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I had a similar issue. My ex was a registered nurse and claimed she couldn't find a job. I had 2 inch stacks of job openings from monster and other career websites not to mention a family member who is also a registered nurse testify that their are openings in her field as well as open positions at their employer. None of it mattered. I guess I had time to make up dozens and dozens of job openings so I could waste my time coming to court.

Does anyone know if this is possible?

If u have legal custody she will need your approval to remove them from school etc. I would be very proactive in this situation. Much harder for you to fight it after the fact. I went through the same situation. In my case once my ex found out I was getting what I wanted in court she tried moving 90 miles away  to prevent it. We was also in the same city etc.

can we change our profile name on here? Ive tried cant seem to figure out how to do it.

we have issues with a cell phone as well. The first time somehow it got broke and I got blamed for it. The childs entire time with me was spend looking at this phone. so I told child they are not allowed to carry it around. It sits on the counter. if it rings you can answer it. if you want to make a call, ask permission. The funny thing is child and mom act like this phone is so important. Yet anytime I try and reach her on it, she dont answer. So My conclusion to this issue was this.  If this phone is so important to you, why do you never answer it when I call.

We've tried teaching moments. When she is with mom nothing else matters. Case in point we went to holiday thing. Kids could make cards. She made one for mom and not dad. Well she got told to make one for me... lol for my birthday she spend early day at grandmas. My girlfriend said make your dad a card. She dident.

So can I ask you a quick question. Wondering how to go about this situation. Daughter is soon to be 13. Raised by a narcissistic. This child no calls no shows her baby sister birthday. No calls on my birthday in fact don't show much interest in anyone seen birthday on our side of family. Now it's her birthday. Really torn on what to do. Do we throw her a party? I feel like we're rewarding bad behavior. Or do we give her what we get from her. I got a feeling she won't understand the concept were laying out. We always throw her a party but No clue what to do.

I'm currently looking at all my options, from getting a hotel to just driving all weekend...  How do courts typically look at this kind of situation?  I mean it is a required school event, but I also don't feel like I should just have to spend my entire weekend driving back and forth. ( like I said, if it was 20 minutes away it would be one thing. ) I offered to switch with mother and she wanted no part of it. She somehow feels that my 2 days of weekend parenting time is equal to her 5 days of parenting time through the week.

I don't like the idea of mom just saying I dident show up to use my parenting time. But if I have to work there is no way I can physically make it happen. So I dont really know what to do... Years ago when I got moved to 2ns shift I was unavailable for my scheduled parenting time, and when we went to court she said I just quit showing up. However I did sent a letter to the FOC as well as mom stating the change in my schedule etc.

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Child is 12. The part that frustrates me the most is I am happy child is finally getting involved in things etc. Is good for her development  and everything else involved. However I have to make the trip Friday to go get her and that's 180 miles.... Then she has to go back up there saturday morning another 180 miles... Then one more trip on Sunday morning at 180 miles to fulfill all these obligations.  Meanwhile I basically have to ignore the rest of my family and small child to play taxi-cab... And I can't really even plan things to do with family because I am stuck doing all of this. I realize it's not the end of the world, however I do know my limitations and they are being severely stretched at the moment. I'll be driving nearly 600 miles that weekend alone.... How much is too much?

Mother also conveniently refused to switch the weekend with me, so which means if I don't pick her up then I lose that time with the child. so really it's just a lose/lose situation all the way around.

Not to mention, I posted in a previous thread about a program called students of promise that our child got enrolled in. apparently that is only a once a month trip so that's not to bad, but when its added to the rest... Lord help me.

I do understand as kids get older they have more things going on, however it seems like mother has signed child up for nearly everything she can. First thing we share custody joint and legal with mother having primary as she decided to move nearly 90 miles away during the court battle. We came to agreement most likely because of my total lack of faith in the court system, ( but that's another story in itself.)

So I have nearly every weekend with child during the school year. Well the child is now in band and choir and they have all these events scheduled during the weekend. The only problem is I live 90 miles away. Mother is unwilling to switch weekend with me so that leaves me at difficult decisions. Do I just lose out on another weekend with the child? I could always have the Child's stepmother or another family member take child to the event, but that however is not really the point.  I most likely be working so I would not be able to take the child to event anyways. But I would still have the rest of the day to do something with the child. The mother is controlling how and when I spend time with child.

Really don't know how to deal with this.