arrears based on what you said.

These boards are great and sometimes you get opinions that you don't like, but its because there are so many people on these boards that have been in very different situations, that I like to ask for advice from people here (I mean all of the boards here).  It's interesting to see the opinions of each person.  It doesn't mean that you have to agree, but it gives you some insight into other people's situations.

I sincerely wish you luck with your situation!  Maybe (and again this is just a suggestion) you should think about trying to get custody.

Good Luck!!

I really hope that this guy gets his children away from the ex's abusive BF!

It's been almost three weeks since I sent that letter to my ex trying to get him to visit our daughter and still no response.  His girlfriend just wants DD to disappear from ex's life and I guess he's letting her get her way!!!  His loss!!!!

At least I hope that you are right.  Thanks for pointing that out to me!

on the children.  I worry about my ex's children when the police arrest him in front of his two sons, but I have NO control over that.  If I was ex's girlfriend and the police knocked on my door to arrest him, I would ask them to wait until I can get the children into another room and then let them either come in and arrest him or make him go outside for them to arrest him.  I would do EVERYTHING in my power to make sure that the children do not witness his being arrested.  You KNOW what a jerk my ex is, but I still would never want our daughter to witness him being arrested.  I'm just saying that if there's any way to avoid her being arrested in front of the children, then he should do everything he can to make that happen.  

I sincerely hope that he is able to get his children away from her where they will be safe.

I was referring to someone's suggestion that you have her arrested when she picks up/drops off the kids at school.  I just think that it could be too traumatic for the children.

I totally understand that you want your children out of that element.  I know that you fear for their safety.  I would just have them arrest your ex when she arrives at home AFTER dropping the kids off at school.

Good luck to you and I hope that your children will be safe!

Do you REALLY want your children to witness their mother being arrested?  My ex pays absolutely no child support.  He does not visit with our daughter and he nevers calls her even though we live in the very next town.  Still, I would NEVER want our daughter to witness him being arrested.  No child needs to see EITHER parent being arrested for ANY reason!  Just my opinion!

I would be curious as to what she says.

Just curious.

The point being this particular letter (only).  Don't get me wrong!  I realize that domestic violence affects both men and women.  I think that there is an increasing volume of DV against men by women.  It IS a problem.