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#71
Father's Issues / When is the right time to thow...
Last post by MixedBag - Jun 19, 2019, 06:37:50 PMThere are advocates of tossing all of your documentation once your child emancipates....and there are advocates of the need to preserve history because too often history gets re-written by alienators.... Well, I share another reason today NOT to throw it out that caught me by surprise. I divorced #2 in 1996 and did not ask for my last name to change. I kept it. Then 6 months later, I went to the local court to have it changed legally and pressed on with life. Well, today I find out that the VA doesn't have my current last name in their system correct in ALL of the different departments. I was active duty military, even retired under my maiden name, but this one flippin' office or department still has my former name. So I need a state ID AND divorce to show I was allowed to change my name. I said "But it's not in the divorce, can't you accept my passport, or my retired military ID,or my DDForm214?" He said NO, it has to be a court order. THANKFULLY, I'm anal when it comes to documentation -- and I had it handy in my "all about Iris" file...and I could send off a copy and now wait. But imagine if I had to contact the court -- 12 hours away -- ask for a record to be pulled that's over 20 years ago (which takes 3 - 5 business days) because back then, NOTHING was electronic.....
#72
Custody Issues / Re: GAL, legal complaint, DV i...
Last post by ocean - Jun 04, 2019, 04:17:10 PMWe went through this. Suggestion: File to have counseling court ordered for you and child. Find a therapist near you that is willing to take this on. Go see them first. Then file in court naming this therapist so that you can child can start to form relationship. Child needs outsider to help you without mom being there. Keep up with any visits you are allowed and just make a relationship for the two of you and not bring up mom. If child does, just answer honestly and move on. We fought the good fight and lost as mom PAS the kids to death. As child gets older and if you are still there, hopefully they will start to see mom true colors. If their is another incident with the school, ask them to get CPS involved.Sounds like the child may need counseling other than the relationship for you so maybe the counselor can use some time to deal with school/other issues too. Good luck!
#73
Custody Issues / GAL, legal complaint, DV issue
Last post by michelec3 - Jun 03, 2019, 10:58:46 PMI filed a motion to enforce parenting time. The judge pushed it off onto the child support hearing officer who laughed and said was he supposed to issue a bench warrant for my son when he was refusing to go? I told him that don was allowed to do whatever son wanted, mentioned other overly permissive parenting (I did not say that specifically) and ex had my son write stupid inaccurate things about me that "explained" why ex was not helping enforce my time, etc.
this was allowing son who was already expelled from 2 schools for sexual assault and solicitation with an electronic device to continue to do what he wanted.
I filed an appeal for that motion. It is now including the GAL who sided with abusive ex in the first place, made sure that no DV assessment was done, used coercive control on me and my lawyer - whose other client had this guy as a GAL also and in march 2014 said he tended to give custody to the parent who did not video tape the children (to prove abuse). Anybody know anything to do about this? I was supposed to get help from my lawyer after the trial to file a complaint against him - but of course nothing happened. Her other client had him as the GAL. Would filing my complaint now get rid of him? There are no rules for the GALs in this state that I know of. I cant afford a lawyer.
I am scared I am losing my son with the narcissistic dv behavior that the ex is teaching son. Already I only have him hours on Monday and some thursdays.
Anybody know someone who filed a complaint against a therapist for something that got their license revoked?
this was allowing son who was already expelled from 2 schools for sexual assault and solicitation with an electronic device to continue to do what he wanted.
I filed an appeal for that motion. It is now including the GAL who sided with abusive ex in the first place, made sure that no DV assessment was done, used coercive control on me and my lawyer - whose other client had this guy as a GAL also and in march 2014 said he tended to give custody to the parent who did not video tape the children (to prove abuse). Anybody know anything to do about this? I was supposed to get help from my lawyer after the trial to file a complaint against him - but of course nothing happened. Her other client had him as the GAL. Would filing my complaint now get rid of him? There are no rules for the GALs in this state that I know of. I cant afford a lawyer.
I am scared I am losing my son with the narcissistic dv behavior that the ex is teaching son. Already I only have him hours on Monday and some thursdays.
Anybody know someone who filed a complaint against a therapist for something that got their license revoked?
#74
Texas State Forum / Ex only exercising parenting t...
Last post by Candyland - May 16, 2019, 06:59:28 PMMy ex continues to exercise his parenting time with one out of two of our children. There's nothing in our divorce decree that says he can't so he keeps doing so and it is negatively impacting both our kids. Can I modify to enforce visitation to be with both kids? What are the chances the judge will order that change?
#75
Georgia State Forum / Parental alienation from guard...
Last post by Hwilliams28 - Apr 30, 2019, 01:22:00 PMHi my case has been extremely chaotic. Long story but most recently.
I have filled moitons for contempt and modification because my aunt the guardian has chosen to completely alienate me from my 3 kids. The 2 older ones still communicate through FB but if they get caught they get in trouble.
I'm awaiting a court date now.
Is there anything else I need to do before court that would help me out. ?
I have filled moitons for contempt and modification because my aunt the guardian has chosen to completely alienate me from my 3 kids. The 2 older ones still communicate through FB but if they get caught they get in trouble.
I'm awaiting a court date now.
Is there anything else I need to do before court that would help me out. ?
#76
Chit Chat / Re: Just passing through, don'...
Last post by Waylon - Apr 13, 2019, 03:42:36 PMYou're welcome to post stuff here if you like, within reason.
Quote from: Tombo on Apr 13, 2019, 02:57:32 PMI'm curious who actually reads this. If nobody replies to this, I will start using this post as my own personal social media site for me and my friends, since it appears this section of the internet is pretty quiet.
Speak now or forever hold your peace:
#77
Chit Chat / Just passing through, don't mi...
Last post by Tombo - Apr 13, 2019, 02:57:32 PMI'm curious who actually reads this. If nobody replies to this, I will start using this post as my own personal social media site for me and my friends, since it appears this section of the internet is pretty quiet.
Speak now or forever hold your peace:
Speak now or forever hold your peace:
#78
Custody Issues / Re: Ugly Custody Battle
Last post by ocean - Mar 29, 2019, 02:28:43 PMTry not to stress over all of this....just keep texting or emailed offering times to see son. Then your lawyer can use the texts or emails to show you tried to get dad to come for a few visits to meet son again. No response to any craziness is necessary. Just ignore and keep as evidence. Let all phone calls go to voicemail where he can leave a message. What did the principal say?
#79
Father's Issues / Re: Trying to figure it out
Last post by timothynates - Mar 28, 2019, 10:34:37 PMHiring a very good lawyer is very important in dealing with divorce. A Gold Coast family law lawyers is very good in dealing with family issues in your interest.
#80
Custody Issues / Re: Ugly Custody Battle
Last post by MommyShark616 - Mar 28, 2019, 05:22:00 PMNext court date is June 17th.
We've been offering to invite him when we go to sports practices and fun plans on the weekend when we have them and he refuses to do it if he can't take the child with him afterward. And when we try to reason and let him know that it could be scary for our son and he screams and stomps and threatens to come to my house.
His wife drives him around and lives with him, and they were both able to go into the school without notice even though the parent handbook states they must have 24-hour notice with approval from the school. They were still able to come in. His wife is also not on any cards/birth certificates/forms so she should have never been allowed in the first place.
I have a meeting with the principal tomorrow anyway to get records for the court case and my lawyer, so of course, I have my list of questions for her when I get there.
His last apartment had a second bedroom but no bed. at the time our son was still co-sleeping but one night he came back and told me he slept on the floor so I brought it up with his father and he just screamed at me for "doubting him as a parent" since then they have been evicted and filed for bankruptcy so I actually have no idea where he is actually living. The apartment listed on the case is the one where the eviction was filed and he signs all of his money orders with his attorney's address.
We did have a plan in place initially where he would go Friday-Saturday but that was back in 2014-15. He would skip visits or decide to drop our son off at weird hours of the night or early in the morning. He eventually stopped contacting me for visits. There hasn't been a plan since he stopped attempting to contact me about it. I ignore most of his texts because he sends me messages like "Hey gorgeous" or "I miss you" and I have no time for that BS.
We've been offering to invite him when we go to sports practices and fun plans on the weekend when we have them and he refuses to do it if he can't take the child with him afterward. And when we try to reason and let him know that it could be scary for our son and he screams and stomps and threatens to come to my house.
His wife drives him around and lives with him, and they were both able to go into the school without notice even though the parent handbook states they must have 24-hour notice with approval from the school. They were still able to come in. His wife is also not on any cards/birth certificates/forms so she should have never been allowed in the first place.
I have a meeting with the principal tomorrow anyway to get records for the court case and my lawyer, so of course, I have my list of questions for her when I get there.
His last apartment had a second bedroom but no bed. at the time our son was still co-sleeping but one night he came back and told me he slept on the floor so I brought it up with his father and he just screamed at me for "doubting him as a parent" since then they have been evicted and filed for bankruptcy so I actually have no idea where he is actually living. The apartment listed on the case is the one where the eviction was filed and he signs all of his money orders with his attorney's address.
We did have a plan in place initially where he would go Friday-Saturday but that was back in 2014-15. He would skip visits or decide to drop our son off at weird hours of the night or early in the morning. He eventually stopped contacting me for visits. There hasn't been a plan since he stopped attempting to contact me about it. I ignore most of his texts because he sends me messages like "Hey gorgeous" or "I miss you" and I have no time for that BS.