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That would work, but they live in Arizona, and yes he is a teenager now well he is 12. So we have no clue where the money would go, before school started we took him shopping and sent him home with a ton of new clothes, shoes, jacket, and school supplies this way we could make sure he had what he needed. It isent a problem sending the money it is just we know it won't all go to  him and that is what he wants.

In tx it is either 17 or 20% of the father's income that it is based off, and the same thing goes for every three years she could have taken him back for a change in  child support. No its for clothes, we just dont want to send her $500, and it not go directly to his child. Its just that the relationship between bio mom and bio dad has always been a strained one and now its to the point where she wont even speek to bio dad for basic things, example he called to speak to his son and when he asked to talk to bio mom to talk about how much she needed she refuses to speak to him and most times she does finally speak to him she is rude and hateful. But that is her own problem to deal with

Two things first bio mom is saying she is going to take bio dad back to court for more child support because she says he has not reported his change in income, but the child support was based off of an agreement between the two and not off his income. There is nothing in the decree that says he has to report change of income only that he has to report that he needs child support taken out of his pay check and that he needs to make sure he has insurance on him. So can she still get him for back child support? Granted she has had 12 years to take him back to court.
Second if she is asking for more money on the side for other things is there any way of just adding it to the child support  like directly to attorney general instead of making a check out to her, this way she can't try and say that he never gave her anything? I know there is no way that he can stop her from using it for other things such as her other kids (from her current husband), just want to try and make sure its used for him. Court order is in TX.

HAHA I was worried this was serious  for a second THANK GOD it wasen't!!!

That was definatly one major thing I needed to know because we have 2 children together, and I believe it is either 17 or 22% of his income that they go by.

I have checked out both states and what the changes would be, and it looks like she would actually do better just to leave it here, but I am sure she has another motive for doing this. I have tried to tell my husband that he should just keep him like he is supposed to when he is here but he is afraid of how the mom will take it out on the boy. That is the kind of woman she is, just unhappy and it makes no difference that she is hurting her own son at the same time. It is very sad. He hasen't recieved the papers yet and I don't know how long it takes for something to get started before we see some kind of paper work. We know once this gets started its only going to go down from here, she had threatened him in the begining that if he sent the notarized letters for when its time to see his son that she would only allow him to see his son on those times and no other, so once we get something in the mail we are going to start sending them in each time he is supposed to see him. It is just ver difficult to understand her thinking and reasoning for acting this way, what is the point?

Being the "step parent" has alot of challenges but it can have its benefits too, my ss is very timid and unsure of himself due to him mother being so controlling. It is a terrible and sad thing when the kids are used as tools and brought into a situation where they can not be honest about their feeling because they are afraid. You can be that person that the child turns to when they can't talk to their parents.  But at the same time there is gong to things that happen that will drive you crazy and you will want to take action but you can't. Just be strong and know there is many of us going through the same thing and we are here when you need us. Be strong

We have the same problem EVERY SINGLE TIME!!! Bio mom demands the child be returned when SHE wants which is not what the papers say, but she uses it as a tool because we don't want the boy to get the brunt of her anger. Your right she should of planned her vacation around his time, she has plenty of time during the school year that she can make different arrangments. You should tell your husband to send her one of those letters, Intent to excercise visitation this way you have it documented if she refuses him his time. This wil make her very mad i promise but its the only way to be fair to the child and her father. But at least this way Bio  mom knows she can't keep cheating bio dad out of his rightful time.

This will be the 5th time she has moved and yes her husband is in the military so there is no guarantee that they will not move again, we are thinking about asking the court to not grant the change because they have no permanent address and won't until he ( step dad) is out and we don't know when that will be. Yes the original order is here in Texas, and what I have seen that is different betweent the states is that they take her income (which is 0 because she has not worked in 13 years) and his and divide it in half. And that is how they come up with the amount, but do they take it into account that he now has 2 other children.  Plus he has NEVER been able to get visitation the way that he is supposed to so does that affect anything, even during the summer /christmas she cuts him short or tells my husband she wants him back on certain days so she can have him when she vists her family. Isen't she supposed to do that on her own time?

well my husband's ex moved from Germany to Arizona , and my husband just started a new job so the first child support payment was late. So now she got all upset even though this is the first time in 12 years he has ever been late on a payment.She wants to close out the case here in Texas to open it in Arizona , my question would be what would that really do? What is the point of it, I understand the increase in child support but why close it here when there is a guarantee that she will be moving again in maybe 2-3 years. Does any one have any ideas or experience with this?