Thank you for your replies, they have helped.
DH did get a call from ss today. The mother wasnt nearby as she has been in the past month (listening to every word). SS told dh that she had already told him that he wasnt coming this weekend because she wasnt bringing him as it was calling for bad weather -and that he wasnt coming next weekend, because she has plans - but wont tell him what they are. This is probably true because she worked last night - so there was no way she could have brought ss even though it was her weekend.
SS knew dh was willing to pick him up - which is why he waited to call late. The mother manages a toy store. She also got a second job as a waitress which we are not supposed to know about. Tonight and tomorrow night SS is supposed to stay at the toy store while she works as a waitress. Her 'shift leader' has promised SS a CD for each night if he helps him at the store. So, SS has been promised gifts. And its very suspicious that the people who babysit for her become shift leaders.........this guy is about 20 and has only worked at the store a little over a month. Thing is - she has a lesbian couple that keeps him. Now, I have two daughters who are now his sisters.....so, she told ss that the couple is like his sisters and has him call them that. They buy him name brand gifts all the time. Then the guy - he just started taking care of ss after oss got a home here. She has now substituted oss in ss' life as well.
I am worried about what she is up to - and oss is too. She was calling OSS constantly trying to bribe him to move there - but once she found out he wouldnt, she dropped all contact. She has been calling his ex-gf trying to dig up dirt.
Believe me, she would destroy her sons if it serves her purpose. SS is her key to punishing dh and trying to make him miserable. She has no dirt on us, so again she will make up and try to twist ss.............
Frankly, I think if we had a good lawyer we could bury her......but, this lawyer has waited for the last minute to do anything and now its too late. Bad weather kept teachers out of school......she cant get verification about the emails we have received.......She wants a continuance but we dont feel we can afford one with BM twisting ss.....
DH does not want to pursue custody if ss says he wants to live with bm.
That was his reason for trying to get custody - ss wanted to live here. I am afraid if he doesnt, then it wont be long before ss stops coming at all. I looked up some articles on PA(s) and it appears our marriage was a trigger as she has no one in her life for long. She already controlled everything, but dh remarrying made her go into overdrive to hurt him. I almost feel guilty for marrying him - its as if he lost his son in order to have me....................
DH did get a call from ss today. The mother wasnt nearby as she has been in the past month (listening to every word). SS told dh that she had already told him that he wasnt coming this weekend because she wasnt bringing him as it was calling for bad weather -and that he wasnt coming next weekend, because she has plans - but wont tell him what they are. This is probably true because she worked last night - so there was no way she could have brought ss even though it was her weekend.
SS knew dh was willing to pick him up - which is why he waited to call late. The mother manages a toy store. She also got a second job as a waitress which we are not supposed to know about. Tonight and tomorrow night SS is supposed to stay at the toy store while she works as a waitress. Her 'shift leader' has promised SS a CD for each night if he helps him at the store. So, SS has been promised gifts. And its very suspicious that the people who babysit for her become shift leaders.........this guy is about 20 and has only worked at the store a little over a month. Thing is - she has a lesbian couple that keeps him. Now, I have two daughters who are now his sisters.....so, she told ss that the couple is like his sisters and has him call them that. They buy him name brand gifts all the time. Then the guy - he just started taking care of ss after oss got a home here. She has now substituted oss in ss' life as well.
I am worried about what she is up to - and oss is too. She was calling OSS constantly trying to bribe him to move there - but once she found out he wouldnt, she dropped all contact. She has been calling his ex-gf trying to dig up dirt.
Believe me, she would destroy her sons if it serves her purpose. SS is her key to punishing dh and trying to make him miserable. She has no dirt on us, so again she will make up and try to twist ss.............
Frankly, I think if we had a good lawyer we could bury her......but, this lawyer has waited for the last minute to do anything and now its too late. Bad weather kept teachers out of school......she cant get verification about the emails we have received.......She wants a continuance but we dont feel we can afford one with BM twisting ss.....
DH does not want to pursue custody if ss says he wants to live with bm.
That was his reason for trying to get custody - ss wanted to live here. I am afraid if he doesnt, then it wont be long before ss stops coming at all. I looked up some articles on PA(s) and it appears our marriage was a trigger as she has no one in her life for long. She already controlled everything, but dh remarrying made her go into overdrive to hurt him. I almost feel guilty for marrying him - its as if he lost his son in order to have me....................