SS is only 4 will be 5 in a few months. He will start Kindergarten next year. We both live in PA she wants to move to NY. We are well aware that trying to get custody is near impossible and the current custody order doesn't allow either of them to move out of the county without court order either by both parties agreement or judge allowing. Based on PA law a judge will not allow her to move with SS since she has no job where she is moving to, no family support, and her only place to live is with a girlfriend who already kicked her out once because she didn't want my SS there (BM claims her girlfriend was on meds that caused this behavior). Our best hope honestly is she decides that she wants to move and gives custody to my husband. My SS has been in 2 different daycares and now just whoever she can find to watch him watches him thankfully this is mostly her father since he is laid off right now. SS and his grandfather have a very close, healthy relationship. She can't put SS in daycare since daycare cost a fortune and she relies on state help (as do we) but she loses her subsidy because she gets fired all the time and then has to go on the waiting list again.
Our issues aren't really about parenting styles but more about concerns for my SS mental well being constantly being moved in with this one or that one every time mom gets a new girlfriend or gets in a fight with someone. Like I said he is almost 5 and has lived in 5 different places, one place twice. She also plays the "as long as I get what I want I will let you have time with him game".
My husband already plans on calling our lawyer on Monday to see what he says but we will definitely be going for more time at least. But we are hoping to have a chance to get custody given the fact that her own parents are supporting us and willing to testify as BM actual role in raising her son. Another thing we have going is we have already done a full out court trial (yes trial, mediation failed as mom was unwilling to compromise at all) and in our little county there is only one judge and one mediator and neither was impressed with BM the first time around.
I would also like to add that although we would love to have him live with us we would be just as happy if she would grow up and act like a parent putting my SS needs before her wants all that really matters here is him. If he is happy and living in a stable home that is what is important.
Our issues aren't really about parenting styles but more about concerns for my SS mental well being constantly being moved in with this one or that one every time mom gets a new girlfriend or gets in a fight with someone. Like I said he is almost 5 and has lived in 5 different places, one place twice. She also plays the "as long as I get what I want I will let you have time with him game".
My husband already plans on calling our lawyer on Monday to see what he says but we will definitely be going for more time at least. But we are hoping to have a chance to get custody given the fact that her own parents are supporting us and willing to testify as BM actual role in raising her son. Another thing we have going is we have already done a full out court trial (yes trial, mediation failed as mom was unwilling to compromise at all) and in our little county there is only one judge and one mediator and neither was impressed with BM the first time around.
I would also like to add that although we would love to have him live with us we would be just as happy if she would grow up and act like a parent putting my SS needs before her wants all that really matters here is him. If he is happy and living in a stable home that is what is important.