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I just made a simple comment.  I, too, live in an income share state.

I don't feel that any of my posts in this thread showed any bitterness at all.  I was just trying to understand what you were saying.  I thought that maybe there was something that I was unaware of.

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if the CP has no income, then the NCP would have to pay a larger amount in CS!  

That doesn't seem to make sense to me.

they say "what goes around comes aroung", so eventually it will catch up with her!

Good luck to you and your family!

First of all, I get VERY little CS from my ex (I didn't get ANY CS for over 2 years and have received a total of $200 so far this year ($125 of that is because he had to come up with it to get out of jail).  I have NEVER taken one dime out of the custodial account sinced it started.  In NJ, the NCP is not required to help pay for college tuition, so hopefully this money will come in handy when she wants to go to college (there's not nearly enough in there to pay for tuition, but hopefully it will help out)!  I only put this money into a custodial account so if there's an emergency (for our daughter), I could get the money to pay for the expenses.  My ex owes our daughter over $30,000 in child support and keeps ignoring his responsibilities.  We don't live an extravagent lifestyle.  We live in a two-bedroom apartment (I can't afford to buy a house).  DD gets what she needs, but she is in no way spoiled.   I just wish that ex would help out a little.  Our DD will be 15 years old in a couple of weeks and he just continues to ignore her.  I recently sent him some medical bills from her eye doctor and he's ignored my request for him to pay his court-ordered portion.  He has NEVER paid ANY of our DD's medical bills.  Not one dime!

I realize that there are CPs like the one in your case who use the CS for frivilous things.  Believe me, that's not the case with me.  I feel bad for you that you are in this situation and can understand your frustrations.

I'm sure that the money was used to help fund the invitro, but it's going to be hard to prove it.  It would make me mad too!

But...if the child is no longer attending daycare, the judge should grant a downward modification.  My daughter will not be attending daycare (summer camp) next year.  The next time we go to court, I will mention that to the judge.  I'm sure that he will be taking me back to court before next year (he seems to think that $68/week is too much to pay for his daughter - if he at least attempted to pay SOMETHING, I would agree to a downward mod, but he makes not attempt to pay ANYTHING), so there's no need for me to ask for a hearing to let them know that she won't be attending daycare anymore.

Good luck to you!!!  I hope that things work out!

to have an ex who does so much for the child.  

My ex has court-ordered supervised visits (but he NEVER visits our DD).
I HAD to get supervised visits because he is an admitted Heroin abuser (luckily he admitted this in court one day because for years I tried everything to prove that he was a drug abuser, but wasn't able to).  Even though he abuses drugs, I want our DD to know her father, he just has to be supervised so he doesn't put her into a dangerous situation.  I also don't want him around her when he is high for obvious reasons.

He just doesn't seem to want to be a Dad (not sure why, because when I told him that I was pregnant 15 years ago, he was VERY happy)!  He rarely pays CS (only when he knows that they are going to arrest him), he's NEVER paid one dime for ANY medical bills, and he doesn't call DD or visit DD!  Tell the BM in your situation that I said that she should thank her lucky stars that her ex is a good father!!!

Good luck to you all!!!

DD and I had a one-bedroom apartment until she was 11 years old.  Then we moved to a two-bedroom apartment.  I truly believe that teenagers need their own room.

Yes, DD uses tons of electricity.  My electric bill was nothing when I lived alone!

Thanks!  I have seen so many stories of ex's who are truly trying to be really good dads, only to have the cp put up roadblocks.  Then there are stories like mine where I do everything that I can to have ex be part of DD's life, only for him to completely ignore her!  It's very sad for all of these children.

Good luck to you!

Rent, utilities and things like that should be included as child care/maintenance.  If I didn't have our daughter, I wouldn't need a 2 bedroom apartment which is much more expensive.  She also uses ALOT more electricity than I would if I lived alone.  Computer, stereo, TV, etc!

Like I said before, I would have NO problem accounting for what I spent the CS on (unfortunately my ex rarely pays any CS).  

I would have NO problem accounting for it!

Unfortunately not every CP feels the same way.