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[It is very difficult to grab the attention of the public and have them listen to your ideas. Look at the presidential race, they spent a whopping 4 BILLION to get us to listen to them and believe in there ideas.]

It is very difficult to grab the attention of the public and have them listen to your ideas.  Look at the presidential race, they spent a whopping 4 BILLION to get us to listen to them and believe in there ideas.

If we who believe that 50/50 custody is best for our children keep the fight.  Sooner or latter we will make a difference.   Remember, Rome wasn't build in a day. :-)

wendl you said [em]"I think many people when voting a judge in don't understand how the family law system really works UNLESS they have been there and or are going thru the system"[/em]

[FONT SIZE="+2"]That is 100% true.  I had known numerous parents,, dads and moms,, who went through divorce.  Not until I went though the system did I understand.

Reflecting back I think because there is so much going on in life it is impossible to really understand issues unless you are personally facing them.  Now that I gone through divorce and I am fighting for more parenting time with my son there are tons of issues I no longer keep track of.

Before my divorce I was very active in creating more "green space" in my community.  Since my divorce which started 4 years ago, I have NO idea what is going on in the "green space" area.[/FONT]

Congratulations on your victory!!!!


In our Tuesday election judge Elizabeth Lehigh Thomakos ran for reelection and won. She was a shoe in, no one ran against her.

So the guards remain the same here. The judges in power look down upon 50/50 custody.

[font size ="+1"]I was going to post it, but it just felt like too much negativity for one day.

I could hardly keep it together after reading and responding to MYSONSDAD post on the custody board about » The Flint Journal, Editorials & Letters.

Then latter today I read the same email sent to me.  I had to read it twice and I kept checking the sender.  It seems like an email "Eric from the Firm" would send.[/font]

[em]"a bunch of homeless bar dykes" who knew that "foundations were not going to fund a house" for them. So they conned the foundations by calling themselves "battered women" and claiming that men did it, and suddenly the flood-gates opened wide. [/em]



I am going to my local OHIO P.A.C.E. web site now to get some positive news concerning the progress of the new joint custody bill/law being introduced in Ohio. Last joint custody bill here got shot down :-(

Ohioins Do you want to wait years to get equal parenting in Ohio?

For those in OHIO this is a start not and not an end!!! Mike Galluzzo's federal challenge with have a major impact on whether this ever is introduced into law. We have no idea what Magistrate Merz will rule in Mike's case and how he will approach changing Ohio's custody law. Call this the back up and another effort to better parental rights in Ohio.

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DD beat me to the post AGAIN.

[font size =+2]NOT[/font] (heeee, heeeee lol) (DD has a lot more knowledge/experience than me)


Nice post DD!  You are getting some great advice papaalex2003.  It is now up to you to take action.

Good luck

DecentDad said what I was going to post.  (unless.... DD is a mind reader and read my mind, then posted my thoughts. lol :-) )

papaalex2003, document ALL the Activities/Events/Errands you do for your children now.  Your intention/objective is to show the court you're Super Dad.  And from what you have said in your last posts you are!! :-)

Sit down and write out all the things you are doing!

You have a good case.



Just remember, if you think life is unfair; wait until you go through Family Court.  From what I can tell the devil runs the system.

I enjoyed your ideas TGB


I would like to hear more about your adventures.



P.S. I liked your dissertation so much I posted it on custodyreform.com
And Darkspectre liked it so much he posted it on dadsdivorce.com

Your perspective is making the rounds. :-)

[[font size="+2] this site has GREAT info!! Read all you can to discover what the courts consider important!! [/font]]

I know how you feel papaalex2003  - confused, angry, ....... the list goes on.

You are asking Great questions.  Keep asking.

The first area to try to understand is "what do the courts consider important".  This is an ongoing learning experience.

[font size="+2] this site has GREAT info!!  Read all you can to discover what the courts consider important!! [/font]

Plus others on this site can help with ideas for your case.  DecentDad and others have started a good foundation.  Keep visiting this site and reading posts, it helps tremendously in the learning process.

*> Sounds like you do NOT have a court ordered visitation schedule.  I know you don't want to hear this but, the Judge will probably not give you over nights right away.  Create a Step-up parenting plain (ideas found on this site) to offer the courts.  Better to create your own parenting plain than using the court ordered plain.  

*> Take a parenting class it will show the courts you have taken the initiative and are a pro active dad. I sometimes get chastised for this next statement but "I really enjoy my parenting class" I am planning to take more!! They are fun!

*> Find positive ways to deal with the stress and frustration a custody fight will create.



Another site I have found helpful is "Divorce Institute"
 It is currently a work in progress and created by lawmoe.
http://www.divorceinstitute.com/

Hammer A Spammer - "SPAM Vampire"

My internet host called me this morning and ask if I was running anything last night that did a lot of down loads.

I said "Yes, I've been running a program called Spam Vampire"

He asked me not to run it.   I said ok, BUT email the reason why it is not good to run the program over night so I can post it.   Here is his email.



Bolivar,

Running the Spam Vampire website is definitely not a good idea for a few reasons.

The main purpose of Spam Vampire is to put spammers out of business by creating huge bandwidth costs for them.  The reality of the situation, however, is that the bandwidth must come from somewhere, and that somewhere is your ISP.  This raises our cost of doing business just as much as it does the spammers, which can in turn raise the price of your broadband service.  Spam Vampire also ends up doing the exact same thing as most viruses, completely filling up an internet connection with data so that no one else would be able to utilize that connection.

I know you are frustrated by spammers, but this method will end up costing much more for the internet providers than for the spammers.

Respectfully,
David Stanfill
Technical Response Team
Wilkshire Communications Inc.

[A good wife always knows her place.]

From Housekeeping Monthly   13 May 1955                                  

                            THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE


•   Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking of him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

•   Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

•   Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it for him.

•   Clear away the clutter. Make one more trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

•   Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper etc. and then run a dustcloth over the tables.

•   Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. You husband will fell he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

•   Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

•   Be happy to see him.

•   Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

•   Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

•   Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

•   Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

•   Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

•   Don't complain if he comes late for dinner, or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

•   Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

•   Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

•   Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

•   A good wife always knows her place.