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Well, we are not legal professionals here -- only parents who have also been divorced and sometimes have gone through similar situations.

You kinda switch from PRO SE and "ME" to a we....

Sometimes the "answer" to discovery can be summed up in one word.  "DENIED"....or "Not Relevant" which might buy you some time. 

Yes, you need to always send a notarized copy to her attorney and the court.

Search this site on key words and Texas....but not in the Texas forum spot because that's not used much... I believe there are others here in Texas. 

You might also want to see if there's a university near you with a Law School that has a program where students help folks like you under a supervised program.  West Virginia University has that for example.

Glad this old post is still helpful to someone today.

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OK, On the dental issue.....I think you responded poorly.

You explain yourself too much.  The answer should have been "noted".

Then you do exactly what you said.....check it out yourself, either take the child to the appointment on your time, or reschedule at your convenience.

Maybe that was the ONLY appointment Mom could get?  See....that's what she will say in court. 

My son once fell and had to get stitches.....and they needed to be taken out on a certain day after they were put in.  Let's say that was Day 5 to be taken out on Day 5 and that our son had an appointment on that day at WHENEVER to have them removed.  Dad got pissed because HE can handle making appointments himself.  See.....dad focused on CONTROL during HIS time.  Whereas I focused on our son -- knowing that by the time dad would call all appointments for routine stuff would be booked -- afterall, I used the same pediatrician for all three kids and dad had no clue how far out appointments were made from the day of the phone call.  The point is to focus on the child....if Dad couldn't make it at WHENEVER, then by all means, cancel and figure something out.  But if something can't be figured out, dang it, I got an appointment for our son already set.

I think I've said this before -- watch the control factors and focus on the child.  Don't argue unnecessarily - in my case dad looked like the fool (and you're on the receiving end of similar information on the dental issue -- so yep, you know what I'm thinking).

Make your own call, and choices, move on and inform mom at the next exchange.

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Hello Newbie~!

There's quite the history behind this story.....search on her name and be prepared to spend lots of time reading.

Best wishes....and so sad to hear about your son and his choices.

Protect that grand child!

Nope -- don't have a clue if you need to answer a motion to quash.  I'd be all over Google.

Remember this.....you can't change him (or SM) or control him, or nothing.

The order controls your relationship and interaction with him (and SM).

You can control what you do -- so do what you feel comfortable with and keep doing what you do so that you can look in the mirror and KNOW that you did right by your child. 

When you filter your thoughts to "What's good for the child?"  Excluding the other side is hardly ever the answer.

So the nitpick....is that child focused or you focused?  Whatever.....ya know?

I think that it really depends on the relationship you have with the other parent.

My EX#2 used extracurricular activities to reduce my time with our son......and you can guess that didn't sit well with me.  he couldn't understand the "child focused" concept....  Our son raced BMX and I was "forbidden" to come and see him type of thing.  Never gave me scouts information.

SO...I did what I could do but also as the NCM, I should be able to do things I wanted to with our son .... I wanted to me Mom during our time.

Add to my situation, I was 12 hours away.....so even if it meant a scout activity, I had to plan to make it happen because I had to other kids here.

So it's a careful balance.

My middle daughter is a stepmom.....and she really gets along with the Mom.  Why?  because they focus on whats good for the child.....and don't EXCLUDE each other.  Heck Bio-Mom came over to middle daughter's (she's stepmom) home for stepmom's child's birthday.....  I know all confusing....but these two mom's get along because they focus on the child and understand that the marriage that produced the child is over.

I agree -- and you'll find that many non-custodials will get mad when the other side moves in "rent free" with a parent or something like that too.  It's not only boyfriends/girlfriends that cause "problems" like you're predicting, but any situation where one side is perceived (and it's true) is getting financial assistance, and the other side doesn't catch a break.