« on: Jan 05, 2010, 08:34:31 AM »
Thanks for the reply. What state was your case in?
At this point the whole process is very new. I was not served until 11/24/09, so there are no formal court documents dictating anything yet. I filed a motion with the judge for temporary time sharing, through my attorney, and they said he will not hear any motion from either side until we go to mediation first. In Florida, I guess they are hoping you will work it out on your own and then the court can just review and rubber stamp whatever you come up with. I would rather have it work out that way myself; however, I just do not think my STBX is going to want that to happen, she wants to punish me and ruin me forever.
I am planning to go to Gamblers Anonymous and/or to get a one on one counselor through my health insurance coverage. The current visitation is just the schedule that my STBX is "allowing" me to have, I constantly ask for more time from her and I constantly say I have not agreed to the current restrictive schedule. We are both documenting everything as all our communication is only via e-mail. My lawyer seems to think because of the gambling and the craigs list ad, it is going to be a tough shot at getting 50/50 custody. I know this lawyer through friends of my father, and they were all very pleased with him in their cases and he has a good reputation with many of the judges I am told. He seems to think our current judge is very low drama and that is a good thing for my case; however, he thinks the judge will not rule 50/50 custody because of my daughter's age and my Wife has been a stay at home Mom ever since she was born, and the knocks against me with the gambling and ads. I just feel that is absurd as I think we are both able to parent our daughter just fine, and neither of us is unfit. My wife will have to go back to work as we were only married for 4 years and then we will be shuttling my daugther to a day care, so isn't it better for her father or mother to parent her, then strangers at day care? I feel frustrated, I don't want to go for anything less than 50/50 custody but I cannot help but feel like I am getting royally screwed right now. If I lose in this battle, I want to go down fighting as I believe my daughter deserves equal time with both parents.
Do you file a pendete lite through your attorney? Or is it something I can just go file on my own?
I really appreciate your help, so thank you.