We're in Arizona. BM
is in Colorado. BM and my husband were never married. My husband has primary custody of my SD
. SD is 9.
It is no secret that BM likes to play dirty. She lied during the last court hearing where she was accusing my husband and myself of abusing my SD. She was testifying for an hour and finally after examination and cross-examination the judge said he had heard enough and denied her emergency motion for custody because her testimony was "not credible" on several main points to which he pointed out the inconsistencies in her story to the court and also in the minute entry.
So SD goes to BM's this past week for a school break. I have posted before that BM has been constantly talking to SD about court and drilling her for information to use against us. BM told my SD that she is going to selling her wedding ring for money for an attorney to "win" back custody. So this weekend my SD gets back and we're driving home. During the drive home from the airport, I ask her the standard safe questions, "Did you have a good time?" and "Did you do anything fun?" Her answers are typical and I leave it at that, but my SD loves to talk and we have made it known, ever since BM has started telling my SD everything about court, she can ask us questions and talk to us about it if she wants, but we will never bring it up or drill her for information about her mother, etc.
So of course SD starts talking about the things her mother said:
1. SD said that BM says she will lie and do whatever it takes to "win" custody back because right now my husband is "winning".
2. SD said that BM has a story she has practiced on her other daughter and new husband to tell the judge.
3. SD said that BM told her she has to lie to the judge and whoever else she can in order for my SD to live with BM permantly. SD told BM that she can't lie and that it's not right.
4. My SD scratched the back of her leg right underneath her bottom on acupboard door a few days before she left for BM's house. According tomy SD, when BM learned of this yesterday on the way to the airport, BMhad my SD drop her pants in the car so she could take a picture of thescratch. BM told my SD that she was going to lie to the judge and saythat my husband hurt her thereby inflicting the minor injury.
SD has expressed to us that she wants to have time with both families. She doesn't like being in the middle and she doesn't like it when BM drills her for information about us.
We know that all of BM's recent attempts to call CPS
and the local law enforcement on us have failed. BM is grasping at anything she can to change custody
, and honestly I think she may have actually convinced herself and the people around her that SD is in real danger here and it is better for my SD to live there with BM.
We don't know what to do because this is getting out of control. Should we ask a judge to slap her on the wrist and take another parenting class. We're not even sure if that would help, but we know BM is out of control on this one.
Any input on my venting would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.