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Messages - foughtandwon

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Custody Issues / RE: Another Father Wins Custody
« on: Dec 05, 2005, 11:48:29 AM »
congrats
i feel your pain bout CPS thats how i won custody the first time but it also took about 2 years. they gove the BM 100's of chances to prove her self. it wasnt until i went to iraq and back that the started to look at me. since then i have kept in close contact and will be using them in the future to try and get BM rights cut off.


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Custody Issues / RE: how far do i have to bend?
« on: Nov 09, 2005, 04:45:52 AM »
well lawyer said dont worry about, said that BM is now making a obvious patern. she never returns child on  time. Always has an excuse as to why not. She also failed to have all documentation to be used in court submited on time.

now to see if she pays the price to change the ticket or if she just gives up visitation.
I am i wrong here in thinking that if she misses this visit she pretty much shows her true face to the judge?

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Custody Issues / RE: how far do i have to bend?
« on: Nov 07, 2005, 02:33:12 PM »
well there was no way i could pay for a full eval.
i did find a pshyc that had mercy on me and spent 2 hours with the child. i hope that is enough to over turn what her therapist said. her therapist has a masters the one i used holds a phd.

the report hasnt been made up yet but the doc is going to be there to testify

from my understanding a full eval would run about 5k

it would be hard to get him mopre time because of the 1400 miles between states.

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Custody Issues / RE: how far do i have to bend?
« on: Nov 07, 2005, 02:12:41 PM »
thanks hope the judge does think like that.

this is  temp custody order in trial is in first part of dec.

thngs were stacked pretty tough for me in the begining.
she has the better lawyer and had a therapist with a masters degree tell bad stuff about me.

on the other hand i got a head doctor with a phd in my corner to prove the child was being coched.

the only other strike i might have against me is...

when the hurican first hit i was devestated and faced with lawyer fees, custody eval fee, and of course the displacement issues so i strted to give up.
i told her we could settle out of court, she said what she wanted i said what i wanted and i told her to have her lawyer fix up the papers if i agreed i would sign them.
well of course what she said and what was on the paper was way off and really would have screwed me so i didnt sign it.

i just hope the judge can understand how hopeless i was feeling at that time. since then things have been going great. child adapted well to new school and is now back in his normal school

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Custody Issues / RE: how far do i have to bend?
« on: Nov 07, 2005, 01:15:10 PM »
sounds reasonable.
i turned over to the lawyer and she did about the same.
funny thing is.. she already got an extra day due to judges error. judge said wed the 22nd, well wed is the 23rd and of course the day that all schools let out. im sure thats the day the judge ment.

now to wait and see if she decideds to change the ticket or miss the visitation?

i just hope the judge doesnt think i was being an ass about things but i know if it was the other way around she wouldnt care



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Custody Issues / how far do i have to bend?
« on: Nov 07, 2005, 08:11:45 AM »
i post on here from time to time, here is the history of the case.
CPS took son from the mother and placed him on foster home. I was sent to iraq in the middle of all this. by time i came back the BM still had not complied with CPS case pln and as a result the trial went to a custody hearing. After a long trial i was awarded Sole legal and primary physical custody. In the one year since, the BM has filed two false reports with CPS and now has hired a lawyer to take this to trial again.


now the current case.
BM got the child to say bad things about me to a therapist. As a result the judge agreed to go to trial. After 2 weeks the judge finnaly decided to allow the child to return with me. the bad part was she also set 3 visitations 2 that i have to pay for a 1 that the BM does. As i get ready to go home ( i live out of state, which makes things twice as hard)  Hurricane Katrina pops up and does her thing. well i live in new orleans and now in the middle of a custody battle i got this to deal with.  I get settled in an alternate location and enroll the child in school. Now the first visitaion i have to pay for. you can imagine the finacial toll all this is having. So my wife in wisdom was able to scrounge us a free ticket donated by a company that wrote it of as katrina refugee.
flight out was fine. return flight she called with all kinds of problems and eventully took him back home and changed the ticket for the following day. the next day she calls and says he is to sick to fly and the doctors says he has to wait 4 days to fly home. So now he is missing school. once he got back everything was fine until the other day. She called and asked if she could fly him out a day early and return a day late. I said no and that he would miss to many days of school. She complained that to buy a ticket on the specified days would cost her $1200.
So now at this point she is saying she bought him a ticket and that its on me to put him on the plane.
serioulsy though should i have to bend and allow him to leave early and return late? its not that i dont want her to have him. its just school is hard enough with all the missed days due to hurricane, i really dont want him to miss  more and have to work through the summer.


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Custody Issues / RE: custody evaluation *help*
« on: Aug 05, 2005, 01:00:51 PM »
you have one thing going for you and that is the state your in

AZ even though it says other wise heavily favors the mother.
yes i know this cause im about to enter into a custody battle again after being awarder custody almost a year to the day. the mother has made numerous false claims and has finally found someone that wants to believe her.

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Father's Issues / another win for me, or i think
« on: Dec 05, 2005, 11:21:58 AM »
i was awarded sole custody 1 1/2 years ago. since then the mother has made 2 false reports to CPS against me. neither resulted in a case. then on her last visit she decided to tke it to court and got and emergency visittion order and etc etc etc...............

well we finished up last week and i again have custody. but she does still have visitation and i gave her joint legal, i also have to pay have of transportation cost up to a $$$$ amount.

we settled this in mediation cause her lawyer knew she had nothing. i was upset about the joint legal but my lawyer said we could fight that in court but she would probably get it anyway.


so for now until she tries this again, i retain custody.


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Father's Issues / things like this remind me of how lucky i am
« on: May 26, 2005, 02:03:10 PM »
just have to vent a little for a coworker of mine. he was involved in a prety tough custody battle and from what i saw did everything right. addressed special needs of the child, doucumented everything possible and was clearly the better parent in the case. drove out of state to finish up the custody hearing and got shafted big time. Seriously this should have been a walk in the park for him. The BM had a history of reckless behavior and even had a dui and assult charges against her during the case. still the father got the shaft big time.
makes be remember just how lucky i was was to gain custody of my son.

any idieas on how to cheer him up?

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I am well aware of my recent luck.
i started reaserching as soon as he was born and as we all no a father seeking custody better have a damn good reason.

I was lucky cps got involved, that way i got a court appointed lawyer.

i wish the bm was even open to trying to set a parenting plan. i know everything i offer will be thrown in the trash. we tried to come up with a parenting plan with her therapist but that was a joke. her therapist must have thought i was an idiot cause she miswrote everything i agreed to and then brought her husband in as the notary.
sorry but hat just didnt seem right.
i wish i could go back to court but i really dont have the money for a lawyer.
i could see if she was willing to agree to something but ii know she is going to contest eveything. and that is going to run up the lawyer fee's
heck in the begining of this i offered her joint custody and she threw that in my face.

her lawyer is just as bad as she is and was always being corrected by the judge.

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