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Keep looking on the socrateaser board in hopes that the real soc has reappeared?  I know I do!

So here's the double standard again.  They are going after the father for child support not the mother.  Why?  They should both equally be responsible for the child support.  AND they should both be equally responsible for the insurance.  Why is it the father that should be responsible when it is the mother's child also?

I have custody.  My child support FINALLY stopped!  YEAHH!  My daughter flew approx.  one week ago for her summer visit to her mom.  Although, she is staying with gparents, not mom, about 6 hours from mom.  maternal gma set up dental exam for me in FL (im in IL) as when daughter comes back it will be approx 2 days before school resumes.  Well, I sent my insurance info and gma said.  No need for it as ex has MEDICAID for everyone!  Ummmm..... Ive carried insuarce on daughter for the 10 years she's been alive!  She used to use it (like 5 years ago) but then stopped.   I obviously use my insuarance when she's with me.  THe other thing is I don't even see HOW my ex is eligible for medicaid for the whole family.  She's married to a pilot who makes 60000!!!!  CAn i be held responsible for her using medicaid on my daughter?????? what should I do.  SHe knowingly lied to get benefits.  This makes me so mad.  I have like thousands of dollars of debt to medical providers and I pay them.  Then people liek her get a free ride when the shoudln't!!!

copy and pasted this from old post so you remember my situation:
Do I have temp or perm custody....Update again...."


"She hasn't appealed it yet, not has she gotten an attorney to contact ours. Exactly how long does she have to appeal the decision (we are in IL).

In the "the court finds section"
THis is what SHE agreed and disagreed to on the "court finds section" of the agreement (which my lawyer made a clean copy and he signed)-- FYI my attorney didn't change ANYTHING. She signed her document 5 times because each place it had her name without her new married name, she wrote her married name next to it.

Agreed that IL had jurisdiction to hear custody case previously ruled to in the state of FL---- she didn't circle this and write anything next to it. So it stood.

Disagreed that IL was the homestate-- because she agreed to IL having jurisdiction I don't think that mattered...

Disagreed that I have custody and wrote temp. next to it.

In the It is herby ordered section this is what she circled and how it was written on the clean judge signed copy.
It is ordered that:
Custody transferred from mother to father-- she did'nt circle anything and write anything so my attorney kept it the same (no temp. written next to it)

My cs stops -- she wrote agrees to that is in the new order

She doesn't pay cs-- or course she agreed to that

I get the tax deduction for now on --- disagreed so left out and it will still be every other year alternating as that is what current court order gave me.

So do I have temp. or perm custody? as in the "finds" section it says temp. and in the "ordered section" of the order it says "custody".""

1.  She never appealed it!
2.  lawyer has cancelled appt. 2 times and my daughter is set to leave in ONE WEEK
3.  appt. with attorney is now scheduled for tomorrow!
4.  Is it safe to send daughter now that she didn't appeal it?
5.  is there ANYTHING she can file in FL to regain jurisdiction there? or will everything have to be filed here?
6.  she is now working.  making about 28000 a year.  The order says no child support until she finds job and then she must notify me within one week.  Ive done the calcs. and IL she would be paying me 300 or so.  and in fl. she would pay 400.  Should I file now or when my daughter comes back after summer?  Which state will figure it IL or FL?  When she had cusotdy IL figured it...(she's in FL and always has been, ive always been in IL)

She didn't.  Do you think there is anyway she can keep her over the summer with the document now?   She has to file in IL right for anything because IL regained custody jurisdiction.  Still technically when she leaves on JUne 5 th for visistation during the summer she will have not lived here for 6 months.  But does that really matter with my custody agreemetn now that says that IL has jurisdiction that had previously been ruled to be int he state of FL>  What would you do.  I don't have my appt. with the attorney until next week as he couldn't get me in earlier.   still unsure if I have temp or perm. custody..

so with this order.  If I send her for a summer visit--- if she petitions NOTHING in court (as I don't think she will).  She will have to return her to me right?  She agreed that IL had jurisdiction.  My FL lawyer said EVERYTHING has to be heard in IL now and nothing needs to be filed in FL.  I have an appt. with my IL attorney the 15th cuz if there is ANY chance of losing her due to technicalities im not sending her.  The order just says  custody to me subject moms right to visit the child at all resonable times and places.  Whatcha think?

She hasn't appealed it yet, not has she gotten an attorney to contact ours.  Exactly how long does she have to appeal the decision (we are in IL).

In the "the court finds section"
THis is what SHE agreed and disagreed to on the "court finds section" of the agreement (which my lawyer made a clean copy and he signed)-- FYI my attorney didn't change ANYTHING.  She signed her document 5 times because each place it had her name without her new married name, she wrote her married name next to it.

Agreed that IL had jurisdiction to hear custody case previously ruled to in the state of FL---- she didn't circle this and write anything next to it.  So it stood.

Disagreed that IL was the homestate-- because she agreed to IL having jurisdiction I don't think that mattered...

Disagreed that I have custody and wrote temp. next to it.

In the It is herby ordered section this is what she circled and how it was written on the clean judge signed copy.
It is ordered that:
Custody transferred from mother to father-- she did'nt circle anything and write anything so my attorney kept it the same (no temp. written next to it)

My cs stops -- she wrote agrees to that is in the new order

She doesn't pay cs-- or course she agreed to that

I get the tax deduction for now on --- disagreed so left out and it will still be every other year alternating as that is what current court order gave me.

So do I have temp. or perm custody?  as in the "finds" section it says temp. and in the "ordered section" of the order it says "custody".

Help please.

how long does she have to appeal?  anyone have any estimations?

ok she's fuming.  She says I blackmailed her (not sure how) and "tricked" her into signing. that she has an attorney who said the document will be void.  She had the document for 4 months.  Looked at it VERY closely and decided what she agreed and disagreed on.  Signed the docment like 4 times (changing where they had her maiden name to her married name as well as the sign. spots).

My attorney wrote up basically word for word what she put.  The judge signed it.  

What are the chances she can get her back now?  How could she appeal it?  What would the grounds be?

BTW:  I didn't notice eariler on the the document shc signed that she did NOT circle and write disagree on the part that said tha IL is the proper authority for jurisdiction which had previously been ruled in the state of FL.

She did circle the fact that said the home state is now IL.

So my attorney just omitted the part that said IL is the home state.  So basically she never disagreed to jurisdiction in the first document.

what would you do?

She is calling cussing and her new husband is threatning me.

edited in case she's searching

Ive had her four months thus far.  There is a return flight (from IL to FL, From FL back to IL) scheduled for June 5th.  With the current document giving me temp. custody, if I send my daughter will she have to make sure she is sent back in August before school begins?

So basically even though she wrote that she disagree's that IL is the homestate, by signing the document the judge automatically granted it to IL?