I am so thankful I can come here to vent....and hear some helpful words,
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We're coming upon three years since my son took his life, and three years with this hell with his ex, and upon a year with our current unresolved court case with our grandchildren. We have custody of older child (from diff mother), younger child every other weekend, NO holidays or make up time, 2 weeks summer. Dad was custodial parent of both prior to death. Mom of younger is doing everything possible to keep children apart from day 1. We Filed contempt last August, she denied our 2nd week, and several weekends. She has alienated child and told him many untruths. Child has come around somewhat. Misses sibling greatly and literally clings to sibling when together.....they both express desire to spend more time together. Because they spend NO holidays NOT even Fathers day together and there is no make up time, some months, there is only 1 weekend visit. Younger child has no phone, no email no facebook. Can call on mom's phone, but mom is right there, can be heard in background, older child not comfortable. Olderchild and stepmom had Bad relationship, documented verbal and physical abuse. She has invited older child over, child is not comfortable in their home...they do have a tattoo parlor set up in living room. Stepdad trashes me...claims he was close to me son and blames me for his death....they have told older grandchild he can live with them if it is too bad over here...his replay was why would i do that? God knows what they are telling younger gchild.
Mom set up in camera interview for younger. He told older he was telling judge he wanted to spend more time with him but did not care if he saw us very often. Judge can back with He loves brother and us, no problem and no reason with him spending more time here. Though that was good. They are moving 2.5 hours away allegedly for stepfathers job. He has always traveled, now they have to move. This year was going to be the first year the kids were in the same school, could see each other during the day, just the extra bit......Nest week is week one of vaca weeks. We WERE going out of state to visit his aunt. Mom threw a fit. Judge said we can take him anywhere we want. MOM still threw a fit. Our attorney can't get ahold of mom's attorney. We're not going only because there are forest fires where we were going and 2 of us have asthma...not good. We do live within and hour of 3 states,by God we may go to all three!! Older child asked attorney if younger child (11 years old) can choose where he lives) Attorney said no...he is stuck with mom. If we were Dad it would be different. I REALLY belive this woman has a mental disorder.....all of this behavior is documented in the report from my son's GAL in his relationship with her and her previous ex husband's relationship with her......wanting to move away, alienating the children, we haven't had sexual abuse yet.....but there is a proven history here of multiple times of each of these things.....Younger child tells us at home he is on computer playing minecraft or watching movies, or reading. Does not play outdoors, they live in a not so great area. Could not take his bike home, because it might get stolen. Mom only watches movies, so it is what he does...she does not like to play cards or board games with him. He was referred to psychologist
last April for ADHD, never was taken. We were all court ordered counseling, I went, no one else and no one seems concerned about it. Judge recommended he see a counseler because he has not dealt with his fathersdeath. Judge stated the child is all but screaming for help, like a valcano about to spill over. She WILL NOT TAKE HIM. What the Hell is Wrong with our system??? He is not allowed to deal with is fathers deathe becasue she does not want him to be sad. we have gotten screamed at by her for making him sad!!! Welcome to reality!!! I also believe That is not the only thing the kid wants help with.
WHAT DO I DO before I loose my mind again, while I still have the energy to try???
Thank you I just HATE our justice system and what I have experinced with innocent children. No one gives a damn about the best intrest of a child. NO ONe at all.