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Father's Issues / I agree with others here...........
« on: Dec 01, 2003, 02:06:18 PM »
My son has been on ADHD meds for 7 years, but wasn't diagnosed with ADHD until FOURTH GRADE.  JMO, but 4 years old is WAAAAAAYYYYY too young to be giving these drugs!

No child should be prescribed ADHD meds without THOROUGH testing by practitioners who are specifically trained to do so, and that does NOT include pediatricians and GP's.  Best bet is a child psychologist who specializes in ADHD and CANNOT do the actual prescribing, but can only make the recommendation to the child's regular doctor.

Ritalin, Concerta, Adderall, and all the other controlled substances that are being used for ADHD only account for PART of the treatment.  Without behavior modification, parental education, and cooperation with the school, it is doomed to fail.  Strattera is the FIRST medication specifically designed for the tratement of ADD/ADHD that is NOT a controlled substance, tho it will not necessarily work for all kids, either.  In fact no one drug will.

Also, as far as not treating the child while in the father's care, any court would be hardpressed to find fault with him, since many parents will give their kids on medication a 'holiday', either on weekends or over the summer.  Many use it ONLY for school.

If the father has joint custody, and he has the child in his custody long enough for the medication to leave the system, I STRONGLY recommend getting an evaluation by a competant practitioner, NOT some GP or peds doc who takes 5 minutes to make an 'evaluation'.  My son's evaluation took ALL DAY, running him thru batteries of tests.

If the evaluation comes back that the child is NOT ADD/ADHD, file for modification based on the mother's inability to adequately parent, based on her 'perceived' need for the child to be drugged.  And make sure you have an atty. who is well versed in ADHD.  I also recommend the father (since he doesn't have Internet access) to go to any library and start reading or using the web access there.  He MUST educate himself on the issue so that he can be a strong advocate for his child.


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Father's Issues / Update and thank you........
« on: Dec 01, 2003, 01:49:44 PM »
First, I want to thank all my WONDERFUL friends here who kept me and my family in their prayers.  It DOES work!

Without going into a lot of detail, suffice it to say that there were/are problems and that I had been considering making an emergency move with DS last week over the holiday.  The emergency status has been alleviated for the time being, with your thoughts and prayers, but the move itself isn't quite totally out of the picture yet.  Much remains to be seen.

One thing I CAN tell you with a certainty is that if there are problems, PLEASE seek help!  Guys especially, I know how hard it is for you to ask for help or to seek counseling, I know that many men think that they can take care of the situation or that it isn't as serious as it appears.  Listen with your heart and NEVER ever consider it a weakness to ask.  It is more of a weakness to avoid it till it gets so bad that the situation may be unfixable.  That's why I've gotten into the situation I'm in, by refusing to acknowledge the problem WAS as serious as it is.  I'm just as guilty!

I have joined a support group and now in counseling.  I am taking care of ME.  Cuz if I don't, no one else will.  I still don't know how all this will turn out eventually.   But in the end I will be able to look myself in the mirror, know that I did everything that 'I' could, and have no regrets.

And I know I've told you two this before, but I want the WHOLE world to know:

Indy and MK, you are both ANGELS!!!!!!!!!!:D

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Father's Issues / Thank you ALL very much............
« on: Nov 26, 2003, 11:54:41 AM »
This will be a traumatic holiday for me, but knowing that all of you have us in your thoughts and prayers is a godsend!  You all are never far from my thoughts as well, angels that you all are!

Hopefully early next week I can let you all in on what's going on, but in the meantime, I wish you ALL a Happy Thanksgiving and pray that you are all able to be with the ones you love.  And hug those babies for me!

God Bless You ALL!!!!!!:-)

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Father's Issues / To all my SPARC friends..................
« on: Nov 25, 2003, 09:09:06 AM »
I am currently going thru a personal crisis.  I can't talk much about it now, not knowing what the outcomes might be.  This feels strange to be asking, as I've always considered myself as pretty self-reliant, but I also know the power of prayer.  So I am asking you, my friends, to say a prayer for DS and I, that we make it thru this tough time.  With the love and prayers from all our friends, I know we will make it thru!

God bless each and everyone of you!

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Father's Issues / RE: Help with new format!
« on: Nov 24, 2003, 04:25:40 PM »
Thanks!

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Father's Issues / Help with new format!
« on: Nov 24, 2003, 03:08:07 PM »
I can't figure out the 'Avatar' thingy!  Either I get a blank window when I click on the selections, or an error message.  Does that mean there's something wrong on my end (like the user)? ;(

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