@ Heston. Don't let the threats of false allegations prohibit you from exercising your parental rights. That's why those kind of people make threats like that - it works for them.
We were dealing with false allegations as well. Here's what we did with the counselor we dealt with:
1. Requested a meeting with the counselor to dicuss child's progress. The counselor did not return calls to schedule the requested meetings. We made a total of 5 requests over a months time. Each call was made with cell phone, so there were records to prove that we had called her. (Strike 1)
2. Requested to take child in for a meeting with the counselor while the child was in our care. Again, ignored. Counselor refused to treat child when child was in father's care. (Strike 2)
3. Requested the child's records, got a letter from the counselor denying the request.
4. Told the GAL assigned to the case that we thought the counselor was biased against the father. The GAL called to get the child's records, and the counselor refused to give them to the GAL.
Long story short, it turned out that she wasn't actually keeping notes regarding her sessions - as is required by law. She was also double charging the insurance company - charging them for 2 visits per week when she was only seeing the child 1x per week. She did an abuse asessment on the child, which she was not supposed to have done, being only an LCSW. Her findings were that the child had been abused, but she did not report anything to DSS, as is required by law.
We reported all of this to the licensing board, and her license was suspended. The GAL "suggested" to
BM that she stop taking the child to the counselor, but there was no need, since the counselor reclused herself from the case once the GAL and the insurance company started asking for her therapy notes. She ended up creating therapy notes, and sending two seperate sets to the insurance company and the GAL. The two spoke to each other, and realized what was going on.
Then we took the child to a clinical psychologist who has done a lot of work for the court, and had him do an asessment on the child. The mother was invited to participate, but refused. The PsyD findings were that there was no evidence to support the allegations, and that the child appeared to have been coached to say specific things.
My guess is that your counselor will decided it's more trouble than it's worth if you start pushing her.