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Great read!
http://abcnews.go.com/Sponsored/JohnsonandJohnson/writing-societal-stereotypes-daddy-blog-time/story?id=23982607 (http://abcnews.go.com/Sponsored/JohnsonandJohnson/writing-societal-stereotypes-daddy-blog-time/story?id=23982607)

The next time you see bruises, take them to the ER.   Medical and educational professionals are required by law to report signs of abuse.  I am a vol. EMT and if I see abuse, don't report it, and it comes to light that I saw and did nothing, I can be fined thousands of dollars and lose my certification for life.  They HAVE to report it.  Document, document, document!  Your atty. might have a valid point, but if one child is failing in kindergarten, I don't see much point in waiting.  It's not like she would lose credits or something like that.
You need an objective 3rd party to report the abuse.....that includes the children's teachers and any other professional who is a mandatory reporter who may have contact with them. Please keep pushing...you are the only ones fighting for these girls because they can't fight for themselves.  And heaven forbid something worse would happen.....

'the girls have come back saying they get hit (you can see bruises) and that they drink alot.. 'ANY time you see the girls with bruises, you immediately take them to an ER to get it documented and ask the ER staff to report it to the authorities.  It seems about the only way you would be able to get the girls back is if you can nail the BM with some offense.  As long as the judge stays true to his word, then this might be the straw that broke the camel's back for her.  Get EVERYTHING documented....the dental appts. (get x-rays and treatment plans), documentation from the school, basically anything that point the finger at her neglect.
If you don't have another court date set, give the documentation to your atty. and ask for an emergency hearing (you may get it anyway just by reporting the bruises) and lay out everything the BM's done or hasn't done.  And pray that the judge keeps his promise...

Dave, it's very possible that the child KNOWS how ambivalent her father is and the combination of having watched how he treated her mother AND having the feeling that 'no one wants her' (very possible how she's feeling right now) could be the cause of her acting out like this.  I agree with the others...she needs professional help NOW!

It would also be a benefit if you can print off those text messages to show in court.  And even if she denies it, it's a simple matter of requesting/subpoenaing her phone records to prove it.

Just found this out from National Parents Organization:
http://divorcecorp.com/ (http://divorcecorp.com/)

This is a new documentary highlighting how corrupt the divorce industry has become.  There are select screenings across the country and a book about it.  You can also request to have a screening.  If anyone lives in any of the screening areas, please try to see it.  NPO also has a 'label' that you can print off and wear to the screening:
https://www.nationalparentsorganization.org/component/content/article/16-latest-news/21432-divorce-corp-your-struggle-is-now-a-movie (https://www.nationalparentsorganization.org/component/content/article/16-latest-news/21432-divorce-corp-your-struggle-is-now-a-movie)

If anyone does see this in its entirety, I would appreciate any feedback here....I live in rural Midwest and probably won't get a chance to see it.   

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Gem, the heck with any retaliation......a patient's life may be on the line here.  She KNOWS she screwed up and she KNOWS that if Admin. goes after her, the only way they would know about it is through your DH.  The only advice I can give him is that if she does retaliate, be prepared.  if she uses the kids to do that, then you've got some leverage.  It is HIGHLY possible she may be brought up on charges, because I can guarantee you that the hospital will be investigating to see if any meds were stolen and if any patient was compromised.  If that happens, anything else is a moot point.

Keep us informed on what happens, Gem!

There's still some of us around, Grazer!  My SS is going on 20, moved out of BM's house within a month of turning 18 (duh!) and is planning on getting married next fall!
My, how time flies!   

 
You see, that is one thing that many people fail to realize....the CO is ONLY between your DH and BM.....your SD is NOT bound by it.  Which is why she can just get up a walk away from it and go directly back to BM's.  The term is 'voting with their feet'....something that has been 'unofficially' been recognized by many parents and some courts.  Usually it happens when a child wants to get away from a bad parent...if the child leaves often enough, sometimes a judge will say 'I can't keep the child from going to going to the other parent, so I guess that parent will have primary custody.'

[/size]In your case, it's just the opposite.  And it's possible that a judge may rule the same way if it happens enough times.  If you do get to court, is it possible to request joint counseling?  Starting out with SD, then SD and your DH, then SD and BM?  This child's mind is literally being poisoned and, at this stage, I would say that IF Dad keeps custody, counseling should be CO'd (in order to get compliance from BM, but that's still questionable).  Otherwise, you will be fighting a losing battle with her and BM.  JMO....
 

Yes, but there is extenuating circumstances here, since BM took the child and won't give her back.  Since that goes completely against the current custody and access orders, I think your atty. is right to go forward with the police assistance clause.  She changed the rules herself when she took the child, so any previous mention of waiting a year to file for a change flies right out the window.