Hello everyone, I am new to the forum here and I am excited to tap into the wealth of information here.
Iwill try and be brief in explaining my story. My ex wife and Iseparated in January of 2008. We have 2 children under the age of 10.We started the divorce process with her having an attorney and I was onmy own. Baby Mama moved in with her parents and I moved in with myfather. The children stayed with Baby Mama. We had a verbal agreementon visitation, I would see the kids 2 days a week and every otherweekend. As months passed with no court action I eventually had thekids 6 days a week one week and 3 days a week the other week allovernights. This was somewhat forced into place by me because BabyMama was more interested in her new boyfriend and did everything in herpower to lie to me about where my kids were and who was watching them.Her new boyfriend is a piece of work with a rap sheet longer thanSanta's naughty or nice list. Somewhere in the neighborhood of 38 total hits, mostly traffic related, but he does have 4 domestics, a fewDWI/DUI's, and last but certainly not least a class D felony for FalseImprisonment and Intent to Harm. He basically kidnapped the mother ofhis child when she was 6 months pregnant, threatened to set her onfire, and dragged her across state lines. Luckily she escaped and livedto tell about it. The boyfriend has 2 kids of his own that he doesn'tsee or support. Oh and I found out that a month after we separated she(baby mama) contracted Herpes from her boyfriend whom didn't disclosehis STD with her before having sex with her. He knew he had an STD andhas passed it on to several other girls before my ex-wife.
Inaugust of 2008 Baby Mama decided she wanted to move to Texas with hernew boyfriend (he ran there when his baby mama threaten to take him tocourt for child support
). After about 2 weeks of talking about I agreedto let her go and move there if she left me with the kids. She agreedand had her lawyer draw the papers to reflect her move. About a weekbefore she was going to move her boyfriend moved back into town becausehe caught a warrant in Texas and Florida. She came to me and told methat she was no longer moving and that she had fired her lawyer andretained a new attorney. I hired a lawyer at this time and explainedthe situation and expressed my interest in filing for temporarycustody. He began gathering information (this took several months btw,as status date after status date passed). In April of 2009, her lawyerbeat us to the punch and filed for temporary custody and a childsupport order. I had been paying child support every week since weseparated. I turned around and subsequently fired my lawyer since hedid absolutely nothing during the time that I retained him.
Fastforward to the present, we were in court on Tuesday for yet anotherstatus date. I was presented with a Marriage Settlement Agreement and aJoint Parenting Agreement earlier in the week and Baby Mama and herlawyer were hoping that I would just sign the papers and be done withit. I changed several things that I had issue with in the papers andgave them to her lawyer. I am going to list the issues below:
1. The use of the word Primary in reference to her being the residential parent. - I removed the word primary.
2.I asked that if my ex is going to be the residential custodian that thechildren both have their own bed to sleep in. -My son has his own roomand my daughter is forced to sleep with her mother in the same bed. Herlawyer objected to that. He stated the court wouldn't decide on that. Ithen told him that the court might decide on that since she has a verycontagious STD and she sleeps in the same bed as my daughter, and mychildren have their own bedrooms at my townhouse.
3. I have askedthat wording be added to reflect that she cannot bring her boyfriend inthe prescence of my children at any time, regardless of their maritalstatus because of him being a felon.
4. Child support ends at their19th birthday. - Her papers put us both on the hook for educationalexpenses and misc expenses until their 24th birthday if they are inschool. They also extend child support until their 24th birthday. Herlawyer tells me that we do have an obligation as parents to pay forcollege should I children decide to go to college and that the wordinghas to be in the papers because the judge will order it anyway.
Those are the major issues that I brought forth and several smaller ones that are not relevant to this discussion.
Thequestion that I have for the forum is, are my objections out of line?Does her having an STD and a felonious boyfriend risk her being able tokeep residential custody of the children. I feel as though they shouldbe with me and staying with me. BM
will eventually attempt to move outher parents house (when she sucks them dry of money), and it will bethat time that she attempts to bring her new man around the kids andput them in danger. I have a feeling that he has already put his handson my ex, which she denies of course.
What is everyone's thoughts?
Oh, I live in Illinois BTW.