Thanks Kimberly9, Stepmom0418, Troubledmom, joni and MixedBag for the response. :-)
When it comes to the custody of my son and the court system I am dealing with a major case of RESENTMENT/anger :-( (resentment = anger from the past).
I have difficulties being impartial when communicating with the eX because of how I feel the system supports my eX in restricting the relationship between my son and me.
WHY?
NCP = 4 weeks Vacation.
CP = Not even specified. Unlimited.
NCP = 4 days a week with son.
CP = All the other days in month.
NCP = Must pay what government demands per month OR go to jail.
CP = Does NOT have to work. Math calculation on wages, no government consequences for not working or working part time.
I = calculate 4 weeks vacation as 28 days. I spell out my vacation time in such a way to MAXIMIZE my time with son.
eX = says I must use vacation time ONE week at a time (7 day increments).
I really would like to spend more time with my son than a mere 4 days a month and my ever Tuesday visit from 3:00-6:00 pm, and 4 weeks of vacation.
Sorry for the rambling. I am not sure how I am going to respond. However I have come to realize that using the court system and/or lawyers to resolve small differences (like this one) is a waste of time and money.
Matter of fact I have learned unless there is a major, and I mean HUGE problem with AFTER divorce issues, do not waste your time or money with court and/or lawyers.
Thank goodness I have lots of friends in the area that I can visit and bend there ear. There is nothing like a good friend to help one focus on the good things in life and everything I have to be grateful for. I can only hope that I have given back to my friends as much as they have given me.
Thank you all for your view. :-)
When it comes to the custody of my son and the court system I am dealing with a major case of RESENTMENT/anger :-( (resentment = anger from the past).
I have difficulties being impartial when communicating with the eX because of how I feel the system supports my eX in restricting the relationship between my son and me.
WHY?
NCP = 4 weeks Vacation.
CP = Not even specified. Unlimited.
NCP = 4 days a week with son.
CP = All the other days in month.
NCP = Must pay what government demands per month OR go to jail.
CP = Does NOT have to work. Math calculation on wages, no government consequences for not working or working part time.
I = calculate 4 weeks vacation as 28 days. I spell out my vacation time in such a way to MAXIMIZE my time with son.
eX = says I must use vacation time ONE week at a time (7 day increments).
I really would like to spend more time with my son than a mere 4 days a month and my ever Tuesday visit from 3:00-6:00 pm, and 4 weeks of vacation.
Sorry for the rambling. I am not sure how I am going to respond. However I have come to realize that using the court system and/or lawyers to resolve small differences (like this one) is a waste of time and money.
Matter of fact I have learned unless there is a major, and I mean HUGE problem with AFTER divorce issues, do not waste your time or money with court and/or lawyers.
Thank goodness I have lots of friends in the area that I can visit and bend there ear. There is nothing like a good friend to help one focus on the good things in life and everything I have to be grateful for. I can only hope that I have given back to my friends as much as they have given me.
Thank you all for your view. :-)