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My husband and I have custody of our grandchild.  The mother has every other weekend and a few hours each Wednesday visitation.  The GAL put in court order no new boyfriends to be introduced to child until 6 months continuous dating.  The mother began dating a man January 30th, the date I am sure of.


She quickly basically moved in with him and on weekends went back to her mother's home to see child. But she exposed child to video chat with him.  Today I told her we would like to meet him mid July before child does.  She informed me that she will be introducing them next week, claiming to have dated since November.


He is willing to lie with her.  I have told them we will be in court as they are breaking a court order .  I believe I have proof of when they began dating.She refuses to as much as show me a pic of them together in the fall.  I have told her to give me proof and I will let it go.


I know she is lying and this is why it was put into order. She cannot stay away from a man.  She is willing to risk contempt so that she can be with him all the time.


Thing is...we just got an order signed in January after a long battle and wait for judges decision. I don't want to make the judge angry but they are breaking court order.


What do you think?

After 12 days in the hospital, the mom was discharged without leg surgery.  She said her white blood count was a little too high.

Thank you!  Hoping her mom will do the driving for exchanges. 

Have a question:  My grandchild's mom is in the hospital and going to have knee surgery tomorrow on the right leg.  The last time she had knee surgery was on the left leg and she was unable to walk for 4 weeks.  Not sure if this surgery is the exact same, she just said when she had surgery on the left they had told her she would eventually need it on the right as well.   


I am a little concerned that mom will try to drive to exchanges before she is cleared to do so.  Is it okay to request that she show us a letter from doctor or at the very least the section of her discharge papers that state when it is okay to drive again?


(The reason I am concerned is past medical records revealed that there were times she was to be on crutches/wearing knee immobilizer and not driving - but she never came to exchanges on any of that and would be driving during those times.)

Mixed bag, I know we are not finished.  I am expecting either a summons shortly or once my husband has transplant surgery. 


Our hearing was in circuit court.  I know the judge was not happy that after she took 9 weeks to rule it took another 5 to get an order.  To me, there should have been no negotiations.


In my opinion, their attorney could not believe she lost as this judge has been known to be pro-mom.   Her closing argument held lies, accusations from 40 years ago, and nothing substantial.  In fact, that is her tactic in court as well. 


Our attorney did not let us know of anything going on during this process.    I don't know why a judge who gave us custodybwould remand to a lower court. 


Our lawyer did say that our order will carry much weight in any future hearings and she does not see it ever changing.

Thank you Ocean.  I respect your opinion.  My husband has been telling me the same - in his own way.  It is time to simply live now - as if there is no threat of court.  Simply enjoy being a family. 


My lawyer did email me this afternoon - it has left me with another question.  She stated that the judge had remanded the case back to J&D court, but that is concluded now and we have the final order.  She said this order will carry much weight in any future hearings as long as we continue to work on including all family members.  While I want to know what the remand was about, I do feel this evening as a weight has been lifted and we are moving forward now. 

We just got a final order.   The mothers attorney signed with a statement that she objected as the points in this case do not merit special factors, there is not a rebuttal of parental presumption, and not in best interest of child.


What does this mean?  Should we expect she is appealing to Supreme court or paving the way to file in J&D?   No need in calling our attorney.  She doesn't reply and agreed to stuff that we were not even informed about.


We won, but I feel like I am walking on egg shells.  I cannot afford an attorney and frankly, do not trust any.

The recommendation of judge is at least every other weekend for mom and one afternoon per week - that afternoon is to be their responsibility for transportation.   Also they will get two weeks in the summer.  I am sure they will either appeal to Supreme court or file a new motion in Juvenile and Domestic court.  I don't feel we can breathe easy yet....


Mom and grandma change to meet whatever is a negative against them but they usually go to another destructive behavior.  The only thing is they are getting much wiser on how to hide stuff.

Ocean, we will now have primary physical custody.   They will have visitation and joint legal.  Our son will only see child at our discretion and under our supervision.  Which, we have did that ourselves for two years.


This judge did not feel current joint custody rebutted mother's parental presumption but that the extreme issues of her own care and that of child warranted the rebuttal and a change was in the best interest of child.

Ruling today:  we have primary custody effective after New Year's.