gotta vent.. I'm sure someone out there in sparc land understands!!

[mishelle2]

ok.. so my dh husband and I have 3 children, he also has 2 other children from 2 other relationships,, we had his son for Thanksgiving break who is 12, well his mother is an idiot and misunderstood what the court order says and called the police on my dh on friday, saying we refused to return child, police man (nice guy) read over the papers and told mom she is mis understanding them  and tells dh he is completely right in his assessment of the situation. ..

 so we think ok.. shes an idiot.. glad thats over.. then sunday comes and she shows up at our home on Sunday evening with her father, she calls from cell phone and demands child back because in papers it says thanksgiving goes from when school gets out to sunday evening at 830, then goes back to regular schedule. Well this particular weekend would be ours on regular schedule.. so child gets returned to school next day,   Well being an idiot again she leaves and goes to the police station.. and tells them same thing father is refusing to return child. .. Only this time police didnt even bother to call us, they just read the papers told her she is misunderstanding them..(CAUSE SHES AN IDIOT) and sends her home.
 She then calls dh and says well its late and Im calling my attorney in the morning and were going to change these papers.. AND IM THINKING.. HELLOOO IDIOT.. IN ORDER TO DO THAT YOU WOULD HAVE TO FILE TO MODIFY CHILD CUSTODY/VISITATION AND .... YOU CANT POSSIBLY DO THAT.. CAUSE WE WILL ASK FOR MORE THAN WE HAVE... OH MY GOD.. CAN THIS LADY REALLY BE THIS DUMB.. AND THAT IS AN ASTOUNDING YES.. .. SO WE SHALL SEE IF HER ATTORNEY CONTACTS OUR ATTORNEY.. UGH.. THANKS FOR LISTENING..

JUST WHEN YOU THINK.. OHH HAPPY HOLIDAYS.. LOL

[Ref]

if not, at least it was good for a laugh...... :)

Ref

[MYSONSDAD]

Got one just like her.

Mine tried to take 2 hours a week from me on her pick up day and ended up agreeing to giving me nine hours on my pick up day. Now, how much sense does that make? But, I came out ahead, so life is good.

If possible, go down to the station and get a copy of the reports, just as a reminder. Never know when they could come in handy. If anything else, give family and friends a laugh too.

 "Children learn what they live"

[Kitty C.]

Almost the same thing happened with SS about 9 years ago.  It was our 1st Christmas together and BM had no idea if we were spending it with my family or DH's, which obviously pissed her off.  So DH picks SS up on Xmas Day at the CO'd time, 10 am.  CO states DH gets SS in odd years at X-mas time on Xmas day at 10 am thru 2 days after at 7 pm.  When DH picks up SS, BM tells him if SS isn't back by 7 pm THAT DAY, she would call the cops. BS......

But DH fretted all day.....I then finally convinced him to let me call the sheriff's office (I have friends in 'right' places), talked to a deputy friend of mine, he felt we were reading the CO correctly, and I told him he would probably get a call from her.  At 8 pm, the call came over my scanner and my friend responded, then reported to dispatch that he informed 'complainant' to contact her atty. (who wouldn't be in his office for 3 more days, LOL!)  DH asked if the deputy would come to our door and I said NO, then he asked what happens now?  I said we have to go shopping for SS tomorrow, since she wouldn't send any clothes with him!  SS then went back to BM's at the exact CO'd time, 2 days after Xmas.

Three weeks later, we get a letter from her atty., threatening to take DH to court.  DH almost had a stroke, but I calmed him down and we constructed a response, informing the atty. that he better READ the CO and confer again with his client before he attempts to take this issue to court.  Obviously, once he actually read the CO, at least HE recognized along with us that she was completely nuts about the whole issue!

Idiocy knows no bounds in the world of vindictive exes......

[mishelle2]

well it totally sucks that I am not the only one who has to go through this crap.. I am not sure if officer even took report, since he contacted us over phone the first time and didnt contact us at all the second time, but I will check,, I thought for sure we would have heard from her atty,, and our atty was waiting.. :)..  but nope nothing.. she must feel like a complete jack ass..
 I mean for goodness sake who goes to the police station twice in one weekend and then is wrong both times and is sent home by police looking like an insane lunatic!!!..
WEll I wonder what we have in store for Christmas break.. lol.. since we have ss majority of break (13 nights straight..yeehaaa.. first time weve ever had him longer than a week...!!!!!!!)))))    Im sure she'll attempt something

[wysiwyg]

yup sounds like we all have our stories, ours was calling 911 because it was our weekend and she refused to give us the kids clothes, (ummm she called 911???) or her filings bacause of splinters in the childs foot, but I think the one that takes the cake (yea it is in writing) was when my DH's father passed away and we did not get the child due to being out of state and she refused to make up the weekend becasue .......................we did NOT GIVE HER 2 WEEKS NOTICE prior to the funeral to switch a weekend.  Gee guess my FIL forgot to send out the memo of when HIS funeral was going to be held so we could prearrange a weekend switch!

[mishelle2]

OH MY FLIPPIN GOODNESS!!!! SO.. the crazy.. lady just called dh to tell him something about a band performance, (which we all ready knew) .. acted like NOTHING HAPPENED!!acted like she didnt just call the POLICE on my dh TWICE just this past weekend... IS SHE FLIPPIN CRAZY????? NO APOLOGY FOR MAKING A COMPLETE a.. OUT OF HERSELF..  has she lost her friggin marbles???? my dh called me from work to tell me and he was so shocked all he could do was laugh... he was like I think shes lost her mind.. certifyable.. nuts...

ugh.. the nerve of some people

[gemini3]

Luckily we had no issues with ours on T-day, but had to see her in court on Tues.  She was taking my fiance to court for more child support because she's suddenly decided that what she's getting isn't enough (which mysteriously coincided with us buying a house).  There's been no change in circumstance, but she's doing it anyway.  So, when we got to court the case was continued because my fiance's lawyer couldn't be there.  She was so mad!  So her way of getting back at him was to e-mail him and say that he could only have the kids for a maximum of 48 hours on his weekends, because a weekend is a 48 hour period.  How pathetic is that?  It's unbelievable how these women behave.  

But, I guess that's why they're the ex's, right?

[mishelle2]

.. You should have your custody order modified to be more specific.. our states father has child from Friday after school, until monday return to school, if monday is a school holiday then father has child until school resumes.

Anywas heres an update... which I thought was funny.. kinda... So all this happens during thanksgiving break, then last wed we get a call from our atty, who is laughing ..first off.. :) he says bm's atty called him and they want to change the custody order, our atty says fax over what you want your changes to be and we'll review it.. So they did.. bm tried to change EVERYTHING..from holidays, to regular time to summer to pick ups and drop offs..and on bottom says EITHER FATHER AGREES OR WE FILE MOTION TO MODIFY, AND TEMP ORDERS IN COURT!! so our atty faxes it to us and says.. here you have to review this, but your gonna just crack up laughing cause bm is nuts if she thinks we'd ever willingly agree to any of this.  So we sent letter back stating what we would be willing to agree to and that rest of order stays same as it currently is, and that we are fine returning to court and mediation as there are a few issues dh would like to address anyways!!.. well that was Friday, and we havent heard a word from her atty, so I am wondering if her atty said look dumb dumb you have more to loose than to gain and lets just forget the whole thing.

so funny.. like we were just going to say.. oh sure Ill give up the time I have for you even though I have spent thousands of dollars to get what I have and yearly trips to court.. I THINK SHES CERTIFIABLY CRAZY!!!!

SO WE SHALL SEE......... MAYBE HER ATTY NEEDS MORE MONEY AND WILL TAKE US TO COURT AFTERALL..

[mistoffolees]

That is not uncommon. My stbx is the same way - she'll go ballistic and then act like nothing happened. We had an agreement in place for 50:50 physical custody of my daughter and then it snowed. She wanted me to shovel her driveway and I declined (she's completely healthy and capable of doing it). She started screaming that she was going to sue for custody because I didn't shovel her driveway (she actually did file for sole custody but obviously used a different excuse). Then, the next day, she was asking favors again and was upset because I wouldn't go out of my way to give her everything she asked.

[mishelle2]

AND THE SAGA CONTINUES!!!

Ok, so got a call at 8 am sharp this mornin from atty, he got hand delivered papers yesterday at 459 he closes at 5, bm wants to go to triage mediation on monday regarding this christmas vacation as she wants part of my time, and she said she will discuss other issues later. I think she may take the cake on dumbest female to roam the earth!! Our atty was calling her atty this mornin to say.. umm no.. it doesnt work that way, we will stipulate to return to mediation to discuss all issues not just the ones that work for mom.. So hes supposed to let us know if we have court on monday or not.. but I am sure we will.. I hope the judge sees that her only interest is herself.. noone else just herself.. So.. this monday.. please stop for a second and say a small prayer for the dad who just needs all the prayers he can get.. cause the judge we have in the past is pro mom..

thanks

[mishelle2]

well .. dh had court yesterday, and he WON.. mother was denied on her motion to take 1/2 of fathers christmas vacation, it was hilarious.. hate to say that but it was, they had there mediation triage in the hall and I was standing right around the corner cause the courtroom was too full for family to be in there .. so I got to hear the entire thing.. mediator told mom, she is unreasonable and always wants things her way and it doesnt work like that..then dh said, Ill show I am always willing ot compromise and Ill give her a midweek, but only one. Bm started crying that its not fair.. and she wont accept any less than 4 days.. then mediator  spoke to bms atty and said : Your client is unreasonable, to the point that I am speechless and said she will make a recommendation that they return to mediation to reevaluate entire parenting plan.. then they went in front of judge and bms atty said mother is not accepting mediators recommendation of one mid week visit, judge said too bad and that its not about what mother wants, its about this is dads time and its staying dads time, he then gave her  one mid week from 530pm to 9 am the next mornin!!!

I bout fell out of my chair.. it was funny!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

So back to mediation they go.. and were asking for 50/50.. we have nothing to loose...

thanks for listening..

[MYSONSDAD]

Even a small win, IS A WIN!

Go for the 50/50. Ex may have set a bad impression with the judge. You just never know.

"Children learn what they live"

[Mamacass]

Isn't it fun when they show their true colors in court?  I would much rather have her be reasonable all the time, but if she's gonna be a PBFH then at least let the judge see it.  
My SS's bM was ridiculous when we were in court.  She had such an attitude with our attorney that the judge stopped her at one point and  told her not to talk to our attorney that way.  BM honestly thought she was going to go in there and lie and come out smelling like a rose.  But we had done our homework, and our attorney was able to catch her in her lies.  After all the hell she's put us through I wish I could have been in there as she dug herself deeper.   I'll tell you, she's no rose.  If anything she is the thorn in everyone's side.
So take the memory of her making an A.. out of herself and keep it in your mind to pull up wehnever she gets on your nerves.  It may not make up for all she's done, but it sure is good for a laugh.

[dipper]

That is great  news!!  As someone else said, that is good for a laugh when you are frustrated over her mess......I love it when they flip out in front of others.    That tells more than we ever could...

[mishelle2]

Well all, we had SS for 14 of the 18 days of winter break.. he is almost 13 and that is the longest weve ever had him.. it was great..
when it came time for moms midweek, ss didnt want to go..  then when mother dropped him off the next morning she was hysterically crying.. I couldnt believe it I was thinking oh my god woman pull your self together.. he doesnt deserve the emotional dependancy you are placing on him.
Well anyways, after that long together ss told us last night that hed like to start coming over more regularly.. so.. I smell the winds of change.. I will pray very hard that his mother doesnt make him tell the mediator something different, but I truly believe everything happens for a reason.. she opened this case again, so maybe its gods way of showing her how life really works. Plus.. does she really think that the judge is going to change all our vacation periods.. when the judge is the one who hand wrote what she wanted them to be a year and a half ago.. lets see if the judge sees her for her true self..

mediation is in 2 weeks.. pray for the best recommendation.. everyone please..