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We live in Alabama.

The BM is well aware of my husband recording conversations.  When he talks to her he lets her know that he is recording the conversation.  I don't think she would admit to anything on paper.  Usually the only way to get her to say anything is over the phone.  I think that if my husband wrote her a letter it would make all of this worse.

Oh he was definitely livid.  But more than that he was hurt and embarrassed that he couldn't even pick up his own children from school.  All that the principal would tell him was that he needed to take up the issue with the children's mother.  They had just come to stay the weekend with us right before this happened!!!

I agree with you totally and told my husband the same thing.  A lawyer advised us to write the mother a nice letter asking her to put him on the check out list and emergency contact list in case something like this happened again.  He said that if she didn't agree to that then he would give her a call.  So my husband called her and ask her to put him on the list and of course she said no.  We haven't told the lawyer yet but we will be contacting him today. I don't think that he should have had to write a letter or call her.  If he takes his papers to the school will they automatically put him on the list or does the BM have to approve it??

My husband's ex is constantly violating the divorce decree.  

For each of my step children's birthdays we are to get all of them from 5:30-7:30.  On my SS birthday the BM took them out of town to visit her mother and family.  She knows that we are to get the children on their birthday.  We tried calling their house for two weeks to let him know that we were coming to pick them up.  We had no idea where they were until they got back which was several days after his birthday.  So not only did my husband not get them on his birthday, he didn't even get to talk to him on his birthday!!!!!!

Also my husband has a designated time that he can call and talk to the children. He always calls during his time because he knows that if he calls outside of his time frame the children won't be able to answer the phone.  He called one night and was talking to his son.  It took him a while to answer.  His son said (we have this recorded) "I had to ask mom if I could answer the phone because sometimes she doesn't let us answer when you call."

Another scenario.......In the papers it states that the BM and the BF are to divide spring break equally.  It says that one parent should have the beginning of the week and the other should have the last part of the week.  My husband called his ex and told her that he wanted to have the children at the end of the week if possible.  She told him (we have this on the recorder) that SHE had already made plans for the children and that he could only get them on Saturday and Sunday.  So of course again he got screwed over.

We have several other things recorded that do not go in accordinance with the divorce papers.  My question is......Is a recorded conversation enough for her to be in contempt?  If not what else would be sufficient?  

Does anyone know what rights a father has on checking his children out of school?

My husband has three children.  Two daughters, one 16 the other 11, and one son who is 7.  He received a phone call from his 16 year old daughter the other day.  She said that her little brother, who is in 1st grade, had swallowed a quarter and was choking on it and throwing up.  So my husband leaves work and rushes up to his school.  When he gets up there he is told that he is not on the emergency contact list and that he cannot check his son or daughter (at the elementary school) out.  They had tried to contact the mother but she goes to college over an hour away and has no cell phone.  There are NO other relatives who live here.  The closest ones are 2 hours away.  My husband does find out that his other DAUGHTER, who is 16 but doesn't have a car, is able to check him out.  What good is that????? She doesn't have a car so what would she be able to do if something happened??????  

Luckily his son finally threw up the quarter and didn't have to be taken to the emergency room.  

My husband's ex didn't put him on the emergency contact list nor the check out list so he can't check his own children out of school.  They have joint custody of the children.  

What are his rights as far as being able to check them out of school?  Does she have complete say so in that matter?