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Need to hear from anyone in any state who has had experience getting equivalent overnight consideration from a court in determining their child support obligation. I live in Wisconsin, have joint custody with shared placement. I work third shift and have my child Tues. & Thurs. from school release til 8:00 pm, every other weekend from school release Fri. til Sunday at 8:00pm during the school year. In summer I have the same,  plus Mon., Wed. , and the Fri. starting my ex's weekend from 9:00am til 4:00pm. I get three full weeks of vacation time each year and we alternate holidays each year.          Wisconsin Law changed Jan. 1st this year and states that equivalent overnights count towards your number of days in figuring the the support amount under shared placement but my attorney says she has not been able to get this for anyone working a back shift, that the court is dismissing any amount of time that is not an actual overnight. The problem being that there is no where to be found a written definition or specific guideline that states what constitutes an equivalent overnight        Has anyone dealt with this?                                  

I believe that you are talking about a form of "transference".

I found the info. It's #2949. Author & attorney Andrew Vachss has written articles and books on the subject if anyone else is interested.

Child just turned 12 a couple of months ago.

Our attorney is doing what she can. Child protective services doesn't want to hear about it if the child isn't in the hospital or sexually abused. Since our attorney's warning he is concentrating on verbal abuse. Child is scared of him and her mother. Afraid to tell how bad it is. After a four day weekend with her mom and step dad, started "cutting" on her arm. Will not talk to a counselor or therapist because the last time she did, the family therapist brought her mom in the room at the end and told her mom everything she had said.

I have seen the term "target child" used in a psychology paper. I can't find the paper. I thought you might know of books, articles, or studies done. The situation is one child in a family of consisting of mother, step-father, the oldest step-child, the target child, and three younger children, the mother and step-father's natural children.  The target child has refused to be alienated from her father, as the oldest daughter was. The step-father has verbally harrassed the target child so much for, so long that she stays in her room (hides is how she puts it) when he is home. The mother does not intervene and sometimes "joins in" in on the harrassment, especially if she is drinking. The target child is punished for things the step-father's children do. Example- Child cleaned her room, step-father's son trashed the room when the target child was outside playing. Step-father was in the next room and knew his son (3 year old)  was in his step-daughter's room. Child was grounded for one week for not having her room clean. When she spoke up and said her step-dad shouldn't have let his son in her room alone she was slapped in the face for talking back and grounded for an additional week.   Any ideas where I could find info?

What info can you direct me to about 1. Verbal abuse of child by step parent    2. target child syndrome - child refuses to be alienated from a parent and is verbally, emotionally, and physcologically punished for resisting  3. step parent goes to extremes showing favor to their own children in front of the target child. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

My step-daughter went through the same thing. Seems Bio mom had told her Dad would leave her during the night, with the evil stepmother. She was afraid that he would "disappear" during the night when she was sleeping. She insisted on sleeping right outside our bedroom door on a couch. She had just turned eight years old, wet the bed nightly, lost all her hair when mom moved in with & married her present stepfather. She is now eleven and a half and started sleeping in her bedroom, on her own, this past June. She hasn't wet the bed here in two years, and her hair has grown back. It also helped that we let her have a friend over for a sleepover one night a month. They play games, watch movies, and fall asleep in her bedroom. She just needed time to get confident that Dad wouldn't leave in the middle of the night, as her mom had told her. Plus she is my "shopping buddy", comes to me for clothes advice, boy advice, doing homework, school projects, etcetera. Her mom does nothing with her and doesn't take her anywhere with her.

Thank you.

  I want to designate a percentage of my estate in my will to go into a trust for my grand-daughter, a minor. The trustee I want to designate is not a parent of my grand-daughter. The parents get their own percentage.We all live in Wisconsin.                                                     1. Could you give me an example of how this should be worded to prevent a parent having access to the trust or getting a judge to name either parent a co-trustee?