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I don't think you're being unreasonable.  It's really a decision you have to make based on the fact that if it sets him off, you have to go back thru all the legal drama again - and you're kids will have to endure it again, too.

With all I've been thru this year, for me personally, I would let the sleeping dog lie. 

Me too, MixedBag.  I've been letting him rock the boat every time and just try to keep peace in between.

I'd have to agree with Davy - I'd let that sleeping dog lie especially if you and your children are happy with where you are.  For their benefit, maybe he'll decide down the road to see them again.

Post this is either or both - Father's/Custody Forums instead of the State Forums - you'll get a better response.  I wish I could be of some help but I can't.

Yes, sounds like you're headed that direction.  Good luck :-)

Momof3 - does the CO say what you're to do if you can't resolve thru mediation?  It sounds like with the drug issue that to really resolve the current arrangement, you would almost have to return to court.  Since the mediator is required to remain more a of neutral stance in the situation. 

My area is the same as MomofTwo - mediators are only there to help resolve the custody schedule and report to the judge whether an agreement was met.  Also in my area, they are not allowed to disclose any of the details or discussions during the mediation either.  All the additional details and legalities are left to the courts if no custody arrangement is solidified.

I'm in York, too. I can pass along my attorney's name.  I've been happy so far and not billed to the extreme either.  I'll send you a PM.

You're welcome.  I would have it modified so notifications are explicity stated as X amount of days/weeks prior - close any loopholes you possibly can.

It's a shame because the children are the ones who truly suffer the consequences.

Our custody order says that extra-curricular activities cannot be scheduled during the other parent's custody time if it is not agreed upon by both parties - but it also includes a statement in the same clause stating that these events are for what's the best interest in the child, not the parent.  Both parents are to be made aware of any school activities.

I can't remember the exact wording but if you want it I can send it to you.  Would hold BM accountable in writing....but who knows if she would follow it since she hasn't so far.