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Daycare Issues

Started by Luving StepMom, May 10, 2005, 10:59:53 AM

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Luving StepMom

My DH has joint legal custody.  We filed for a change of custody last summer and SS's daycare was contacted during the course of the custody evaluation and they also testififed for BM at the trial.  To make a long story short, the Assistant Director at the Daycare (Montessori) lied to the custody evaluator and also then lied under oath.  She stated that BM was current on payments and had never been late, when we had the records showing BM had never been on time, and a letter from the director stating his account needed to be paid or he would be kicked out.  When we produced these her story changed, but by that point (trial) the recommendation had already been made by the evaluator and that played a huge part in the result.

So DH wrote a letter after trial to the executive director of the Montessori telling her how this person lied under oath, and also how she stated that DH has no rights to find out any information about his son.  The director called DH after receiving the letter and SUPPORTED the person who lied, stating that she was correct in saying he has not rights to find out anything about his son because he was not the custodial parent and his name was not on the enrollment forms (because BM didn't put it). DH offered to show her the divorce decree which says he has joint legal custody and a right to this information (about SS's behavior, records, etc).  She refused, stating it was not their "policy" to get involved in divorce situations.

DH told BM that he did not support SS attending this daycare that did not support him being involved and asked her to change. He found others and offered them and she refused.  He had always paid his portion (62%) directly to the daycare 30 days in advance. BM owed DH over $500 for past daycare that he had paid while SS was with us during the summers. So DH told BM he was not going to pay at Montessori until the amount reached the total she owed him if she was not going to switch.  This may not have been the right thing, and we know we could have taken her for contempt, but money is the only way to get through to BM.  So once the account was $415 past due she finally decided to switch daycares to one that they both approved of.

Which brings us to now... DH got a bill from the daycare.  They have sent it to collections in HIS name for this $415.  He has tried calling, writing letters, and even having our atty write letters stating they have no right to bill him when his name was not on the account.  They refused to have any contact with him when his son was attending there. Now they are saying that he owes this money.  His name is nowhere on this account, so legally how can they do this? Shouldn't they need to go after BM, and then she would have to go after DH?  They tried telling DH since he had paid consistently over time he had created a "contract" so they had a right to bill him.

My questions are:
First is it legal they are going after him?

Second, if we end up going to small claims DH would like to countersue the Montessori for having a director lie under oath (we can prove this). Is this slander or is there a law this would fall under?

Thanks in advance for your advice....