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#121
ok so got a passport for my kid

going to europe meet his family over Xmas
his mom signed me a letter that she is ok for us to go there

HOWEVER I SMELL SOMETHING FISHY
I have had many problems with my ex and that doesn't look like her to be "good" to my european family.

Our divorce state that we can go as long as she agrees but I am scared she will call the police on me.

Which I have the letter signed as a proof but they only look at it after procecuting you, ....

Anyway, what can I do to protect myself ?
Go talk to the police prior to the trip?
contact my attorney to give him the papers?

I just don't trust her, she is all about creating trouble
#122
Hi, I know this is kinda weird to ask this here but I would like to write a book about divorce, my storry and my ex wife storry,

I am not really looking for things like: "really hard to be published", or "your storry is the same as all of ours", ....

I am more doing this for me but I want to try to do a good job and so I have questions, things like: how many chapters, which font size to write it in, how many pages in a chapter, .....

I just have plenty of little questions like that and so I am looking for someone that can kinda mentor me.

Anyone knows  ????
#123
General Issues / buying a house after bankruptie?
Feb 23, 2004, 09:17:19 AM
Hey everyone,
Someone know when you can buy a house after you filed for bankruptie?
I know interests will be high but is there like a delay that you can't legaly buy house or you will need to pay bankruptie, ... things like that ?
#124
Hi,
Ex is saying that I had extra time last march with kid not planned.

This was spring break and I followed the school district schedule in her school district.
However she states that our child is not in school and it doesn't applie.

So yes I am ok but I am looking for like case law or somewhere where it says that using her school district is what to do?
The order just state: spring break odd with mom, even with dad, ... that type of things
#125
I am curious to know more about contempt (civil contempt).

Who filed one? did you win? were you filed upon? did they win ???
Any post or comments about your storry are welcome
#126
I posted on another state board but I want to re-post here.

Basicaly I re-re-re-re-re-re-read my divorce decret last night and court order and I can't find anywhere that says that I need the other parent approval to go out of my state (and even out of the USA).

I realise that it is better to have approval and I have it BUT I am trying to find where or what document says I HAVE to have her approval to go out of state.
#127
Visitation Issues / Mother want proof
Oct 16, 2004, 06:22:47 PM
ok so I am a US resident but not a US citizen. My kid's mother agreed for me to take our kid on vacation to Florida (other state) but she state that she would like a material proof of my return, a waranty.

So I said fine, I park my car in front of your house and you drive us to the airport

However here is the issue that I am comming to. I would like her to realise and take the responsibility for what she want and ask her to sign a contract that leave her liable for my car while in front of her house.

I have a garage and she doesn't so if a tree falls on it or a drunk driver hit and run, ... I want her to be liable.
Any example of such a contract I could use?
#128
Visitation Issues / what does it really mean?
Jan 21, 2004, 06:33:23 PM
Court divorce decret state:

Respondent shall be responsible for transporting the child from petitioner's residence at the commencement of parenting time, and petitioner shall be responsible for transporting the child from Respondent's residence at the end of parenting time.

Here is the question: I want to know if it says that I have to pickup my kid myself or if I can arrange for someone (like my parents) to pick my kid ????
#129
Hi,
I currently am in very good terms with my ex-wife.
I have our son 1/2 the time however my ex has custody (full and shared legal) of him.

Our son will start school in my school district this september.

The only sore point between us is the child support issue. I am quite tired of paying for her boyfriend's appartment and we do not seems to be able to reach an agreement to stop child support.

So here is my question. If my ex doesn't come to a non CS agreement I plan to go for custody of our son. Since right now I have him 50% of the time and I will have him even more when he is at school in my district the only problem I have is how to documet to make this a sure win?

our son is 5 years old.
Once he starts in my schooldistrict they (the county court) will not change him to another school district so that should be easy.

As I said, I am looking for ideas to document a sure custody win in the next 6 to 9 month.

Our son is already registerd through the schools as living with me (to go in my school district)


Again here I am not looking for a short term: "good luck you'll never have it", .. I have all the time in the world to document this, I just need to know what documentation works. Obviously me just saying our kid is with me and not my ex isn't enough
#130
Hi,
I have been on this site for over 4 years now and batteling with ex wife for time with our son for as much.

Over the years I got more time with our son to the point where now even though the order says she has custody, the parenting plan says 50/50
Every other week-ends and 1 night a week plus extra days every month, ...

I rescently got remaried and adopted my step daughter as my daughter (in my heart not on paper, her dad is not there) so I call her my daughter, our son calls her his sister, ...

For the past 4 month our son has came over in a more than usual need for cuddles (even before he always had a mother that is not showing her love with cuddles even though she loves our son deeply) to a point that he started to ask me why his mother loved him less than me.

Of course I said not less, same love but she shows it differently but she loves you, ...

But since last week, he started to have "separation anxiety" but very bad. keep in mind that he is in Kindergarten for a year now and never had "separation anxiety" before.

Today we had a meeting with his teacher, his mom and him and I to see if there was a problem, ... teacher said no, this happens when changes happens. However when it was time for me to go he would not. did not put a fit or whinning, more like simply crying from emmotions. went as far as saying thta he would prefer to go to my home tonight in front of his mother saying no, ....

I know you are all gona think I am taking my side of course but even though I tell him his mother loves him as much as she can, the bottom line is that she is never there for swimming class, at soccer practice she never shows up. the tooth ferry never comes to her home, my kid actually hide his lost tooth from his mom to bring them to my home and pretend it just felt. 5 years old, this is bad.


So I have to say that I am at a lost here.
I am a firm believer of 50/50 that even though she does drop him at her mom when she has him for the week-end that he is entitled to see both of us 50/50 but now he is hurt. It breaks my heart and I don't know what to do anymore.

Everytime I bring the subject to his mom that maybe she could spend 5 min to cuddle him more or maybe show up at soccer practice she think I attack her and says she is not a bad mother and end up missing the point.

We have done so many mediations with no results, ....

what can I do to help our son feel better. I cannot not show up at soccer or swimming lessons or stop giving him love. his new sister cannot not play with him, they love each other so much.

what can I do. please give me thoughts.
#131
Father's Issues / what's a father to do?
Feb 25, 2005, 06:18:54 AM
Hi,
Last night I discovered that my ex, picked up my kid at my place as it says in the order and then take him to her home (where her mother lives as well) put our kid in bed and 10 minutes after goes to her Boy Friend's home to spend the night (the grand mother take the kid to daycare in the morning).

I also discovered that on sunday, she works, noon to 8:30 pm and doesn't even bother comming back home to her mother's home where our kid is because he is already sleeping and prefer to go see her BF.

Bottom line is: why can't she then leave our kid with me ?!?!
what can I do for that? our court order state that I have the right of first refusal but it also talks about her having to ask me for 1st refusal if she can't take care of our kid for a day (technicaly she is gone for less than a day, ...)

any thoughts?
#132
Father's Issues / looking for letter template
Jan 13, 2004, 07:42:16 AM
Hi,
My divorce decret state that it's up to each other to arange kids pickup.
I am now living with girl friend for over 1 year.
I would like to have her pick up my kid since it's close to her work but I am anticipating that bm ex will put a fit so I am looking for a letter type to Ex to tell her GF will pick up kids and another letter type for GF to keep in her car in case police is called that would show that I give her all power for medical and all
Thanks