Chris,
I deal with this stuff all the time. My X married a lady with a huge family. They are wealthy and each of her parents ( they were divorced and remarried others) has huge luxurious lodges that the whole gang get together to party at.
There are ton of "cousins". I have a very small family. I have a nice home, but no vacation homes, no ATVs etc. That's probably casue I will be paying support for the next five years yet. I do have sibs for my NC kids as my second hubby and I went on to have two additional kids.
After doing this stuff for 8 years I have learned from my DD that there is one cousin she especially likes. My DD is 13 and so is the cousin. My D asked this year if she could go to thier X mas party cause this cousin would be there. I even chatted with the girl online.
I one upped them. I invited the "cousin" to MY house! And her dad and the grandmother refused to let her come! Now its on them. These girls saw that I wanted them to have time together. I had a plan where they could get together without my loosing any of my very precious time with my kids and the other side BLOCKED my efforts!
Now my DD sees who is the unreasonable party. I think she is getting the idea that they are pulling her away from her family here by telling her about these social gatherings. I gave my kids pocket calendars with all my visitation for 2006 highlighted. I told them those highligted dates were special dates for them and for me to be together. I told them that as members of this family they were need here when they are supposed to be here. i told them that if anyone invited them to soemthing on a date that was highlighted they could just say, " Sorry, I already have plans with my mom for that day. maybe another time?"
Good luck. DOn't let them rain on your parade with you DD.
I deal with this stuff all the time. My X married a lady with a huge family. They are wealthy and each of her parents ( they were divorced and remarried others) has huge luxurious lodges that the whole gang get together to party at.
There are ton of "cousins". I have a very small family. I have a nice home, but no vacation homes, no ATVs etc. That's probably casue I will be paying support for the next five years yet. I do have sibs for my NC kids as my second hubby and I went on to have two additional kids.
After doing this stuff for 8 years I have learned from my DD that there is one cousin she especially likes. My DD is 13 and so is the cousin. My D asked this year if she could go to thier X mas party cause this cousin would be there. I even chatted with the girl online.
I one upped them. I invited the "cousin" to MY house! And her dad and the grandmother refused to let her come! Now its on them. These girls saw that I wanted them to have time together. I had a plan where they could get together without my loosing any of my very precious time with my kids and the other side BLOCKED my efforts!
Now my DD sees who is the unreasonable party. I think she is getting the idea that they are pulling her away from her family here by telling her about these social gatherings. I gave my kids pocket calendars with all my visitation for 2006 highlighted. I told them those highligted dates were special dates for them and for me to be together. I told them that as members of this family they were need here when they are supposed to be here. i told them that if anyone invited them to soemthing on a date that was highlighted they could just say, " Sorry, I already have plans with my mom for that day. maybe another time?"
Good luck. DOn't let them rain on your parade with you DD.