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Some of you old timers remember me beginning 5 years ago when my ex gave me our daughter (IM IN IL, They were in FL) because "she had other things she wanted to get done with her life".  My daughter told me of abuse I filed in court.  Well my lawyer messed up daughter only lived her 5 not 6 months so ex got her back (ex answered order because she and her parents were upset about the abuse allegations).  THen they (ex and her parents) kept my daughter from me for approx. 2 years during court proceedings in FL (mainly to raise my c hild support).  WEll in 2005 I thought all was done.  12000 dollars later 3 different attorneys FINALLY we were totally done with all court and I ended up in a pretty good position.  LIberal visitation (all summer Splitting all major holidays and breaks) and child support was actually a fair amount!

Well guess what?  After all the thousands spent my ex has gotten PG and married the guy.  He HATES my daughter.  So you guess it.  During my xmas visitation she MOVED from Tampa FL to NY without tell anyone (including our daughter) and has asked me to keep her (again for an undetermined amount of time.)

SHe was suppopsed to sign an agreement for custody to me, but is since backing out.  (she's still getting child support from me ).  She wants to still have our daughter as a pawn against me.  So legally she won't do it.  FOr summer my daugher really wants to visit her mother and maternal family.  So she will, BUT summer starts at her only living in IL for 5 months AGAIN so if ex decided to keep her she could.  

But i still cannot believe I have her, AGAIN.

What would you do?

also posted this on socs page...

facts:  Ex resides in Florida, I reside in IL.  Florida hold jurisdiction for custody/visitation, IL for child support.  Current IL divorce states mom is to keep me informed of residence address at all times. IL court order states parties are to divide all uninsured medical bills by 1/2.

I have reason to suspect my ex has moved from pensacola to another city close by (aprox. 20-30 min away). Although, I have contacted the school where my daughter attended in Pensacola and she is still in attendace there.

My ex called and stated that my daughter was taken to the dr. and they made her pay the entire bill upfront due to insurance problems.  Well because of a 500 deductable anyway I owe her for 1/2 of the 104.00 bill.  

Upon receipt of the bill from my ex, I called her and asked for her address (I told her I "forgot" the address.)

She stated "do NOT send it to MY address as your mail always gets lost." Send the money to my parents house.  

Okay yeah right, I do not believe it for a minute.  Obvisouly she has moved and for some unknown reason, doesn't want me to know.  Probably living with someone she shouldn't be.

I am scared to send the money to her parents house as the IL court paper is pretty vague.  It just states taht the parties are to split all uninsured costs.

I would like to send it certified with her sig. required for delievery.


1.  Can I send it to her parents house and it still count as sending the payment to her.  For instance, what if I send it to her parents house but she has her MOTHER cash it.  Then wouldn't it seem like a gift?

2.  Is there a way I can find out her new address and send it there?

3. If I send it certified to her old address, will they forward it to her new address; thus when I receive the green card back it will have the new address on it.

4.  Any other sugesstions.

I am sure many of you remember me.  I have a psycho ex who until last year withheld visitation for approx 2 years.  She lives in FL me in IL.  She gave me our then 5 year old in 2002 due to "not having time nor money for her".  I took my daughter happily and still paid child support to my ex.  Then I made a mistake or should I say my then attorney.  My daughter told me her mom physically abused her.  I went for custody, but bcause my daughter hadn't resided in IL for 6 months (only 5) my ex got her back.  (it was my ex's parents behind everything becasue they had bascially been raising her in FL)

Then the visitation interference began.  I went to FL 3 times from IL to see my daughter each time visitation was denied.  Then in April of last year we went to court and this happened:

I was awarded every FULL summer
Every even xmas
every even yeard spring break

and...

my ex has to do 1/2 the driving during summer (good as before I have done it all)

ANd Child support was to retain IL jurisdiction.

I got my daughter last summer and for the first time i got to spend xmas with her in 2004

now child support has been figured:

I have to pay 136 bi weekly (before I paid 70) BUT it is still A LOT less than I should her attorneys mistake--- OH WELL!!!

I have to pay 924 retro because the new amount is dated back to when she filed BUT they are subtracting 324 due to her oweing me that amount in unpaid DR bills... So again 600 is much better than 924!

AND the kicker which makes everything much much much better:

I get to claim my daughter for income tax purposes every odd year!  YEAH! YEAH YEAH--  This was done per agreement wtih my ex as she didn't want to ocme to IL for an actual court date!

I feel that I have WON cuz this is much fairer than what she tried to con me out of last year my using my daughter as a pawn ( 450 per month cs, me doing all the driving, and no income tax deduction, FL jurisdiciton)  

Tell me what you think!  


I am done at last......

Same exact thing happened to me in this last dec.  you probably remember my huge court battle too.  in the end, she just gave her to me again.  I honestly think in my case the icing on the cake was her having a baby with her now husband and really wanting a "new" family.  terrible I know.  But my daughter is now visiting her mom (supposedly) but her mom is in tampa and she's in pensacola visiting her gparents AND her mom has only seen her one time in 7 months (daughter's been in FL since June 4th).  

My lawyer drew up papers (worded very basic) and she signed (although you may have read my post were she reworded a lot of things.  But she signed non the less.  If you would like me to email you my document so you could copy and have her sign I wuold be more than happy to.  My lawyer charged me 500.00 for them.  I never knew that getting custody would be so cheap!  It's a miracle really!

eta:  my document didn't even need to be notarized.  The judge still signed them.  If your ex is anything like mine it was actually better that it didn't need to be notarized!

okay my daughter is coming for the entire summer.  I haven't seen her since xmas (that was my first xmas EVER with her!)  She is now eight.  Anyone have any ideas for inexpensive outtings/activities.  I also have a two year old so it has to be somethign he can do too.... HELP ME!  What do 8yo girls like!!!!!!