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 We are IN VA. There is no court order, as we have always chosen to get along.(no relationship case)

 Our daughter is getting ready to start school. He wants her to go to school from his addy. ( I  can agree due to driving issues unrelated)I have always claimed her on taxes( until starting 2005 because of his income, agreed)

 He was told by the school that we need an order, and I am leary., that we have joint custody but him physical custody, so she can go to school from his house.  WE have agreed to 50/50 across the board( meaning legal and physical He was told by the school that he MIGHT should have physical with me liberal visitation) That we should do this because we have different last names.(?) I do NOT agree to give him sole Phys custody.

As we are GOING TO THE SCHOOL TOGETHER to register her, as a "team"

 We live in the same county, but She'd go to a different school from here.

1. If we live in the same county(so we aren't trying to get her in this system from an outside county)  and we can BOTH prove residence,  then   DO we need any order?

2. IF we SHOULD have an order, then is it feasible to have joint physical /legal and different schools, but same (small) county?


3. If #2 is yes, How  should we go about enrolling her from his addy with my consent?

THAT shall be a HUGE help!

You two are great! I'm guessing that this is the case to give me opportunity ( making it my responsibility) to be involved. I guess, if there were some reaosn I shouldn't be allowed, then there'd be an order as such ( and there isnt as there is no reason)

Does this law apply regardless of  the joint/sole custody situation???? ( he has sole)  

HE lives in the same county as you do ( according to your profile) lol

Oh, the parent teacher thing, yeah I know about that, and I am basically okay with it. As I can  tell that by comments made on his report card, for the most part.  I will use that idea of yours, about the P/T conference.  


If Ex is alone,  We communicate better, so that may help some it getting him  to agree.

I can deal with him makinf decisions, I just want to be informed.

 My son does want to be here. He is begging to come home. But, the story is quite long and complicated. But you HAVE helped me, and I hope I can make some good decisions based on his needs.

Custody to Natural Father. Mother EOW visitation(times) Alternating Easter and Thanksgiving(times for Thanksgiving) and Christmas Dec26-Jan 2@ 2pm.30 days summer w/ 30 days advance notice. Respective Mothers/Fathers daysand I get  to phone 7pm wednesday night

It also states that in accordance with VA code 20-124.6 that I will not be denied acdemic, medical,hospital or other health records, unless otehrwise provided.

Now, thats some abreviation( times and such)

 My biggest issue is that since I am denied additional time and** at least **( thus far, and its been 7 months)  1 of my wed. night calls each month, I JUST want to see him  when I can.  I'm not really trying to change things, because they are the way they are( for now) but it's difficult for us both being apart. Other issues I have already attempted to "mediate" with the Cp, to no avail, so I am leary of even asking ( and yes, I document)

1. Any advice on what I may do? Suggestions for helping me,  remain close to my child?

2. Would it be prudent to make some formal request in court?

My apologies for  me being a jerk. Please accept them

 I do not have any weekday visitation  nor statements involving school activities. My interests are more to make the MOST of life without him here. But to be as nice and fair to all ( and I see his lunchtime as taking from no one)

  1. So, basicially,  unless it is my time to be with him( weekends or summer /holiday vacation), I can know NOTHING? So, I CANNOT go have lunch with him a school?

  I am a NCP( mom) in VA, who was royally cheated by the judicial system all over MONEY. And sadly, I cannot afford a lawyer

 My EX has **sole custody** of our son, who is begging to come back here after only 6 months. Ex tells BS that I cannot have simple things like haircuts done, or taking him to visit my family in the next state( which is only and hour and 15 minutes away).That I am NOT allowed to know his doctors names, I cannot go to school functions...ect Now, I know I cannot make decisions on these things, but I am wanting to do all I can to SEE my child, since EX refuses additional time( for example, having lunch with him. Small to some, but BIG to me)

!. What are the rules on out of state travel? Must I merely notify him,ask him, or does it matter as long as it is on my time?

2. How do I handle things such as seeing him at school, ect. WHAT are my rights there?What do I need to do when I arrive at the school?

 I honestly have no desire to hurt my child and am not into playing games.

I have a question.

 Was school out the next day? If the weather was in fact as treacherous as you state, and it was evening time.... then you would've already known that the schools were closed. My guess is you live in NoVa, and I *know* VA  posts these things on the news right away.

 My point is, that the argument about missing school isn't valid if the weather was already so bad. In VA, kids don't go to school when there are even a few flakes on the ground.

Now, unfortunately, I do see this as a control issue  for BOTH of you.

You know, in your shoes, I'd encourage your son to talk to a neutral 3rd party. A school counselor maybe. Reason being, it's someone ELSE that can help him, support him.  If you have a documented, founded abuse history, that in itself would be enough to warrent concern. If you dont, be careful of what you  say and to whom