Of course you have to document your time with the child. Keep records of all communications with her. We were advised by our atty when we started court proceedings last year that in order to get a judge to change a custody order you have to prove a.) the child is endangered or b.) the child has been integrated into your home with the consent of the other parent.
So you'll have to increase your time with your child, and wait it out for a while. After 6 months to a year goes by, (I would consult an atty for advise on that) you ask her to change the custody order out of court, or go to mediation to resolve it.
If she refuses to work anything out with you then, you'll file for a modification of custody. When we did this, the kids had been spending more than 50% of their time in our home, but when PBFH would get po'd, she'd say "Ok, we're going back to the co." Our complaint in the motion was that the kids had been living here, but now she was "sharply curtailing" dh's time with the kids. He had offered her a settlement before filing to change custody to 50/50, with the cs amount remaining the same for another year and a half, to prove his motive was not the $$.
I'm sure your situation is somewhat different. Our BM is very stupid and crazy, so once things started to going to court, she completely lost it, and now dh has complete custody of the kids. I hope this helps some though.
So you'll have to increase your time with your child, and wait it out for a while. After 6 months to a year goes by, (I would consult an atty for advise on that) you ask her to change the custody order out of court, or go to mediation to resolve it.
If she refuses to work anything out with you then, you'll file for a modification of custody. When we did this, the kids had been spending more than 50% of their time in our home, but when PBFH would get po'd, she'd say "Ok, we're going back to the co." Our complaint in the motion was that the kids had been living here, but now she was "sharply curtailing" dh's time with the kids. He had offered her a settlement before filing to change custody to 50/50, with the cs amount remaining the same for another year and a half, to prove his motive was not the $$.
I'm sure your situation is somewhat different. Our BM is very stupid and crazy, so once things started to going to court, she completely lost it, and now dh has complete custody of the kids. I hope this helps some though.