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Dear Socrateaser / Thanks
« on: Apr 19, 2004, 08:54:22 AM »
I appreciate your help

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Dear Socrateaser / How do I go about....
« on: Dec 03, 2003, 03:59:59 PM »
 We feel the judge in our case is very biased towards mothers we have 2 court orders showing she has gone against the GAL's in the case ( 3 different ones by her request all saying the same things) and the children's counselor.

There are several fathers in our area who report the same with this judge.

1. can we get another judge assigned ?

2. How do we go about doing it if it is even possible?

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General Issues / something important please read
« on: Jan 25, 2005, 09:19:00 AM »
Breast Cancer Hospitalization Bill - Important

legislation for all women.

Please send this to everyone in your address book. If
there was ever a time when our voices and choices
should be heard, this is one of those times. If you
are receiving this it's because I think you will take
the 30 seconds to go and vote on this issue...and send
it on to others you know who will do the same.

There's a bill called the Breast Cancer Patient
Protection Act which will require insurance companies
to cover a minimum 48-hour hospital stay

 for patients undergoing a mastectomy.

It's about eliminating the "drive-through mastectomy"

 where women are forced to go home

 hours after surgery against the wishes of their doctor,

still groggy from anesthesia

and sometimes with drainage tubes still attached.

Lifetime Television has put this bill on their web
page with a petition drive to show your support. Last
year over half the House signed on.
PLEASE!!!! Sign the petition by clicking on the web
site below. You need not give more than your name and
zip code number.



 This takes about 2 seconds. PLEASE PASS THIS ON to your friends and family.
THANKS

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Second Families / stepmoms....
« on: Apr 21, 2004, 02:20:51 PM »
I found this post on another parenting site called Parenting Planet.  I don't know who wrote it, where it came from, or when it was written



Stepmoms try harder.  Don't get me wrong - Moms have a very hard job, but stepmoms try harder.  They have to.  Moms have built-in respect - they can say "Because I'm the MOM, that's why!"  Try getting respect by saying "Because I'm the STEPMOM, that's why!"  Just doesn't have the same ring to it, you know what I mean?  (I won't even get into "Because I am one of the adult parental figures in this household, that's why!" - just rest assured, even before they roll their eyes at you, you'll feel pretty darn silly.)  Moms can say "No matter what you think, Young Man, you ain't too big for a whupping yet."  What can we say that equals that?  "Young Man, six hours from now, when your dad gets home from work, I'll be telling him you ain't too big for a whupping?"  Nice try, but no cigar - just doesn't carry the same effect.  
 
Stepmoms try harder.  How many of you remember being young - high school/college age - sitting around with your girlfriends, talking about the kids you'd have one day?  How many of you ever said "Boy, I just can't wait until the day when I get married to a man with kids and an ex-wife that hates my guts simply because I breathe air and I have to deal with her every other weekend?"  If you're like me, that never came up in those late night girl chats!  But we've all opened our hearts to our stepkids, even though half of their chromosones came from a women that at best we tolerate, and at worst we hate.  We see things in these kids that remind us of their mothers - sometimes even remind us of why we dislike their mothers - yet we still keep loving them, looking out for them, giving them chances.  Stepmoms have pretty big hearts.
 
Stepmoms try harder.  When things are going good, and everyone is happy, the biological parents get the credit.  Ever spent an hour at Wal-Mart analyzing all the eyeshadow options so that you can pick out exactly the right shade for your stepdaughter to wear with her new blouse on her date Friday night, only to hear, "Dad, you are so cool!  This is perfect!"  When things aren't so great, we get the blame.  "Dad wasn't this mean until you moved in!" - that's something a biological mother will never have to hear. The bond between a child and a parent is one of the strongest on earth - stepmoms with biological kids know this, and those without understand it also.  Oftentimes we willingly assume the scapegoat role, for the sake of our stepkids, so that they can grow up believing that their parents are good people and good parents.  We're not out to score points - the game is rigged and we know it - the bio parents won before we even entered the round.  We do this because we are good people, because we know in our hearts that applause and compliments are fleeting - we've found it in our hearts to put our stepkids' well-being before our own.  We like to see them happy, and don't care that much who gets the credit - as long as they are happy.
 
Stepmoms try harder.  We know that we have no legal or biological ties to our stepkids.  We know the world we live in - we know about no-fault divorce laws.  We know that one day we may not be part of our stepkids' lives, yet we still go out there every day and give it our best, with no guarantee for what the future will hold.  We forge relationships that we know can be severed at any time, and we all know we have no power to hold on to these children if our marriages to their fathers do not work.  Moms don't have to worry about that - it takes an active decision to stop legally being a mother - stepmoms don't have that option - our partners have control over that - we only have a passive role in the legal system when it comes to contact with our stepkids after divorce.  Yet we don't hold back - we love these kids as if they were are own - we love them and give them a place in our hearts that they can call their own forever - even though we know that might not be the case.
 
Being a stepmom sucks!  There's little or no payoff, it's the opposite of all our plans, there is no guarantee of success, it's a constant struggle to earn respect and love at the same time - why would anyone choose this path?  It makes no sense to me.  Yet we're all here making the effort, and we'll be back again tomorrow doing just the same.  Our circumstances are all different - some of us have harder roads to travel than others do - but we're all making the same journey.  I don't know how I do it some days - and trust me, I have it so much easier than most of you - and still, being a stepmom is the hardest task I have ever undertaken - if I want to give up at times, I can just imagine what some of you must feel, even on your good days!  
 
Take a moment to pat yourselves on the back, Ladies - being a stepmom is a tough job - I don't see anyone volunteering for it as their first choice, do you?  We fill a very important role - and we do it well!  

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Visitation Issues / can anyone help me?
« on: Jul 13, 2005, 02:35:25 PM »
I cannot remember for the life of me where to find the articles on sending a journal back and forth in high conflict situations...can you all help me out?

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Visitation Issues / need help finding info
« on: Jun 27, 2004, 11:37:37 AM »
OK We have custody mom has visitation, Dad works so judge has obligated me to transport children to halfway which I was ok with but she is always late 45min to 1 hour and it is strongly affecting my ex's visits with his kids SO...

My ex and I discussed it and he said that although I am legally obligated to make them available and he understands that our children should not play a factor .. but by obligating me he feels our children should become a factor since it is affecting our kids as well...

He suggested asking that she start picking up again at house and that he do the same .. but I cannot find anything that will help in presenting this to judge on Monday any thoughts would be helpful.

PS I am in Virginia

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Custody Issues / help
« on: Jul 22, 2005, 07:32:49 AM »
explain what this means:

" Father shall have primary physical custody with Mother enjoying supervised visitation with no overnights as follows:"

is this joint custody?

Mom says yes...

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Custody Issues / Aussie...anything yet?
« on: Oct 31, 2004, 06:51:11 AM »
Still praying for you and your daughter , and hoping all is working out, This seems like so long to wait, here its 5 buisness days ..I can only imagine how hard the waiting must be.

*hugs*
Skye

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Custody Issues / Aussie
« on: Oct 07, 2004, 02:18:18 PM »
Any news at all yet? still praying for you and your daughter

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Father's Issues / technical issue..admin please
« on: Nov 27, 2005, 05:18:14 AM »
I am trying to downlaod tyhe 4 phase parenting plan but it wont let me I am going to article archive and all it says download not allowed remte linking..this can only be dowlaoded from the SPARC website..

help please

Skye

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