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hello everyone......

I have been a participant on this site for about 3 or 4 years now i would have to go check my paperwork for an exact date.  

i really think that this site is helping alot of people.  

A huge thank you to the owner and moderators.  

I have noticed that many of the people that have found this site in time to do some damage control have gotten great if not fantastic results.


We now have shared custody and a set visitation .. our support order was finally lowered over 500 a month.  No more alimony (thank God)

I have been seeing that raising awareness and just telling people where to find the resources that they need and pointing them in the right direction has helped numerous people get good results with out spending 10,000 on an attorney.  We unfortunately spent way more than that and got no where to begin with until finding this site.  

the resources are there if you know how to find them and learn how ato use them.

A big God Bless to all of you (SOCRATEASER) too........

Just a thank you for all you do..

rini

hey

great story !!!!!!!!!!

one for the record books for sure

God bless

rini

hi

what state are u in.

sounds to me as though she was recieving welfare services and is now no longer getting them ..  the payments until date of notice were probably reimbursing them for payments they made to her.  

this is just an educated guess.  i was going to look up the statutes but i am not sure if you are in CA or FL i am guessing CA

i know socrateaser can answer this one no problem though if you post on his board

rini

hello
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if she does not provide a brief then there is nothing to defend against the previous ruling stands and the case is dismissed.

i have not recieved any documents from you yet/

rini

hi

in my opinion your brother can not afford NOT TO APPEAL.

to have income imputed you have to prove that he is deliberately not working.  now if this is the case then the judge is with in his rights in ordering this.  but if he lost his job was on unemployment and just has not found one yet  IMO he should be waiting tables if he can find no other work but i understand the economy is bad.

if he does not appeal and get off his but and find out how to prepare the appeal himself he will loose big time and eventually end up in jail for failure to pay.

my advice try and find a local ncfc national congress for fathers and children to my knowledge there is a branch in every state.  

go to the county office and see if some one there will help you prepare the appeal

rini

hi

mediation has set in writing that you are to try to come to an agreement

if neither party makes an effort then you are both at fault.

i hear you about the bm being a leach!!!  been there done that....



does your state impute income (what state are u in)

rini

hello

it is always better to make an effort to negotiate in the courts eyes

send your financial info and give her 7 days to respond in kind..

if she does not provide you with her stuff then file for a hearing date

if you have some idea of what she makes and i mean with in 1000 a year then i can help you come up with an offer if you would like but if you are in the dark as to her income i suggest that you get her info before you proceed.  i would need the state info and any other relevant information to help .



rini

dear wally

to answer your question i would need to ask how your percentages work out..

to prove eligibility to claim a child you must be able to show that you provide more than 50% of that childs support..  

let me explain a little further with some numbers

lets say you make 35,000 a year your net is 2500 a month mom makes 18,000 a year her net is 1400 a month.  mom has 2 children one that you pay support for in the amount of 560 a month.  

now your support payment equals an amount of her income divided by 3

1400 a month / 3 = 466.6   so that means that your support payment would mean that you provide more support for that child than she could possibly pay ....

following me hear........


so logically you can claim the right to the deduction every year and then settle for every other year.  

any questions i believe you still have my email

rini

hi kid

yes you are given a reasonable time to defend before the hearing

any thing submitted with in a few days of a hearing does not provide reasonable time to defend and would certainly be clear cut reason for a continuance.

if the judge makes you proceed and you will have my home phone on your email immediately you have recourse under pa law and it is also a reason for a hearing in front of another judge ect ect...

called abuse of discretion..........

judges have to follow rules of procedure too.  doesnt mean they do but being aware of your rights before you walk in to the court room will certainly make your own case stronger.

not a paralegal just got tired of being beat by the system so now i put a point score on the board for every modification i help with in PA that lessons what PA collects in the federal match..........  i have helped with approximately 16 modifications in just the past year..  i have an average of over 325$$ in lower modifications..  just so you know i have also helped with support increases when i feel that they are merited

i dont discriminate with my volunteer services ..  i just wish i could do more..  

someday the laws will change and maybe i will have a hand in that one can only hope..  

i do have a good bit of my mom and dad in me and they were both hard heads descended from a long line of hard heads LOLOLOL>>>>>>

i dont give up easy as our own PBFH found out when i served her butt with an over 100 page summons thanks to socrateaser and this site..

i only post in the child support forum on this site mostly  now after i got blasted on the fathers board for discussing a situation that arrised as me being a custodial parent..  i think you might have been around for that one..  I have bent over backwards for my ex husband but unfortunately someone misunderstood part of my post and really upset me..  so i really dont post anything personal on this site any more..  i have unfortunately seen that happen here more than once..  

i used to be in chat here 4 or 5 times a week ..  i guess with most of our problems being resolved to some extent i just prefer to help others with what i have found out having to research pa and federal law for 7 years..

there is a post on the Sparc comment board ( letters) that i wrote that explains our heart wrenching situation that brought us here if you get a minute read it.  then you will realize why i spend so much time helping others.

it is tough being on both sides of the fence you dont really belong any where...  and there is no where to really vent if something happens without fearing someone ripping you a new ((**&& for calling a spade a spade.  

I will help you any way i can and i will email you my home phone so that you can contact me if you have a panic attack over something.

my own dh accused me of being obsessed for years with our situation
i was angry and could not believe that he would do nothing about the situation.  i dwelled on it an finally decided to get of my ass and do something about it myself..  we hardly ever fight about it any more.  not never just hardly ever.

lol  

if you need anything dont hesitate to ask even if it is just to talk for a little while.  none of my friends understood what i was going through and this site saved my sanity and provided me with some of the research tools that i used to get a custody order and to get our child support lowered from 1200 a month to 680  .... big difference huh..

to tell you the truth i could have had it lowered another 100 a month even 150 but i figured that i could live with this and allowed the hearing to move on.. and just wanted closure..  now she is scared shitless of entering a court room with me because she knows i have the knowledge to beat any attorney she can find.  i dont know shit about any thing other than family law but i can kick her attornies butt every time if i know i am in the right.   God bless

rini

hi
copy to me what ever she sends..

if she does not provide you with a brief before the hearing then you will object to the presentation of one at the hearing without leave to defend and ask that a continuance immediately granted.

dont sweat it

:)::::::)))))
rini