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School has already sent emails to both parents stating "Please try to have child in school everyday, it is very difficult for child to catch up".  Eighty percent of days absent and 100% of days tardy have been on NCP's watch. NCP is very passive aggressive.

NCP pulling child out of school for dental appointments, not informing CP of whom dentist is, appointment or location. Possible contempt of order. It is not is kids best interest to miss school. Dental appointments should be scheduled for Saturday or days out of school.

Order gives NCP Thursday after-school until Friday after-school. Order also states child should must attend school everyday school is in session except in case of illness.
 
1) How can CP get school to stop NCP from pulling kids out of school? On day that is not  their day per the court order?

2) What type of letter can be sent to the school to stop NCP from pulling kid(s) out, unless due to emergency?

Socrateaser can you help me develop motion for contempt based on following>


1)Contempt regarding Court order to take son to therapist on her weekend

Has failed to consistently follow court orders regarding taking son to therapist on weekends.
   Her first weekend failed to take son to therapy. Did not call therapist to cancel or r   reschedule.

Her second weekend taking son showed up 25 minutes late for his appointment. Session is normally 35 minutes

Her third weekend to take him. Cancelled saying she was going on vacation.


2) Contempt regarding son is to see no other therapist besides court ordered therapist
   
Has taken son to see therapist other than court ordered therapist. Let therapist ask
   son questions and provide counseling to son


3)Contempt regarding vacation and custodial interfrence
Order states minimum of at least 4wks notice. Mother provided notice 7/25/2005 (email)that she wanted vacation for kids 8/21/05 through 8/26/2005

Father responded (email) that he has plans 8/21,22/05 and asked if we can work around those dates.

Mother responded(email) no she is sorry, she cannot work around those dates. What is so important that father cannot cancel his plans

Father responded he is sorry because technically she did not give 4 weeks notice and father expects kids to be returned at time specified in court order.

Mother states father will be waiting as she has followed court procedure.

Mother provided no itinerary, mother provided no address or number where she is allegedly vacationing. Father does not know when kids will be returned

(father will contact local authorities to document kids were not back at court ordered time)

4)Contempt regarding support.
   Support order dated 7/06/2005 order mother to pay child support in the amount of
   xxx every two weeks.

Mother has made no effort to support children per court order entered 7/06/2005

Child support enforcement did not start garnishing mother check until 8/05/2005

Mother is currently one month in arrears.

(support based on approximate income as mother refused to provide tax information, did not file taxes)

5)Contempt regarding contacting father
Court order states neither parent is to contact other parent at work unless it involves the immediate care of children. Neither parent is to call the others residence before 9am or after 9pm.
Mother calls father at work Wednesday 7/20/2005  @ 9:49 am remind me that I should tell BH not to expect child Saturday.

Thursday 7/21/2005 @ 3:33pm she called to tell me she picked up the kids from the summer program.

Friday 7/22/2005 @ 9:21am she calls to see if I got her message regarding child's appointment with BH.

Monday 8/01/2005 @ 9:24am

Tuesday 8/02/2005 @ 9:15am, 9:45am, 4:30pm for trivial matters

Thursday 8/18/2005 @ 11pm to say kids need items for summer  program trip in the morning

6)Clarification Needed by Courts:
   Clarify Right of First Refusal
Father also would like for right of first refusal to be clarified.   
Mother thinks it is an anytime right of refusal. She has refused to watch kids when father presents need to her to her. Father makes other arrangement and mother then goes to get them when she feels like it.

Clarify whether Summer Program falls into following Court order:

The parties shall share equally all expenses for extracurricular activities, tutors, camps, after school programs, music lessons and mandatory school fees

Summer program 2005 through Children's Association; (I will attached  pages describing program and activities)

Mother has consistently pulled children from program in order to try yo isolate them from associating with others
Mother claims children in a day care and she can go and get them anytime even if court order states her parenting time is Thursday after school until Friday after school.

Orders entered 7/15/2005 state:
   Parties Child (son) is to continue to be seen in counseling by B.Z ...  Son shall see no other therapist unless agreed to by the parties in writing or ordered by the court... Party then parenting shall be responsible for taking son to his weekend appointments.

During trial it was determined that Pre trail Judge ordered, 1/23/2004,  son to be seen by therapist B.Z twice per week with cost to be split 60% father and 40% mother. During trial in April 2005 it was revealed that Mother took son 2-3 times at the most during this 15 month period and failed to even pay her portion of the fees; while father took child consistently every weekend. Judgment was entered for B.Z. for fees owed by mother.


Mother has taken child to see therapist (Jane Doe) on 8/02/2005 in blatant disregard to
court orders

Mother failed to call, cancel or reschedule Son' weekend appointment on 7/23/2005
with B.Z

Mother continues to willfully and blatantly defy court orders.


Court Orders entered 7/15/2005 state "Neither parent shall contact the other at work except for matters regarding the immediate care of the children.

Mother has contacted the father at work in clear violation and defiance of court orders

Wednesday 7/20/2005  @ 9:49 am she called to remind me of the Convention they had and to that I should call for her and tell B.Z not to expect Son for his appointment.

Thursday 7/21/2005 @ 3:33pm she called to tell me she picked up the kids from the summer program.

Friday 7/22/2005 @ 9:21am she call and left message to see if I got her message regarding son's appointment with B.Z.

Monday 8/01/2005 @ 9:24am

Tuesday 8/02/2005 @ 9:15am, 9:45am, 4:30pm called for trivial matters

Wednesday  8/03/05 @ 2:30pm and left message that she picked up kids from program

* Petitioner asks court to enforce appropriate remedies

* Petitioner asks to be awarded sole custody by the courts




Clarification of Court orders entered 7/15/2005:

Order states "The parties shall share equally all expenses for extracurricular activities, tutors, camps, after school programs, music lessons and mandatory school fees"

Summer program 2005 through XXXXX Children's Association; see attached pages describing program and activities.

-Father required to place children in summer program and would like for court to clarify if
  summer program would fall within above provision of court order.

- Judgment in case rendered 4/29/2005 at the conclusion of trial

Mother consistently failed to provide proof of income relative to the calculation of child support in order to continue to drag out case. (support based on approximate income)

Mother's work schedule was 10pm to 6:30am Friday night through Tuesday night.  Mother provided information to court 7/06/2005, after orders had been drafted, that her hours were changed and new hours are 11pm to 9:30 AM , Sunday night through Wednesday.

Mother contacted father 7/17/05 informing him that he was to keep children that night and needed to make his own arrangements for in the  morning as she does not get off  until 9:30am. Mother knew father started work at 8am.

Mother's change in hours has indicated her rejection of first right of refusal option

Petitioner prays that court does find XXXX Summer Program does fall within provision of court ordered aforementioned.

Mother has consistently pulled children from summer program in order to isolate them from associating with others. Pre trial judge previously ordered , 3/2004, children (ages 9 & 7) to be placed in school.


Socrateasor:

We are still within the 30-day period from date order entered until final order becomes final

1)   Is it prudent to rock boat before final order becomes final as I am certain there are things   
      mother would like changed also?

2)   Can motion for contempt be filed based on above information? Should I wait until 30 period is up? What remedies are normally asked for/should be asked for?

Letter sent

Letter sent

Socrateasor can I email you. I need help with wording a letter

Socrateasor can I email you. I need help with wording a letter

Court order states" "Parties Shall equally share all expenses for extracurricular activities, tutors, camps, after school programs, music lessons and mandatory school fees"


Other parent changed hrs from getting off at 6:30am to 9:30am but still somehow thinks they have the right of first refusal, which court order specifically states "shall not be left with baby sitters".  I needed someone to watch the kids at 7:30am till...

It was necessary to place kids in a Summer Program which is in all respects a day-camp; socialize, relaxing, swimming, cooking, arts &crafts, games, field trips, special events, playshops,sports, pursue small and large group interest.

1)Does the summer program fall into the court ordered mentioned? How would you argue that it does?





Order also states "party parenting shall be responsible for taking minor child to xxx(therapist) to child's weekend appointment" .

2)When other parent does not take child what options and remedies should be asked for?

Socrateaser, can you review the attached letter. I'd like to stop therapist who is an LCSW/ACSW from providing continued services to minor children.

Can I also request that she provide copies of their records or forward them to another therapist?



Dear Ms Therapist:

I am revoking any authorization or informed consent, as of the date of this letter, for any services you are providing to xx (minor) and xx (minor) and asking that you cease providing any and all services.

I do believe a conflict of interest existed and continues to exist regarding the above mentioned individuals. The conflict was even more pronounced once you voluntarily turned out to be a witness, specifically for one party(mother), in a custody trial and dissolution of a marriage.

According to the code of ethics of the National Association of Social Workers, which the IL Chapter has adopted, section: 1.06 Conflicts of Interest states:
(d) When social workers provide services to two or more people who have a relationship with each other (for example, couples, family members), social workers should clarify with all parties which individuals will be considered clients and the nature of social workers' professional obligations to the various individuals who are receiving services. Social workers who anticipate a conflict of interest among the individuals receiving services or who anticipate having to perform in potentially conflicting roles (for example, when a social worker is asked to testify in a child custody dispute or divorce proceedings involving clients) should clarify their role with the parties involved and take appropriate action to minimize any conflict of interest.

Again this letter constitutes my revocation of my authorization and informed consent as of the date of this letter for you to provide any services to the above named minors
 

Sincerely

Socrateaser , there was a template or sample letter on one of the boards that could be sent to a therapist in order to get them to stop providing services to a child.

Can you direct me to the content or post for my review?


I would like to revoke my authorization and for this LCSW/ACSW to stop providing services to my child. The LCSW/ASCW was a witness for the mom yet allegedly provided indiviadual therapy to daughter.  Seems to be a significant conclict of interest. I would compare it to an attorney who represents one parent and the child at the same time.