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« on: Nov 06, 2011, 12:04:04 PM »
thanks for your reply OCEAN.
the day I left, I called Child support and they said the case could go on and it might be difficult but doable. They said nothing was done yet as it was a pretty new case so basically he only got a ltter of intent and they were still trying to calculate earnings before srving him. I was told he could contest paternity and w might need a DNA and I would have to take baby.
So that is how the case was left. I didnt close it as even though it could bring custody issues, I feel it might be the best way to protect out child.
I knoe CA is 50/ 50 and I am not only out of the state but out of the country but honestly speaking, the father has not provided anything in 4 months, not even a diaper and not even a caring message not even when he knew his son was at NICU.
His sisters are angry at him not at me for moving as they know as mothers how imporant it is to feel lovd and accepted.
I can contact the father by email and I have sent him updates but he never responds.
Before leaving I was able to text him to a skype or google number as I know the number he provided me with is not his cell ph and I dont have his house number
I know some people on this list blame me for leaving but what kind of environment was the father providing his son with? lies and no love at all
I have been very nice to paternal side of the family.They havent asked for a physical address but they have emailed me and enjoying gtting photos.If they want to visit, they are welcome to
father said that I will see him again.You see, he says you will see me..he does not realize I am interested in his son seeing him not in us seeing each other
the last day I was in the US, the father texted me that he wanted to come by. I told him that I was running last errands but that the baby was home with the nanny and she could assist him changing him and feeding him. He did not show up.
I am not angry at him and I am trying to stay open without generating hard feelings on any side
that´s why I asked for advice on this group