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I am not going to force my son to call his bio dad just because he is the dad he never sees him. Any guy can have a kid doesn't make you a dad. If he wants the dad title maybe he should actually be a dad.

I am not changing the location. I am having it at my parents house because thats what I can afford. My family is offering to pay for half, I am not going to do something to suit bio dad. I told him he can have him after the party or that weekend.

so bio dad has called and started drama because I am not inviting him and his family to my sons birthday party, and he wants to do joint holidays together I told him no and he has been harrassing me I have no idea what to do what should I do?

yeah but bio dad never comes to see his son about twice a year, and he lives an hr from us. I would not force my son to call bio dad. Daddy when he doesn't even know him. Would you call someone dad just because it is the dad even if you didn't know them?

Do you think it is necessary for a grandparent to be involved in the grandchilds life?

My parents are involved in both my sons lives they love them and see them all the time. My oldest son who is almost five is not my husbands bio child. My second son is his bio child. We do not allow my FIL to see my son for the fact when my husband and I got married fil threatened to kill me because he didn't like me because I had a child from a previous relationship so he didn't want his son marrying me. My FIL is a real wacko.

My MIL we allow for her to see our son but she chooses not to be FIL controls her life. She has seen him twice and didn't tell her husband. She even has to hide my sons pictures from her husband what is everyones opinion on this?

He met my husband when he was 1 and a half. Even before my husband was in the picture he didn't call his bio dad, daddy. He always refered to his dad by his first name. It's because bio dad would disappear in and our of his sons life every 5-7 months and not be heard from, so him and my son never bonded or formed a relationship.

If he showed up with a fiancee and my son called her mom it honestly wouldn't bother me. A child can have two moms and two dads just like a child can have two sets of grandparents thats my opinion. I am happy my son and husband formed a bond, it just means he feels close to his step father.

Bio dad called his step father dad, growing up so he is being hypocritical.

Yes I do have a letter from the district about the summer program its only monday-thursday 8:30am to 11:30am. On Tuesdays on his visitation bio dad has the whole day off, so he could definatly pick him up from summer school I offered for him to pick him up at 11:30 and return him at 7:30 but he refuses. For holidays it is agreed on by both parents, because he asks to take him holidays then never shows up.

My husband has been in my sons life since he was almost 2 years old. Bio dad is very inconsistent and is constantly in and out of my sons life. He sees my son every 5-6 months, he cancels constantly because he supposedly has better things to do.

My son calls my husband dad. It was never forced. Bio dad gets mad about it. But what do you expect when your constantly absent from your child's life. My husband supports, raises and does everything for my son. His bio dad does nothing.

No my son is not special needs. He is going to public school in september. He is just being difficult summer school is only 8:30am to 11:30am I don't see why he can't pick him up on his visitation day and keep him an extra two hrs.

Good point... I just figured this child was maybe special needs and had a 12 month program?

The schooling has to be through the public school and not daycare. If child has IEP, bring that with you to court to show child needed to go to school and you offered after school or a day on the weekend.

If this is a summer school that the district is running for new Kindergarteners, then I would have child go but skip Tuesdays and be with dad.

Bottom line is that dad needs to change visitation, either July or Sept. Sounds like he is not one to push and be there so up to you. Bring it to court and get it settled for the next 12 years or stuck arguing.

Because his kindergarten teacher recommended he attend summer school. And he was in regular preschool but I considered it daycare because the program he was in stunk.

Just one question....if he hasn't started kindergarten yet, why is he going to summer school?  If it's basically considered a type of daycare then, IMO, you might be in contempt if you fail to have him available for his father on the days he's currently CO'd to have the child.  Courts view school and daycare as two separate entities.

I may be all washed up regarding this...but that's the first impression that I had....

As for the rest (kindergarten and his demand that you homeschool), I agree with the other posters here....