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#21
Visitation Issues / Re: First visitation
Dec 22, 2009, 07:33:12 AM
Ocean is correct.  If it goes to court he'll more than likely get awarded the schedule she mentioned almost immediately.  He probably thought you would say no.  If you know her and like her, try to make the best of it in light of what just happened. 

I'd work on a parenting plan.  You can still work on a step-up plan without supervised visits now since your daughter is doing well with it.  It's great to hear your daughter is adapting so well!
#22
Custody Issues / Re: BM is late picking up child
Dec 22, 2009, 07:22:07 AM
My CO states that if either parent is 20 minutes late and does not contact the other parent within this 20 minutes to notify of the late exchange, parent then having custody is entitled to keep child until next scheduled exchange.

#23
Custody Issues / Re: Fair custody proposal?
Nov 27, 2009, 08:54:51 AM
I actually don't really care about the CS except he absolutely should be responsible for his portion of medical and babysitting costs.  I don't use it other than that and it sits in a savings account.  So stereotyping everyone caring about it isn't true.  Was his idea or I wouldn't have filed and worked it out outside of DR with him directly.  I can support both my son and myself on my own if necessary.

Parenting different is understandable and I do not tell give him orders for his time other than give him a medicine, etc.  I just sat with father during appointments with a specialist and listened to him give the doctor completely wrong medical answers and I had to sit there an correct him.

And yes, his actions so far speak volumes - he doesn't participate in basically anything.
#24
I went to my attorney regarding custody while I was still pregnant and he advised me that nothing could be done until the baby was born.  Because anything could happen, as morbid as it sounds, until he/she arrives so at least in my area you pretty much have to wait.
#25
Custody Issues / Re: Fair custody proposal?
Nov 04, 2009, 06:16:02 PM
He was court ordered to video tape feedings to back up his case and he has chosen not to 99% of the time.  Medical records and his parenting time reflect that my son should have had medical care during his time, and has not.   

If he can't parent an infant, then simply say so.  Maybe toddler years and up are more his speed, but while he's doing this - my son is the one who suffers and I will continue to defend him until he's old enough to communicate independently.   
#26
Custody Issues / Re: Fair custody proposal?
Nov 04, 2009, 05:48:31 PM
MrCustody -

Yes I have made arguement regarding his parenting abilities and directly to the judge - neglecting to feed a child (an infant at that) and seek medical attention when needed absolutely reflects his parenting abilities, does it not?

And he has NEVER been denied visitation or involvement, however HE choses not to participate.  Being that I've never asked the man for a penny, is CS an issue or is that what most men automatically assume?

I've said in previous posts in here, no child should be a paycheck and I think that was loud in clear in what I proposed.  I don't live off his CS.

#27
Custody Issues / Re: Fair custody proposal?
Nov 04, 2009, 06:40:10 AM
Makes sense now.  My attorney actually asked me the same thing a few weeks ago, but said not to list anything we haven't brought up already.
#28
Doing well :-)  Nothing has changed, still waiting for a trial date - they keep pushing it back.
#29
Custody Issues / Re: Need Advise Fast!!!!!!!
Nov 03, 2009, 08:41:12 AM
Agree with MB and its actually the same advice I've received from my attorney.  Why don't you counteroffer and see if she'll meet you half way on the items you disagree with. 
#30
hi red and congrats   Glad to hear things have improved for you!