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I have a question for a co-worker. He said a few years ago he made the mistake he will regret forever. His ex got re-married and his Biological daughter (age 9 or 10 then) wanted to be part of the family of her mothers new husband so bad that she asked her dad if he would let them adopt her so she could "share" the same last name and fit-in better.

The father gave it some thought, and spoke with the mother in depth and they agreed that it would not change the father daughter relationship, it was only a formality for the daughter to feel part of her new family.

The father agreed, and signed adoption papers. Two weeks after the mother refused to allow the daughter and father to visit together, nor speak on the phone. Mother then twisted the story and told bio-daughter the father didn't want her and gave up on her. (PAS)

Questions?

1- Does the biological father have any rights at all?
2- Can the daughter choose to see him (on her own will) as she grows older?. If so at what age would that be? (she is 13 now.)
3- Can the bio-father reverse his decision for the adoption?
4- Is there anything he can do to see her?

We have a lot of gray areas in the parenting plan we currently have.  Much of it causes conflict because BM jumps all over those gray areas. But we have been putting up with it, to avoid extra conflict.

1.) If there are lots of problems with a parenting plan, can one party file a motion to clarify parts of the order?

2.) Will that give the other parent free reign to change the whole order.

3.) Is there a way other then filing a motion, to change (or amend) one section of the order but not have the entire thing re-hassed?

4.) Should we leave well enough alone?

We had a rental house with a family of renters (con artists) that did not pay rent. The mother had 3 small kids, she had all the utilities put in their names. They were children, and clueless. She never paid the bills.

We only know this because the bills continued to come to the house after we evicted them.

God only knows how badly this woman destroyed her own childrens credit before they even are aware of what credit even is.

We had a rental house with a family of renters (con artists) that did not pay rent. The mother had 3 small kids, she had all the utilities put in their names. They were children, and clueless. She never paid the bills.

We only know this because the bills continued to come to the house after we evicted them.

God only knows how badly this woman destroyed her own childrens credit before they even are aware of what credit even is.

We have a 3 hour visit on the Wednesdays of our "off" week. However lately the BM has been sending homework with SD with strick instructions to have it complete before returning home.

It leaves no visiting time because she is buried in her homework. Last night she pretended to use the bathroom nearly the whole visit, when I checked on her she was calculating her math problems on the pot. :-)

(She was scared to go home without having it done)

We were under the assumption that the non-possessory parent is entitled to vistation time, and possessory parent should be responsible for homework. Afterall she has 2 hours before our visit to complete homework.

Is there any "golden rule" about where homework is to be completed? It's not written in our plan, nor did we ever think ahead on that one.

Can you request extra time in summers, to make up for the school year. Thus giving them a consistnet environment for school, but more time with you for summers.

Will your ex work with you on any of this, or will it get ugly.

He asked for additional $500 for the copy of the depo. We had already sunk in $800 for the questioning so, we didn't opt to get a copy. Didn't seem there was anything crucial in it, and it was the ex that requested the depo in first place.

The lawyer that ran the law firm was shady but the lawyer that worked for him (and was appointed to our case) was a nice and good attorney. What can you do.... :-)

We had a deposition done and asked our attorney for a copy, and he said we had to purchase a copy for a fee. We had spent over $800 for the depositon to be done. (Hourly rate of our attorney's time)


1. Is it typical for attoney's to charge the client extra to see (have a copy) the depositon? Or is our attoney playing us?

Dumb questions.

We have no attorney. DH ex (BM) has threatened to file contempt on DH, by sending a letter via her attorney stating intent to file. We did not respond, as we do not feel we are in contempt and did not want to get bullied by her attorney. We have received nothing regarding this issue since the threat letter.

BM has been saying that it was mandated in court and we are now in violation of court order. We contacted the court house to see if anything had been filed or heard, and they had no record of anything since 1999.

1.) How would we potentially know if something was filed if we have no attorney to present us with the info?

2.) Is it the courts obligation to notify us of a hearing or her attoney?

3.) Could a court date (hearing) have come and gone without us know about it?

Really appreciate your input. :-)