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Messages - heather2662

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Oh NO... She would tell her mom to "get bent" just like she did when BM put the kids up to begging DH and DH's family for money to get things they need and want.
DH bought a bunch of school clothes in the past and extras for kids and she made car payments and bought jewelry with CS. Kids said to BM "your check should be short this week to pay back dad on the money he spent!" Yes, thats right, kids refer to it as "her check." Now keep in mind that the last time they got new clothes was from Dad  the previous X-Mas. The had a money limit and took them shopping and picked out clothes together. Thats what the KIDS wanted.

The kids see right through all her crap and then some... Thank God!

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Illinois State

18 year old will be going to college 30min away in the neighboring state. She will also be living on campus.

DH stopped paying support after high school graduation.

BM wants CS to start again.

DH and BM have agreed to split cost (after grants) for school.

BM sent DH email discussing school cost and told him CS needs to start again. This is an excerpt were she states that she was planning to spend his CS to pay for her half of school expense. (note how she says; I should be getting something):

"I had planned on using the support money. Im not so
sure that i agree that there should be no support...i
think i should be getting something or least taking
payments for college, insurance, phone...or whatever
out of it

I had also planned on making the college payments from
the support money..."



1. Does DH have to pay support to BM if 18 year old daughter is not living at home while attending college?

2. Can she legally use CS to pay her half of the college expense? (That would mean DH would technically be paying for all of it then.)

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Child Support Issues / RE: Answers...(long, sorry!)
« on: Jan 18, 2005, 04:00:55 PM »

I know for a fact she was fired, on the spot, without notice.

14
Child Support Issues / RE: Medical Bills / Problems spliting half
« on: Jan 18, 2005, 03:57:14 PM »

There are 3 kids: 13, 16 and the oldest will be 18 in 2 weeks.

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Child Support Issues / Medical Bills / Problems spliting half
« on: Jan 17, 2005, 06:54:48 PM »
Illinois Residence

Divorce was final Oct. 2003.

Marital Settlement Agreement states:
Wife shall maintain on behalf of the minor children of the parties medical insurance as long as it is available through her employment. Each of the parties agrees to pay one half (1/2) of all medical, dental, optical, pharmaceutical, orthodontial, and psychological expenses of the minor children of the parties not covered by that insurance.

As of Dec. 2004 Ex-wife is not employed. I believe that Ex-wife’s current husband may add or have added the kids to his insurance. I have not been informed of this by Ex-wife. This info came from a non related party familiar with both of us.

Problem:
From the moment the “one half” medical judgment became active,

1. Ex -wife has not provided medical billing information in a timely manner. She will hold on to bills that have only my portion due for several months before sending them to me. She has also waited until they are in collection.

2. She will bring the kids back to physicians for repeat visits before I am finished paying (my half) and will try to get me to pay half on the “total bill.” (That includes her unpaid portion)

3. She has provided me with bills (for my half) that the insurance has not finished paying on . She also has been reimbursed by the insurance and kept the check.

4. She will send me non-detailed bills with hand written notes on the pages or with post-its, with her calculations of what my half is.


Questions:
1. Is there a time limit on how long Ex-wife has to provide me with true and correct bills that reflect my portion?

2. Is there a time limit to provide me with bills, where after said time, I am not responsible to pay?

3. If  my Ex-Wife’s husband adds the kids to his insurance, does she have to notify me that the kids are covered again?    
(In this case, how can I defend myself from the Ex-wife providing me with basic bills that state the total and do not reflect the insurance “I am supposedly not aware of?” Example: She gives me a bill that shows a $200.00 total and says my portion is $100.00, but insurance paid on the bill making it $30.00 dollars we are suppose to split and she pockets the money.

In addition:
I have tried to work with physicians offices directly by informing them of the (one half) payment arrangement and it has been unsuccessful to date. They do not feel it is their responsibility to keep track of separate parent billing and make no efforts to aid the situation.

Thank you,
Mark

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Child Support Issues / Illinois: When does child suport end?
« on: Jan 09, 2005, 10:25:26 AM »
State: Illinois
County: Clark

My oldest is going to turn 18 on Jan. 30th 2005. She will graduate high school at the end of the school year.

Since the time of the divorce (OCT. 2003) I have been paying child support directly to the BM by personal check. Each check is noted "Child Support week ending xx/xx/xxxx" I scan a copy of the pay stub with the support check and keep record of it on my computer. I print a copy of the check and stub together and enclose it with the support check sent to BM.

My divorce papers are very "general" and state that 32% is to be taken from my pay for support. It does NOT state anywhere when child support ends.

Questions:

1. When does child support end in Illinois?
2. Is there an 18 or end of high school rule?

Thank you,
Mark

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Child Support Issues / RE: cs is taking 90% of income
« on: Sep 16, 2004, 07:04:55 AM »
What State Are You In???

Start looking into Free Legal clinics in your area ASAP. Also any Laywers in you area that may take your "prepared letter form" plea for free or discounted advice, counsel, or representation. Look up the websites for the Law Universities in your state, they may have Legal help clinics. Search the Web for local and state sites. You'll have to weed through a lot of crap that is out there but the result can be worth it. Also what about your job? Do you have benifits? What about Med and legal advise through those "stress hotline care networks" some companys have?

Good Luck.

Mark and Heather

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Dear Socrateaser / NEW - Illinois Child Support - Please HELP!
« on: Jun 13, 2006, 03:44:59 PM »
Topic: Child Support

State: Illinois

Background:
Divorced 2003
BM has sole custody.
I (BF) have 2 minor children I still pay child support on. One is 17 and one is 15. The 17 yr old moved in with me last year (June – Oct) after getting into trouble (grades, drugs, boys) bad enough for BM to loosen the PAS death grip she has on her.

(Note:
Judge in my and BM’s divorce said we could work out child support payment if we can get along. The first CS went through the court and BM didn’t like waiting so long to get it and for going on 3 years now, I mail a check to her weekly with a photo copy of the check and my pay stub together.)

I had a lawyer doing all the paper work. The arrangement me and BM agreed on was going to be that I would get custody of 17 yr old and BM would retain custody of 15 yr old. That would mean child support cancels each other out. On top of that we would split 50/50 the cost of school clothes, the car insurance for the 19 yr old in college, all kinds of other extras - just to be able to get the 17 yr old to live with me so I could help her.
A couple $ grand later, and one signature from the judge away from being finalized, we all found out that while she was at one of BM’s weekend visitations, BM let her run free and she got pregnant. (she was suppose to be on 24 hr adult supervision.) At that point BM said the deal was off and pulled out the big guns on the kid and made her move back to BM’s, along with the father of the child (boyfriend/fiancé).

Current situation:
The 17yr old gave birth about a month ago and has now moved in with me as of the 2nd week of June, with the boyfriend/fiancé and baby also.

I know that this is going to be another fight over money. Currently she believes that she should continue collecting child support for 17yr old while she lives with me.

She may or may not ask for support for 19yr old full time college student while she is home for summer.

What can be done? Figure out the child support from me to BM and BM to me and the difference will be paid to the parent with the lower income. I'm just tired of being screwed by her all the time… paying support and then having to financially support the kids anyway because she claims to them that she is broke and they have to go without “basic life needs” things unless I will buy it for them.

1. What are my options?

2. What are the different ways child support can be divided in this situation?

Thank you,
Dad with CS problems

PS. The child support break down in Illinois is 32% for 3 kids, 28% for 2 kids, and 20% for 1 child.


19
Illinois State

18 year old will be going to college 30min away in the neighboring state. She will also be living on campus.

DH stopped paying support after high school graduation.

BM wants CS to start again.

DH and BM have agreed to split cost (after grants) for school.

BM sent DH email discussing school cost and told him CS needs to start again. This is an excerpt were she states that she was planning to spend his CS to pay for her half of school expense. (note how she says; I should be getting something):

"I had planned on using the support money.  Im not so
sure that i agree that there should be no support...i
think i should be getting something or least taking
payments for college, insurance, phone...or whatever
out of it

I had also planned on making the college payments from
the support money..."



1. Does DH have to pay support to BM if 18 year old daughter is not living at home while attending college?

2. Can she legally use CS to pay her half of the college expense? (That would mean DH would technically be paying for all of it then.)

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Dear Socrateaser / Medical bills / Problems spliting half
« on: Jan 17, 2005, 06:53:23 PM »
Illinois Residence

Divorce was final Oct. 2003.

Marital Settlement Agreement states:
Wife shall maintain on behalf of the minor children of the parties medical insurance as long as it is available through her employment. Each of the parties agrees to pay one half (1/2) of all medical, dental, optical, pharmaceutical, orthodontial, and psychological expenses of the minor children of the parties not covered by that insurance.

As of Dec. 2004 Ex-wife is not employed. I believe that Ex-wife’s current husband may add or have added the kids to his insurance. I have not been informed of this by Ex-wife. This info came from a non related party familiar with both of us.

Problem:
From the moment the “one half” medical judgment became active,

1. Ex -wife has not provided medical billing information in a timely manner. She will hold on to bills that have only my portion due for several months before sending them to me. She has also waited until they are in collection.

2. She will bring the kids back to physicians for repeat visits before I am finished paying (my half) and will try to get me to pay half on the “total bill.” (That includes her unpaid portion)

3. She has provided me with bills (for my half) that the insurance has not finished paying on . She also has been reimbursed by the insurance and kept the check.

4. She will send me non-detailed bills with hand written notes on the pages or with post-its, with her calculations of what my half is.


Questions:
1. Is there a time limit on how long Ex-wife has to provide me with true and correct bills that reflect my portion?

2. Is there a time limit to provide me with bills, where after said time, I am not responsible to pay?

3. If  my Ex-Wife’s husband adds the kids to his insurance, does she have to notify me that the kids are covered again?    
(In this case, how can I defend myself from the Ex-wife providing me with basic bills that state the total and do not reflect the insurance “I am supposedly not aware of?” Example: She gives me a bill that shows a $200.00 total and says my portion is $100.00, but insurance paid on the bill making it $30.00 dollars we are suppose to split and she pockets the money.

In addition:
I have tried to work with physicians offices directly by informing them of the (one half) payment arrangement and it has been unsuccessful to date. They do not feel it is their responsibility to keep track of separate parent billing and make no efforts to aid the situation.

Thank you,
Mark

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