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Bm does not have an attorney.

My son was relocated to Alaska.  Don't know how they even got there.  I received a transfer notice from the school here in February and immediatley sent a records request to the school that requested his records but just this week I received a copy of a report card that was all whited out.  We have never had an order of any kind done before.  She let me see him whenever. But then, she up and took off and I have been trying to get information on his wereabouts since January with little to no help.  I am on the birth certificate and I do pay child support but they do not have a forwarding address for her either because OCSE always load it on a debit card that she uses.  Her house here still sits empty but she uses as her address, no forwarding address.  Ihavemailed things to my son and BMs mother who lives a few hours away comes and checks the mail.  I asked my attorneys office if I could file for temporary custody and they acted like I couldn't do that because I needed to locate her address or place of employment and then they would petition for a set visitation schedule.  Can I do the temporary custody since I have never had a court ordered visitation?  If so, I will go and file the papers myself even if my attorney thinks its the wrong strategy.  I have got to do whatever I can to get my child back, this game she is playing has gone on for way too long and my son is paying the price!

BM took off with our son in January and moved 4000 miles away without telling me anything.  We don't have a visitation order in place but are currently working on one, but attorney says they have to have an address to serve her at and I have no info on her.  I had to request school recrods from the school to find out where he was transferred to, this school immediatley sent them to me.  Then I sent them to his new school back in February, but I am getting no where! I have made several phone calls to the school and sent several emails but they will not return any of them.  Even went to the superintentdent.  Finally this week i received a copy of his report card that was completely whited out.  They withheld all of his information and did not send me anything else.  I have again sent another request asking for ALL of his file, with nothing whited out but they ignoring me again.  What can I do at this point?  I have to have an address of place of employment or something to have her served.  I think she is trying to with hold him to try and terminate my rights, because she has threatened that in the past.  I am spinning my wheels but noone wants to help anywhere.  Her family is totally useless, they are protecting her also.  But why is the school up there doing this to me when they are going against a federal law?

Not sure if mom's family would help out or not.  They are very wishy washy about everything.  BMs mother will sneak around behind her daughters back for me to see my son but then she will also bow down to her daughter when BM finds out about it (kinda like she is scared of her own daughter). They are just very strange.

Will I be able to pull off a joint custody deal with her living 4000 miles away? I know eventually she will move back around here (at least within an hour or two of me - worst case scenerio). Her house is in the same school district of me and only 10 or 15 minutes from my home (which ultimately has been where she has returned to everytime she has left in the past). I knew I could get some sort of visitation but wasn't sure what I needed to go for.

How long does the jurisdiction stay here with her living out of state for the last 1.5 - 2 months?

Will I have to have supervised visitation since I have never had a real visitation schedule and it has only been visitation at her descretion or when her mom snuck him to me for the past 8 years?

I guess I will send the paperwork back out to the school again this week thru certified mail (RRR) and see if I get a respones then.  I have sent the paperwork to the superintendent also but haven't heard anyhting back from her either.  I really don't knwo why they are not responding nor are they giving me any information what-so-ever!

Thanks for all of your help I really appreciate it.

Do you think it's really possible for me to get custody without so much as a regular visitation schedule for the past 8 years? She has completely blocked all contact with him for the past 6 months and moved away about 1 1/2 - 2 months ago without telling me anything.  I am willing to try whatever I have to to get him back here with me and all of his family.   

There is a child support order, which I pay regularly. She just moved within the last month and a half. Can I send her a letter asking for my son to call me or what? I have already used the letter off the website and sent it to the school but they are not letting me know anythng.  I also called and they say they will have to check on it and call me back but they are not responding.

Here is my situation: (with all my stupid mistakes included)

First I had a child with a gf that I had not been with for very long.  While she was pregnant we split serveral times.  Her family wants us together worse than she wants us together. I didn't want us to be together but went back for my childs sake but that only lasted off and on for about 2 yrs.  Since then I have moved on and so has the BM. I married a girl who also we later found out happens to be my fifth cousin (very distant as you can see) and we have two children together. BM has a live in boyfriend that she has recently had a child with. We have never had a visitation arrangement set up.  I seen my son regularly until BM realized that I had remarried and then the claws came out and she would not let me see him anymore. Her mother would still sneak him to me regularly. Then back about 6 months ago BM and her bf got back together and then even those visits stopped.  My child is very verbal about wanting to spend time with me, but she says she will not have him being around me and "my cousin." She has recently moved and I used the forms on this site to access his school records where he was attending and the transfer form so I could find out where he had moved to.  The school was very helpful and I learned he had moved 4000 miles away. BM works as a tech in the hospital and is doing a traveling job, so she is moving him around the country and he was already failing in school. (Makes me Angry!!)
The new school he moved to had been sent the request forms several times and have still not even received an acknowlegment that they have them.? Don't know why and can't get anyone to give me an answer, just that they will check into it and call me back.(over and over) I don't even have a number to call to get him until someone gives me the info from that school.  The only number I had for him (a home phone) has been disconnected. They still own their house here (it just sits empty) and I am sure they will return to it as soon as this traveling job ends.

All of his BMs family is here and all of my family is here. I just want to know what the odds are that I can get him. I want him to have stability and to get caught up with his schooling. According to the records the school wanted to hold him back but BM refused and sent him on even though he was failing everything!

I just don't know where to even start. Should Ijust try to get a visitation schedule that is written out through the court or should I try to get custody? What do I need to do if the school keeps ignoring my request. (they have had it for a month now) Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.