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recently my 5 year old daughter has informed me that she is spending some nights over at her mothers boyfriends house with her mother. (they are engaged to married sometime soon) She even informed me that she slept in the bed with them. I feel this is inapporiate.

As some of you know I have been to hell and back with this woman and I see us going back to court here shortly becase after 4 long years she will supposedly be able to work as a rn and her income will rise alot. I have been trying to get overnights for quite a while.

Now her boyfriend conviently lives next door to her parents house so it makes it virtually impossible to know when who stays where and so forth.

i also have a first right of refusal in my order and on certain nights of the week mother is not there when I drop her off at her parents house. She has some sort of night class. I know I could refuse to drop her off but that is only gonna make the situation worse because I have already dealt with it. She claims to not have access to her boyfriends car that she has driven every day for the last 4 years. Well she can pick up the child when the situation benefits her... I even have video of her picking up the child at my residence.


Help>>>>

Ok here is the situation. I am very nervous about what could happen.

My sister and her boys ages 8 and 6 moved in with me about a month ago. I felt this would help my custody situation due to the fact that I would have someone to help get my daughter off to school while I was at work on 1st shift.

I have not yet filed papers to get back into court regarding getting overnight parenting time throughout the week. I have the child on almost a daily basis. Just not the overnights except every other weekend.

Now everthing has been going fine until last night. My daughter 5 and the youngest 6 were upstairs watching a movie and ACCORDING TO HER MOTHER when I dropped her off my daughter informed her mom that the youngest boy touched her pp. They were not naked. They were FULLY CLOTHED.

Now she did not tell me what had happend.

After I got the call from her mom and she told me she was calling CPS we asked the young boy about it and he said he was playing or whatnot whippin his arms around and I guess touched her on accident. I guess she asked him why he did it and he said it was an accident and he was sorry.

I am freaking out about this... Has anyone went through anyting similar? What can I expect from these CPS people?

I imagine that my shot of overnight parenting time is down the toilet.


HELP PLEASE.

any links or sources of info would be greatly apptreciated.

Ok guys you may remember me.

I got time with my child on nearly a daily basis. I have quoted in my order that I have Secondary physical custody.

Now the mother has fought me tooth and nail regarding overnight parenting time throughout the week. We finalised the order before our daughter was school age and now she is in kintergarden. I was also working 3rd shift at the time and have since moved back to 1st shift to be avaible for overnight parenting time with child. She is accustomed to going back and forth daily to see dad and back to see mom at night.

I want to have our daughter on a 2 week 4 day on 3 day off schedule instead of the daily back and forth. Now the only issue is school and my early morning work schedule. I am out the house at roughly 4am every morning.  Since mom is unemployed for (4 yrs) is is more convient for her to stay with mom instead of me getting a sitter.

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Now i have had my sister recently move in with me with her own school age children who will be going to the same school as my daughter and would be riding the bus with her as well. My sister would be getting all the kids off to school at the same time. To me it makes sense and would work.

Mother would odviousy oppose any arrangement I come up with because she does not want to lose her childsupport.

Anybody ever dealt with anything like this? I have a live in sitter and kids and everbody gets along great...

As some of you might remember my issue with my attorney basically dissapearing on me well here we go again....

So as far as my attorney issue I recieved a call from her the other day.
This is probally 3 or 4 weeks or more since I last left a letter at her office asking for a reply within 10 business days. I also asked for a refund of my pre-paid retainer as well as a itemized bill for all services on my behalf.

Well in short she told me that she lost the key to her mailbox outside her office (which I think is a lie) because the first small letter I left was not in there when I left the second one... It was a small mailbox that you could look into the slot. There was nothing in there. I know she was pregnant also and she mentioned she just got off maternity leave but it just sounds like a sorry excuse to me. She made no mention of the numerous answering machine messages I left her. I truly believe that she knew I was trying to get ahold of her.

she wanted to get back togther again to go over the case to get famililar with it again. She also mentioned calling her lawyer to get some info but I told her to hold off on all that. All I am thinking is she wants to get the rest of the retainer fee as quickly as possible. I dunno what to do about the situation.

This might be a stupid question because I don't think you can change childsupport without going to court first... But here is my issue.

I got my daughter on nearly a daily basis. I have been laid off for basically a month. 2 weeks off and 1/2 week on and 2 weeks off again.. Of course they took the full amount of CS out of my unemployment check which is alot less then I bring home weekly. my question is is their anyway I could possibly work out a temporary fix for my childsupport and unemployment situation because I am not getting enough from that to survive.

I am paid to date on CS and do not want to get behind on that or my bills.

By the time I got to court I would most likely be back to work fulltime and be out a motion fee for even trying to get into court. So that would be pointless.
I am in the auto indrustry so the future is kinda uncertain at this point.
 
The only other option I got is to try and get my daugher for a entire week which abates my CS by 50%.

 Any ideas?

http://www.hillaryclinton.com/issues/family/

This is a link to her site in the family. Send an email and let them know that us fathers need someone to stand up for us.


Among the issues she has fought for and will make a priority as president are:

Attracting and supporting more outstanding teachers and principals, and paying them like the professionals they are.

Reforming the No Child Left Behind Act. This law represented a promise -- more resources for schools in exchange for more accountability -- and that promise has not been kept.

Giving new parents support and training to promote healthy development for their children.

Increasing access to high-quality early education and helping to create Early Head Start.

Passing legislation to provide respite care for caregivers of elderly and disabled Americans.

Helping to pass the Family and Medical Leave Act to enable new parents to take time off without losing their jobs, and expanding it to make it available to more parents and to provide for longer leave.

Advocating for adoption and for abused and neglected children -- as First Lady, Hillary pushed legislation that more than doubled adoptions out of foster care.

Promoting programs, like Home Instruction for Parents of Preschool Youngsters, that provide new parents with support and guidance in caring for their children. As First Lady of Arkansas, she helped bring HIPPY to the U.S.

Protecting children against violence and sexual content in the media and studying the impact of electronic media on children's cognitive, social, and physical development.

Providing meaningful support to households, called "kinship care" families, where grandparents and other relatives are raising children.

I sent you a pm did you get it? if you did reply i have no idea how to check pm messages. I cannot find a folder or a inbox for personal messages.

Ok I hired an attorney last year. 1500 retainer fee. we negotiated 500 down and 100 per month until paid up. after our innitial consult Our first court date was postponed by her due to her mothers car accident that morning, which I understood things happen. Our second court date we was there 20 minutes and was refered to the foc for recomendation. The parenting time lady has taken 4 months to make her decision meanwhile I have been paying. The problem is now the attorney is not returning my calls. I called a week ago and left a message now that I have report. No return call. i have left message with her secetary... no return call.

 I understand people are busy etc. but I think it is a little extreme to not have a call back within 1 week.


From all accounts I hear she is very good in court. Should I fire her and  demand the balance returned. because there is no way I have used up what I have paid her already.