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Visitation Issues / Re: Informed last night

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 12:53:01 pm »

actually my prescriptions ran out back in june and I haven't been on them since.
Shelly, is that something my lawyer should put together for me when I get one? Or should I just go without a lawyer till I get the money and just get visitation orders now?

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Visitation Issues / Re: Informed last night

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 12:23:56 pm »

well luckily I don't do drugs and I RARELY drink.
 
her only thing on me is that I was put on Anti Depressants after my ex before her broke up with me to help me deal with that. She is lording that around saying that I'm unstable and she doesn't trust me with him at all. I have not been allowed to leave anywhere with him by myself ever.
 
I know it's not right what's she's doing, but I'm hoping the courts see that too.

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Visitation Issues / Re: Split time visitation hurting the child

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 12:14:06 pm »

he's only 4 months old so the schedule is not a burden on him currently...
I work 10 miles from her house and I'll be moving up to this place permanately come August.
 
However at his age, 50/50 I believe is in the best interest of him and of me. His mother tells me that as long as I see him every 3rd day for a couple hours i'll continue his bond with me.
It doesn't feel that way..
 
She is not willing to work on this... She wants SIX MONTHS of family therapy with visitation staying the way it is in order for me to get overnight visitation...
 

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Visitation Issues / Re: Split time visitation hurting the child

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 08:52:28 am »

I'm looking at 3 days on, 3 days off with alternating saturdays, minimum. I know of PLENTY of couples that have been able to work out this arrangement before and the child developed just fine.

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Visitation Issues / Split time visitation hurting the child

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 08:31:41 am »

This was another issue she brought up to me. That split time visitation hurts my son's development and is proven to be unstable.
Any links or help opposing this fact?
 

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Visitation Issues / Informed last night

« on: Jan 05, 2010, 08:18:10 am »

According to my ex, she told me last night I will NOT get any overnight visitation until he is 2 years old. She claims it is her right to do this as a mother.
Obviously I'm going to court now as soon as I can afford a lawyer.
 

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Custody Issues / Re: Ex gf will not let me have unsupervised visits with my son

« on: Jan 03, 2010, 04:19:54 pm »

No, you will get whatever the judge at the hearing decides you should have.  If the BM cannot convince the judge as to why you should have supervised visitation, only then will you get unsupervised.  One thing to keep in mind with temp. orders....keep them long enough and they will become permanent, so fight HARD for as much as you can possibly get at the temp. hearing.  If the judge is generous, then delay the permanent hearing for as long as possible.

Good advice.. thank you.

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Custody Issues / Re: Ex gf will not let me have unsupervised visits with my son

« on: Jan 03, 2010, 10:34:41 am »

now will i get unsupervised visits after filing the paperwork, or at the hearing?

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Custody Issues / Re: Ex gf will not let me have unsupervised visits with my son

« on: Jan 01, 2010, 10:15:01 pm »

DDS -

My son's father was given unsupervised visits the same day of the hearing, he was 3 1/2 months old at the time.  The temp order was a step-up plan over several months.  We never lived together, I had left him before I found out I was pregnant. 

I had requested supervised for awhile because he had absolutely no experience with infants or children and my son had some special needs.  The only supervision that happened was the on the 1st visit he was to spend time at my home learning the basics and if there was time left during the visitation hours they were his to with what he wished.

From other posts sounds like unsupervised is more of the norm until you get further hearings.

From what I've heard, it sounds like I file and then she has one month to answer. At that time we do a hearing... does that sound pretty standard?

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Custody Issues / Re: Ex gf will not let me have unsupervised visits with my son

« on: Jan 01, 2010, 06:07:11 pm »

let me make sure I understand what everyone is saying. I may/should be able to get temp unsupervised visits from the get go when I file? or am i missing something?