Look . Most women get vendictive , You are not to far down the line to do some planning here , Just Keep it as cool as you can and Get some Ideas from a few atty's . Go talk to ten atty's . Get a cool one that treats you like a real human , And doesn't sell you a big puff story , Like when the atty tells you Some thing like ,,, He can tell you the legal issues here , And whats likely , There is a post on here that tells you to get her ass for neglect of the children , Thats a really good Idea . Secondly remmember You have to prove that You are doing the parenting functions , Doctors, school stuff . What ever they do, you parent them . My atty told me a million times , Its way better to prove your self to be a good parent than spend all your time making her out to be a bad parent ,Next if she is sooo agreeable . then get her to sign a parenting plan that say's you get the kids 50/50 etc , If she has alrerady balked at that, I will garuntee she has talked to an atty , And sorry [women ] But Its been My experience That Women are vendictive when this type of situation happens and the nice guy thing is Well Let Me break it to you . Take the nice guy thing and stick it up your @$$ before she gets ahold of it , Because at least when you do it won't be as painfull , MY Atty say's < The judge doesn't care if your a nice guy any way , WAke Up And smell the coffee,, Your getting a divorce , get an atty that You will say loook , We don't have to be mean about this but it all needs to be nice and legal , Then get it in writeing and tell her lets go file this at the court , Like when you separate you Will Need temporary orders , and You better believe she will do all she can to keep the kids and get child support , Heres the real kicker , There has been no custody decision , And I would talk to a few atty's about taking the kids with You . Man . Throw the nice guy thing Into a conversation with an atty ,You can Be nice and have a nice atty make all the nice aggreement s NICE AND LEGAL , Or fight it , And She is the one having the affair blaming you for porn , pal , Don't take the guilt , You are here now get your rights in writeing , And move on with life , this will be likel;y to be a long process , She screwing the nieghbor pal , Think of it like this , this is the end of a buiseness deal and it has to be legally terminated ,