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You've mentioned 'sociopath' a couple times....since you've been in court, have psych. evals. been done?  If not, it may be something you might want to consider....

Yes!!! Actually this is what I have been wanting to do.  I thought I asked this issue in other topic, had to find it.  Will it cost me?  His lifestyle, manipulation, lies covered with lies all throughout his relationship with me and others describes a sociopath.  All the checklists matches him.  Any advice how to emphasize this matter to the court?

Thank you very much.

Please note he has 6 children from 6 different women.  Ages, 20,20,18,14,4,1,and 2 1/2 month old.  He owes child support from 2 kids, the other 20 y/o n the 14 y/o.  Now he babysits the newborn. 

Thank u.  Yes, I had a meeting with her special ed teacher after the school orientation and I went also to the school district so update my info.  I questioned the teacher in the beginning and she looked at me like it was not a big deal.  And this is what he was doing since she started school in feb/March.  I trusted him so much when it comes to our daughter in this school but never expected my name would never be included.  I also suspect he badmouths me with her teacher and aides since I got a different treatment and approach during the parents orientation. 

But nevertheless, I donated the class stuffs listed on the 'wish list' and that was appreciated and the teacher gave me a separate whole packet for me to fill out.  And that time, she asked me questions on what I do.  I thought I gained the respect back...for whatever reason. 

Again, I will make sure this issue will also be included in the pending court hearing. 

Since the SSDI money is for your child and will be in your child's name (with his name so he can cash check or have it direct deposit) they will not garnish it for the other children. That money is specifically for your child only and not income to him.

You are worrying about the other child support. Not your concern if he owes money to the other children's mother. But to answer your question, here, usually you have to owe a lot to get your license and passport taking away, however when he went to court, he probably made a deal to keep it and made one payment.

You will have to file a petition and add it to this court case to deal with the SSDI money and how it will be split. SSDI will give it to the parent who the child resides in the most throughout the year.

I do understand that it is not my concern if he owes money from other mothers but the fact that he filed for child support from me thru CSSD when CO in April denied that issue, made me think of the crooked system.  If in case I will end up paying child support which I guess will be more than a grand basing on my income against him who refuses to seek work and register his childcare despite of the CO that he is asked to register within 6 months(6months will be October) or find a full time job....I will end up like paying a sitter(that's him) to take care of my daughter when in fact I, as the mother is available wholeheartedly to provide, feed, take care and nurture her own daughter, give her the best care and future. 

With how me and the other moms have been thru, supported him, helped him that we did not even know we were all involved around him...at the same time...who could allow him to still get what he wants?  He would do everything to get money, with his manipulation, sweet words of promises, we were all dealing with the same man,with the same pattern of living, until it was that time to realize he was not building a relationship with anyone but keeping us around for his wn benefit of survival. 

How can i request for a psychological evaluation without money involved?  Do u happen to know any info on this issue?  Despite of all, he had no remorse at all.  He lied so much even in the eyes of the judge. 

Another question.  How can i monitor that his compliance to this court order?  Who will check and how?

I have two daughters and I don't want them sleeping with me for fear that they will take all the covers. The father here should not be sleeping in the same bed with a young adult. Granted my daughters and I have all laid in a bed during a nap or watching television but this is not every day. If he lacks the room at the very least a separate bed but in the same room. Does it really matter that he is African? We are in the United States and tolerance of another culture does not mean acceptance.

I do not believe you can obtain a court order for the 18 year old but definitely the 4 year old with a court order to modify or petition for parental conduct.

Thank you so much.  This really relieved me.  I will definitely add this one up.

Child should have own bed and that is what child protective services will tell you to. Not their own room, but own bed. Have it court ordered, child will have own bed in both houses.

Thank you.  This is very helpful.  I will definitely have this critical issue added.  I knew him since his child was only 12.  I knew this was not normal but I never questioned or was scared to be criticized especially from a sociopath. 

Baby daddy still does this practice with his 18 year old daughter.  Now it freaks me out that it will also happen to our daughter, 4 especially she has mild autism and cannot really relate anything but sees everything as 'normal'.  He is african american descent so i really have to know if this is culturally-related.

I have so many worries since he has primary custody.  I have her every other weekend, extended from friday evening to Monday AM and all summer, she's with me.  I do not wanna suspect anything but i have seen he grooms more of his 'girls' children more than the boys.  It is weird and bothers me since the CO was made in April.

Suggestions and advice are needed on this issue.  Pending court hearing....

 I discovered that the father of my child did not include my address and phone number in our daughter's school paper.  He wrote down, "don't know" on my address and "none"  on my phone  number.  We have joint legal custody.  My question is, is this some form of parental alienation?  And now that he has her most of the time during school days, I know I will have less chance of talking to her as well.  He already warned me about this how he will do the same thing.  He was building a case by which I NEVER denied him from speaking to our daughter, 4, with a mild autism.  He manifests sociopath syndrome and he will exploit, lie and will keep lying about things for his own benefits.