My DH shares legal custody with his ex - he is NCP. Beyond the CO they have agreed to extend certain holidays a full weekend (vs just the day). This year is DH's first Thanksgiving with that agreement.
BM is not disputing DH should have the kids the entire weekend per their agreement, but she found out we're taking the girls to see my family in another state. She's now telling him she won't allow him to have the extended time unless he gives her the address of my family. For many reasons I do not want to do this.
My understanding has always been that if a parent has legal custody they are free to take a child out of state on their parenting time. Let alone give an address of where they're going. She has no real need to know the exact location of where we're staying, but she's insisting we give it to her. DH has always been a responsible parent.
To add to it, BM contact a 'court representative.' DH contacted the same guy to verify what he said and told DH that yes, DH has to provide her the information. This goes against everything I've ever heard about legal custody. The court guy also told BM (and DH) that since I'm married to DH now, I am now 'married' to her and my information is up for grabs.
I know this could be easily settled by giving her the information, and we'll probably do that - but the point of my post is to clairfy the rights of the NCP when he/she shares legal custody. I'd like to know what our rights are for future issues.
Thanks.
BM is not disputing DH should have the kids the entire weekend per their agreement, but she found out we're taking the girls to see my family in another state. She's now telling him she won't allow him to have the extended time unless he gives her the address of my family. For many reasons I do not want to do this.
My understanding has always been that if a parent has legal custody they are free to take a child out of state on their parenting time. Let alone give an address of where they're going. She has no real need to know the exact location of where we're staying, but she's insisting we give it to her. DH has always been a responsible parent.
To add to it, BM contact a 'court representative.' DH contacted the same guy to verify what he said and told DH that yes, DH has to provide her the information. This goes against everything I've ever heard about legal custody. The court guy also told BM (and DH) that since I'm married to DH now, I am now 'married' to her and my information is up for grabs.
I know this could be easily settled by giving her the information, and we'll probably do that - but the point of my post is to clairfy the rights of the NCP when he/she shares legal custody. I'd like to know what our rights are for future issues.
Thanks.