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#41
Dear Socrateaser / Thanks Soc!(NM)
Apr 29, 2004, 08:18:45 AM
NM
#42
DH and his ex are finally settling their marital debt (after 9 years)

They have negotiated a settlement, but are utilizing a lawyer to make sure the paperwork is written up properly.

DH filled out the Income and Expense Declaration and put my income as "unknown"  Which he really does not know what I make, and when he asked me for the purpose of including on the form, I refused to answer.

Ex's lawyer is having a fit over my income listed as "unknown".

1) Do I have to tell them what I make?

2) If not, what should DH tell the lawyer?

Thanks
FTK
#43
Dear Socrateaser / Thanks and one more
Apr 28, 2004, 09:20:58 AM
We are almost certain that she will pay late every month.

1) Should the % rate for the arrears be written in to the agreement?

I really appreaciate everything you do for us all!!!
FTK
#44
DH and his ex are finally settling their marital debt (after 9 years)

They have negotiated a settlement, but are utilizing a lawyer to make sure the paperwork is written up properly.

DH filled out the Income and Expense Declaration and put my income as "unknown"  Which he really does not know what I make, and when he asked me for the purpose of including on the form, I refused to answer.

Ex's lawyer is having a fit over my income listed as "unknown".

1) Do I have to tell them what I make?

2) If not, what should DH tell the lawyer?

Thanks
FTK
#45
Dear Socrateaser / Thanks and one more
Apr 28, 2004, 09:20:58 AM
We are almost certain that she will pay late every month.

1) Should the % rate for the arrears be written in to the agreement?

I really appreaciate everything you do for us all!!!
FTK
#46
Dear Socrateaser / CS In California
Apr 27, 2004, 04:49:56 PM
-BM moved Oct 2003  

-Split now 80% (DH)/ 20% (BM)

-DH started paperwork with DCSS in November 2003.  DCSS filed and served BM January 27, 2004, Hearing is scheduled for May 27, 2004.

-DH and BM have now negotiated Child Support Amount.  BM will pay DH directly.  DH is going to stop case with DCSS as soon as the agreement is finalized.

Questions

1) What is the effective date of the Child Support (the date she moved, when the file was started with DCSS, date DCSS filed, or date agreement was reached)?

2) What is a standard "late fee" for late payments?

Thanks!!!
FTK
#47
Dear Socrateaser / Marital Debt
Feb 02, 2004, 01:19:55 PM
Dissolution only Jan 1996, bifurcated from property and custody.  Custody agreements reached and filed. Marital Assets (only some furniture and kitchen appliances) were divided, no agreement was filed.

I have tried to negotiate a settlement on the marital debt (over $12k)many times over the years with my ex.

I don't see any other resolution then taking it through the courts.

1) What do I need to file to get the marital debt process started again?

2) Will the courts look at the fact that the debts are now paid off? (I had to borrow money to pay them)

Thanks!!
#48
Parenting Issues / If I had a $1....
Feb 10, 2004, 01:03:01 PM
...for every time BM said something negative about me I would not have to work again EVER!

I have been married to DH for 8 years, together for 9 years, SD's are 11 and 9 (BM abandoned them all when YSD was 2 months old!!)
DH is the CP but they used to see their mom every week, until she moved 3 hours away. (BTW the kids call me Mom and her Mommy)

Let me give you some of the ones I have heard... and my responses.

1)  Mommy yells, "She is NOT your mother, do not call her Mom!!!"
Answer:  That is true, I am not your Mother, I am your Step-Mother, but you can call me anything you want as long as it is not a bad word.

2) Mommy says " I don't care what she says I told you NOT to call her Mom"
Answer:  It is up to you what to call me, but why is it okay with Mommy if your older (half) sister to calls Daddy, Dad?  Daddy was her Step-Dad, just like I am your Step-Mom.

3) Mommy says she doesn't like you and says really mean things.
Answer:  I know she doesn't like my honey, and I am sorry it upsets you, but do you like me?  That is all that matters to me.

... I could go on and on.... but the best thing is to neutralize and with humor.  My SD's know that they can count on me, they know that I love them and they know that when the chips are down I will fight for them as fiercely as I do my DS's.

Hang in there, take the high road, they are smart and they see more than they let us know.
FTK
#49
General Issues / I agree with Kitty...
Jul 01, 2004, 12:39:47 PM
If there is a no contact order then you should be reporting him.  What happens if he gets out of control and does something violent?  No court is going to enforce a no contact order if you have proven that you are really not in fear of him.  You got the order for a reason, stick to it.

Stand your ground, protect yourself.  People like your ex need a good swift kick in the *you know what* to really realize that they are not acting in the best interest of the children.

I have been there, took me many, many months to figure out that I was just playing his game, and enabling him to keep harassing me.  Take care of yourself!!

FTK
#50
General Issues / PAS
Feb 17, 2004, 09:29:01 AM
My Step-Brother and Step-Sister are victims of PAS.  It is becoming more and more obvious since they have become adults and are distancing themselves from their mother.

I am trying to find resources for them.  Does anyone know of any articles/ research that has been done on Adult victims of PAS?

Thanks!

FTK