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#51
Father's Issues / RE: cool
Sep 28, 2004, 11:48:15 AM
oh she did more than that.
man half the stuff she said while on the stand was crazy. it got to the point that all the lawyers involved would get together after our time was up and laugh about the things she said.
just an example of some of the things she said:

"i think this sucks cps wants me to be an old maid and stay home with the kids instead of going out to party"

"that guy isnt in my life anymore. I'm engaged to a guy in prison"

"It's to much trouble for me to change my phone number, everybody i know already has the old one"

and it goes on from there but thats not the point. the main thing is that i now have custody of my son as was able to walk him to his first day of school
#52
Father's Issues / it is possible to win
Sep 27, 2004, 11:37:25 AM
hello to all
I have been reading everything in this site and many others for a while now and finally had something to post.

after 5 years since my son was born and 1 1/2 years in court i have custody of my son. so for all the fathers out there who seem to have the world against you keep your heads up it is possible to get custody.

a little backround on the case if anyone is intrested.
BM would allow some visitation when ever i flew home(i'm military)
once she found out i was married then she cut off all visitation.
I called a lawyer and got the "the best you can hope for is visitation" speach.
fast worward to april 2003 i was 2 days away for going to Iraq when i get a call that the state of AZ has custody of my son.
turns out the day care called CPS because of some concerns and they took the kids (my son and his half sister)
talked my commander into letting me stay behind for a bit to take care of this.
after i few calls it felt like i hit a brick wall. CPS said the first priority is to get mom and son back together. after pestering them for a bit and letting them know i want custody they gave me a few task to complete. parenting classes etc. did as much as i could and had to play the witing game cause BM had to be given time for her to complete her CPS task.
so i got on the first plane to kuwait, a few short hops and i was back with my unit and in Iraq.
at the end of deployment case was still going on and mother and started to slip up a bit. luckily i was there and still proved to be the better parent.
well to make a long story short BM messd up on numerous occasions and finnaly the judge awarded me sole custody and her resonable visitation.

so hopefully this will give some fathers out there a little hope
from my research AZ is one of the hardest states for a father to get custody