I live in Ohio
I had my son at a neurologist for an intial diagnose and then from there, I went to a genetics counseler who referred me to a developmental pediatrician. The last wo are at teh same hospital that comes greatly accredited. I have my son in therapy for over 2 years and had alwasy taken him to any doctor appointment required or needed. The mother is not fully invovled and only takes him in the summer when our vistation schedule changes. She never asked to take him to a doctor nor has she even called to get any information from any on person involved except one time when it was 2 days before court. (you can figure that one out!)
How this happened was through my son's school. The teacher suggested this agency because of the services that they may be able to help me find that the school could not provide. I only agreed because at the time our custody trial was just beginning and I guess I was trying to do good and make sure my son got what he may need. I feared a conflict of interest though, because my ex use to work for this agency and now works for another.
Rather than go over this agian, the Social Worker fired was pushy and demanding that I get services for my son through their agency. I kept declining as well as asking too many questions that only made teh SW more testy towards me. She defiantely has a way of making me feel guilty if I do not listen. I pretty much refused completely based on what I researched and learend about services they provided. This upset her. Although my son gets Medicaid as a suppliment to help with the cost of therapies that his primary insurance will not cover, I was never required to have a SW be appointed.
My ex, joined the bandwagon and wanted to go along with the Social Worker for obvious reasons that two people of "power" are better than one. It got nasty when the Social Worker came to my home for a visit and preceded to admonish me on how I act towards my ex because she read the letters I sent to her trying to communicate our son's issues. (BTW-that was the only way to communicate to my ex, she to this day still does not talk) I never called her names or swore but the SW deceided that I was condensending and arrogant. She preceded to tell me that if I took this to court that teh judge would look at the letters and I would lose period. Apparetly this SW also read all the court documents and GAL reprot as well as teh Pscy Eval from what I am gathering.
Then at school in front of a teacher and teacher's aide, she again got into an argument with me over my stubbroness. She actually have the nerve to tell me that my ex has the same decision making right as I in our state because we have shared-paernting yet it is stated that I hvae those rights. I mean it goes on and on. Bottom line was that I wanted my ex to discuss any decisions or requiest she may have with the services the SW wanted to do before agreeig and becasue she would not speak to me, I made the decision tomove forward.
I should have follow my gut instinct by not havign an agency invovled becasue I knew there would be trouble. Problem is that this SW and teh agency supervisor are on the bandwagon to have her reinstated for services and make teh mother have the decison making rights over our son.
I guess your right I should not worry only because my son has excelled greatly from the efort I did to get him what he needed for development. I was very instrumental as teh mother was not involved. She can tell the judge she was never asked or shut out, but I belevie in any sense a loving parent would get involved regardless for their child. (our psych evals showed the mother to not want rights or responsibilites of rasing our son but yet the GAL ignored it)
I could see being scared if my son was doing terrible or not developing at a normal rate or progressive rate, but he has come way more than a 360 degree turnaround. And actually, since the SW has not been around, things are better! BTW, I do have letters qand documentation proving my decisons were benefical to the well being of my son.
Any input you may have is greatly appreciated! And Thanks!
I had my son at a neurologist for an intial diagnose and then from there, I went to a genetics counseler who referred me to a developmental pediatrician. The last wo are at teh same hospital that comes greatly accredited. I have my son in therapy for over 2 years and had alwasy taken him to any doctor appointment required or needed. The mother is not fully invovled and only takes him in the summer when our vistation schedule changes. She never asked to take him to a doctor nor has she even called to get any information from any on person involved except one time when it was 2 days before court. (you can figure that one out!)
How this happened was through my son's school. The teacher suggested this agency because of the services that they may be able to help me find that the school could not provide. I only agreed because at the time our custody trial was just beginning and I guess I was trying to do good and make sure my son got what he may need. I feared a conflict of interest though, because my ex use to work for this agency and now works for another.
Rather than go over this agian, the Social Worker fired was pushy and demanding that I get services for my son through their agency. I kept declining as well as asking too many questions that only made teh SW more testy towards me. She defiantely has a way of making me feel guilty if I do not listen. I pretty much refused completely based on what I researched and learend about services they provided. This upset her. Although my son gets Medicaid as a suppliment to help with the cost of therapies that his primary insurance will not cover, I was never required to have a SW be appointed.
My ex, joined the bandwagon and wanted to go along with the Social Worker for obvious reasons that two people of "power" are better than one. It got nasty when the Social Worker came to my home for a visit and preceded to admonish me on how I act towards my ex because she read the letters I sent to her trying to communicate our son's issues. (BTW-that was the only way to communicate to my ex, she to this day still does not talk) I never called her names or swore but the SW deceided that I was condensending and arrogant. She preceded to tell me that if I took this to court that teh judge would look at the letters and I would lose period. Apparetly this SW also read all the court documents and GAL reprot as well as teh Pscy Eval from what I am gathering.
Then at school in front of a teacher and teacher's aide, she again got into an argument with me over my stubbroness. She actually have the nerve to tell me that my ex has the same decision making right as I in our state because we have shared-paernting yet it is stated that I hvae those rights. I mean it goes on and on. Bottom line was that I wanted my ex to discuss any decisions or requiest she may have with the services the SW wanted to do before agreeig and becasue she would not speak to me, I made the decision tomove forward.
I should have follow my gut instinct by not havign an agency invovled becasue I knew there would be trouble. Problem is that this SW and teh agency supervisor are on the bandwagon to have her reinstated for services and make teh mother have the decison making rights over our son.
I guess your right I should not worry only because my son has excelled greatly from the efort I did to get him what he needed for development. I was very instrumental as teh mother was not involved. She can tell the judge she was never asked or shut out, but I belevie in any sense a loving parent would get involved regardless for their child. (our psych evals showed the mother to not want rights or responsibilites of rasing our son but yet the GAL ignored it)
I could see being scared if my son was doing terrible or not developing at a normal rate or progressive rate, but he has come way more than a 360 degree turnaround. And actually, since the SW has not been around, things are better! BTW, I do have letters qand documentation proving my decisons were benefical to the well being of my son.
Any input you may have is greatly appreciated! And Thanks!