We took to have dinner with some friends that have a daughter around the same age. We had a really good time but conversation haulted when SD said a couple of things.
1. We were talking about dangerous neighborhoods (where I went to college) and SD said "I live in the ghetto in FL". Not defensively but obviously ashamed. Made me so mad that BM chooses to let her experience that shame.
2. SD called BM that morning and BM told her that her pet was dying. She had finally brought it to the vet after months of seizures. Originally BM said that the pet was sick because SD was away with us not because he might have cancer. Anyway, SD said "everytime I visit my dad my pets get sick". I wanted to say something so bad. Our friends gave us looks of understanding. Maybe I will try to fit in conversation that the pets are sick already when she comes but don't make it to the vet for diagnosis until after she is here.
Just a little vent. Thanks
1. We were talking about dangerous neighborhoods (where I went to college) and SD said "I live in the ghetto in FL". Not defensively but obviously ashamed. Made me so mad that BM chooses to let her experience that shame.
2. SD called BM that morning and BM told her that her pet was dying. She had finally brought it to the vet after months of seizures. Originally BM said that the pet was sick because SD was away with us not because he might have cancer. Anyway, SD said "everytime I visit my dad my pets get sick". I wanted to say something so bad. Our friends gave us looks of understanding. Maybe I will try to fit in conversation that the pets are sick already when she comes but don't make it to the vet for diagnosis until after she is here.
Just a little vent. Thanks